Met a girl a couple months ago and we got close very quickly. We ended up dating for a month and she broke up with me because we got into a few small arguments and ultimately said she’s not mentally ready for a relationship (I agree) and we broke up on a very good note. No ill feelings. But, I can’t help but feel that now that I’m not blinded by my feelings for her, there were some red flags

  1. She worked at a club on weekends and would go with her friends to bars/clubs very frequently during the week. Almost every night.

  2. She has some straight guy friends, one of which she met less than 2 years ago and is one of her best friends. I did meet him before and he didn’t seem like a threat but still

  3. This lead to the breakup, she posted a screenshot on her story of a text between that same friend where it started with him saying “Look at you being all mature and using big words. Someone’s getting mature. That’s hot” and she said something like “Look at me I’m finally growing” and he said “You definitely got something growing there, ma.”

  4. The same week of the breakup, what started it, she went to a restaraunt with her friends for cinco de mayo and she asked me to spend the night with her after. She basically lead me on, said she was almost ready for me to come over, then after an hour of waiting, I notice her location was off so I checked on her and she said she ended up going to her friends (girl) house and smoking. She turned off her location so another friend (girl) didn’t show up unannounced

  5. After I told her the next day I felt disrespected and brought up the location off, she did send a paragraph explaining herself and apologizing but basically shut down and became avoidant for the rest of the week up until our 2nd argument and then break up

  6. Says her memories get hazy when she’s drunk but is in control of her actions

    Are these actually red flags or just my own insecurities? I need to know so that I can navigate future relationships better.