Can you date if you live with your parents?

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VinnieVegas3335 · 2025-05-18T21:59:30+00:00

They are turned off by your insecurity about it. I am also 25 and had the same issue until i became secure about it. Times are tough there are a lot of people living with their parents, as long as you arent being a bum at home there is no reason to be ashamed of it. But yea most of my hook ups have met my dad first day 😂

Adribus · 2025-05-18T22:05:58+00:00

don’t make a fuss about this and don’t mention it first thing and it’ll be fine. girls are looking for men with ambition. if « my ambition is to move out of my parents place by [insert fixed soon-ish time] » most girls won’t care. but if you present it as an insecurity, they’ll be more easily turned off. as to bring the girl home, just go to her place, it’s funnier anyway

senseofphysics · 2025-05-18T22:18:15+00:00

Gone are the days where you can afford the American dream on a high school education and your savings in a certificate of deposit

entitledwank · 2025-05-19T00:30:39+00:00

at 25 you gotta grow up. work two jobs if you need to, but you can’t bring a 10 home if your going back to mommy’s place

number2chevyfan · 2025-05-18T21:53:53+00:00

Its gonna be tough for you.

almightybear1 · 2025-05-18T22:48:33+00:00

Just say you live with your roommate

CosmikDebris408916 · 2025-05-19T00:34:20+00:00

I'm older than you and surprisingly had zero issues. It's super expensive where I live so I'm batting 100% with my understanding rating lol it's a little iffy having to disclose tbh. Worse comes to worse, just say you rent a room from an older couple or something

Dismal-Revolution941 · 2025-05-19T01:15:23+00:00

If you are young have a full time job but still can't afford to get your own place most women will understand. You should be fine

-Twyptophan- · 2025-05-18T22:58:25+00:00

It makes logistics pretty tough

My results got 10x better when I moved out on my own to a city as compared to living in the suburbs with my parents. I can keep it as clean as I want, don't have to notify anyone when I have people coming over, and I can design it how I want. The living at home thing is normal in high school/college but afterwards, the priority (at least for dating) should be living on your own

Raknith · 2025-05-19T01:20:40+00:00

29M, live with my mom for multiple reasons. I pay all of my own bills and like half of hers. I pretty much gave up on dating.

Fun_Character1888 · 2025-05-18T23:06:12+00:00

I’m 38, live with my parents, am completely broke, and bang plenty of bitches. My last gf was a retired millionaire fwiw.

Throwaway_47595926 · 2025-05-18T22:46:35+00:00

Is that even legal?

Foreign-Spring9076 · 2025-05-19T00:07:35+00:00

Some people date people who are still living a spouse lmao. But as more and more of the younger crowd is resorting to living with their parents, I believe its going to be more common of a thing. But me personally absolutely not

PrinceDestin · 2025-05-19T00:57:11+00:00

I do it all the time

6107Kentucky · 2025-05-19T02:54:08+00:00

Hell yeah you can Wait till they go to sleep

AddLightness1 · 2025-05-19T03:51:10+00:00

Plenty of cultures enjoy multi-generational homes without threatening their masculinity. It's only a problem if you think it's a problem.

Cost of rent is astronomical everywhere right now. Most folks "on their own" either have roommates, or are barely getting by. I'm sure that some folks have huge incomes or gifts of property from family, but I don't think that that's the average experience.

unfortunately_real · 2025-05-19T05:22:39+00:00

Never lived with mine as an adult but had plenty complicated living situations making me unable to have people over.

Yes, you definitely can. Especially if you’re driving. Just offer to pick them up, that’ll naturally lead you to drop them off back at theirs at the end of the night and if you’ve been playing your cards right, they’ll end up taking you home with them more often than not.

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-05-19T05:45:45+00:00

No a bolt of lightning will strike you from above the moment you do, on the spot, palabra homie.

Lmao what do you mean or course you can? The logistics are ask your parents when they won’t be home and maybe even let them know about a lady friend that’s coming over, I would coordinate with your dad to keep moms clueless and away.

Or do what I do and have them meet your parents when they come over lol

SideContent8577 · 2025-05-19T06:20:33+00:00

Im 30F and understand the struggle. Personally, I don't mind someone living with their parents. What i do mind is when they can afford to live on their own, but choose not to. Either way, I'd still date them.

videogames_ · 2025-05-19T06:23:16+00:00

As a respect to parents, I would do is either get an airbnb for a day or a hotel. I've done this with girls on the 4th and 5th dates so that it isn't make it seem like it's cheap and easy. If she's horny she will go along with it.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2025-05-19T00:00:35+00:00

Nah nobody will want to date you really, its still considered embarassing. Sorry thats just the facts.

Throwawayamanager · 2025-05-18T22:13:59+00:00

do the logistics work

Depends. Are your parents the "cool parents" where you can just bring hooks ups or even hopefully long term dates home, say "hey this is Samantha we're fucking tonight" and have that not be awkward? Is Samantha expected to sneak out after fucking or sit around for an awkward breakfast with Mom and Dad the next morning after they heard the sex noises?

Are the majority of women turned off by it

Yes, for very good reason.

"Turned off" is about as lightly as you could put it.

What if you both live with parents

Then you can date like overgrown high school kids which is what that comes across as. Try to fuck in your car without being arrested for public indecency. You wouldn't be the first to do this, it's just embarrassing at 25+ instead of 17...

how long would you be expected to start finding your own place or move in together?

Those are separate questions. There's nothing wrong with moving in together if things are overall going well but that's probably not going to be a good move for your first relationship. Just statistically.

So your question really is "how long before you start living like an adult who doesn't need to introduce every new date to Mom and Dad and ask permission for them to stay the night", to which the answer is, yesterday.

real_belisarius_533 · 2025-05-18T22:55:01+00:00

20 yo and live with my mom. No girl has ever been put off by breakfast being ready when they woke up at my place.

Kobe_curry24 · 2025-05-18T23:58:19+00:00

As a man no move out as quick AF

Key-Aioli-3703 · 2025-05-19T03:46:31+00:00

As long as you think you can't, you can't.

A lot of people live with their parents, and yes, they date. Just be sure to have your own bedroom, and keep it clean. The rest, it is up to your personality an charm.

Title	Can you date if you live with your parents?
Author	MoneyAndGoodFortune
Upvotes	1
Comments	30
Date	May 18, 2025 9:49 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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