Been lurking in this sub for a while and trust me when I say this, almost anything starting from cold approach to online dating advices probably doesn't apply if you are a person of color.
I've been out of 'game' for a long time as I was in a committed relationship since high school, but when I got out at large I discovered I almost have 0 chances for dates. I moved to an East European country from a brown origin, south east Asian and for some reason I always feel like an outsider.
Even my female friends here with whom I share platonic relationships give compliments like, "You're pretty decent for a brown guy." You can guess how the flirting scenarios could get when you are perceived as a creep even before you open you mouth, doesn’t let me build up any confidence.
I'm not particularly shy, back in my home country I had fair 'game' before my last relationship. The problem I face the most after moving is even non-white women seem to carry a very bad impression about us, often white women treat me much nicer than them.
It is totally okay if someone is not attracted to "brown guys" or "asian guys" per say, but I don't think that is always the case. Can I have some first-hand opinion or ground-report from the brown guys here? What is your situation and how have your experience been?
And any woman reading this, could you kindly share if you ever dated or considered dating brown men, and how generally your interactions have been? If you have believed in stereotypes eariler, did that comply with your experience or not?
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