Ever wonder why you aren't into the girls who want you, but the girls you really like always get away? You're being a challenge to the girls who you aren't into, while being too easy and available to the ones who you're into.

Treat all girls the same.

After going on hundreds of dates, one thing has stood out very clear to me. When you KNOW you can have someone, all their flaws magnify. But if you are TRYING to get someone, their flaws disappear.

If a girl is constantly blowing up your phone and you know she wants you, your mindset turns to "I know I can have her, but do I really want her?" If that same girl is being a challenge, you kind of overlook the flaws she may have and try to "get her". Same girl.

Women nowadays have literally hundreds of options due to online dating and social media. Almost all of these dudes are available at the drop of a hat, blow up her phone, and smother her. If you want to stand out, you should treat her more indifferently.

That being said, you should still show intent. Don't blow her off completely. But give her the space to think about you and miss you. That's when her feelings develop. If you're constantly blowing up her phone and giving her assurance that you want her, she never has the space to wonder about you.

So if you don't text for a day or two? You should look at it as "great, I have more time to work on my mission/hang out with friends/family".

Give her the space and time to miss you and reach out to you. In the beginning you may have to initiate contact more and set dates, but after a few dates she should be the one to start reaching out to you if you give her the time.