Have you been hated for being a man?

ODG4999 · 2025-07-16T06:45:20+00:00

In rare occurrences, when I explain something to a specific type of person, I'd get accused of mansplaining.

So just because of what's in my pants, I can't explain something?

Agile_Ad_5896 · 2025-07-16T07:29:30+00:00

It gets worse. If you're cruel and evil, women think it's "empowered". If you're caring and virtuous, women think it's: - "Trying to be them" - "Savior complex" - "Nice guy syndrome"

Women literally believe in PUNISHING kindness, and then they want to know where the non-abusive men are? Flushed down their own toilets. That's where we are.

AntiFeministLib · 2025-07-16T09:05:24+00:00

Misandry is rife. As a man I've:

Been told they wouldn't consider me for a job because they were really looking for a girl
Being kicked out of the computer lab because it was "Girl's computer lunchtime"
Being told that firing somebody, out of a volunteer organisaiton, was not necessary and I couldn't understand because it was a "female leadership style" and I must be some sort of misogynyst. The person was later arrested for indecent images on their computer.
Went to a lesbian bar with my bi girlfriend and had it made VERY clear I wasn't welcome (from the bouncer on the door grunting at me to the bar staff not serving me). This was a total contrast to a gay bar that we both went to a literally just before it

To name but a few over the years. Remember though, misandry doesn't exist...

mr_kangaroo · 2025-07-16T08:19:15+00:00

The trick is to stop giving a fuck if you're hated.

JayTheFordMan · 2025-07-16T06:34:10+00:00

Hung out with a group.of lesbian friends of my then GF, where a few there you could feel the dislike dripping off them. Went to gay bar later, and got a shoulder from a butch along with a drink poured on me at some point by some woman. Nice. I went to go hang out with the gay guys, felt much safer 🤣

DifficultyDry5305 · 2025-07-16T13:20:18+00:00

As a woman, I'm here to rant.

I never understood this growing trend of women calling out the "patriarchy" and keep blaming men for everything. I might get called a pick-me, but honestly I really find it absurd. Like how long are these women going to recognize their rights are already almost equal to men since the 1940's? Also the fact they still wanna receive the kind of princess treatment way back is kind of hypocritical.

That's why I won't consider myself a feminist or that fucking cringey-ass title called "girls' girl". Although I might agree with just the first wave of feminism. Third wave is unnecessary and it's actually misandry inside a trojan horse.

nightcall379 · 2025-07-16T06:47:00+00:00

It seems that you can’t win. If you are a man you are bad. If you are more masculine bad. If you are more feminine bad. If you are questioning your sexuality bad. If you are straight bad. If you are gay bad. If you are bisexual bad. If you are asexual bad.

It's only bad if you're not Chad

In other words, it's only bad for the majority of men

You're not being hated for being a man

You're being hated for being sexually repulsive

jadedlonewolf89 · 2025-07-16T07:09:10+00:00

If you’re sterile then most consider you half a man or not a man at all.

RyuujinPl · 2025-07-16T09:14:41+00:00

My favorite example from my life is skin care.

You see as a man it is not rare to be criticized regularly for having bad skin on the face. Like acne, lot of ugly pimples etc. For sure I was! And this is very person-dependent; some people have amazing skin without even washing it and other have to be super-diligent to just have LESS of imperfections.

Critique towards me about this aspect was coming almost exclusively from women. When I was trying to explain myself that I do wash my face daily the answer was always the same: "Skin care is more than just washing that! You have to use moisturizer, tonic etc! You men know nothing about it! You should do it too to look nice! Good looking guys are taking care of themselves!".
I am pretty sure that each time they just expect me to ignore the topic but I do not work like that. If people repeatedly tell me to change something.. I try to do. I am rather conformist kind of person.

So I decided to give it a try. Moisturizer alone was not working so I got to the level of full skin care. Twice a day routine with full setup and research. And it worked! I have pretty clean and maintained skin now!
BUT! You would have to see reaction of the same people that were complaining about my skin, when they see me do the toilet thing. Mostly women from my family. It is almost universal "Are you gay/trans?" kind of reaction. It just completely washed from their minds that they themselves TOLD ME to do exactly the thing before. Nah! Now it is atrocious and unmanly that I do anything more than using normal soap to wash my face.

So critique just changed from "You are not taking care of yourself!" to "You are taking care of yourself!". Doomed if you do, doomed if you don't kind of thing. I feel like the expectation is that I somehow will have great skin while not taking care of it - like I have control over my genetics.
Obviously it is nonsense - and in rational talk they themself admit to that. But it doesn't change how they FEEL about me in both of those scenarios. And both feelings are negative.

I ended up hiding my routine to avoid critique. It seems to be the best of both worlds - I get to look nice during the days and I am not giving "ick" to people that should have no interest in me in the first place.

Angryasfk · 2025-07-16T14:44:37+00:00

I’ve definitely been hated for being a boy - by my last Primary School teacher when I had just turned 12. She hated all the boys in the class.

kmikek · 2025-07-16T20:11:47+00:00

"It seems that you can’t win" yes, when you let them make the rules to the game, they rig it so they will win. Its not a competition, if you play, you will lose

Mindless-Leader-936 · 2025-07-17T02:43:11+00:00

Being a ugly man just means I'm "creepy" to alot of women

Informal-Document-77 · 2025-07-16T08:25:24+00:00

As long as you exist on the internet or in a western(-style) society (so over 90% of the world and 99% of civilized world )you will be due to how insanely powerful the propaganda machine is, also it’s not really men’s right issue entirely, it has way deeper roots, same people that own instagram and dating apps , and therefore those who manipulate algorithms are the ones who own prisons, egg freezers and antidepressant manufacturing plants it’s all comes together as one big plan, easily seen but due to how insane the propaganda machine is, rarely noticed. Also it’s kinda like being called a nazi, first times you wonder why, then you realise they just hate you and on the 100th time you get an urge to do the salute just to spite them.

ShabbyJerking · 2025-07-16T20:19:47+00:00

Laughed out loud reading that title. What man hasn't?

bulimic_squid · 2025-07-17T09:13:05+00:00

Yes I have.

And I do not care one bit.

The people who hate me for my gender are just toddlers cosplaying as adults, and their opinion means very little to me.

If you're gonna hate me, hate me for my actions, not for something I was born as.

ThrowALifeline89 · 2025-07-17T15:00:03+00:00

If you are a man you are bad. If you are more masculine bad.

People will blame and shame you for being a man. They will also blame and shame you for not being man enough. People really are just obsessed with hating men. It's no surprise though if you look at the media landscape of the past 10-15 years in particular. It's all been about running boys and men into the ground and continues to be like that. I mean right now one of the most popular movies, K-Pop Demonhunters, is about a group of heroes (all female) killing the evil villains (all male).

Folks out there are practically thirsting for violence against males, as if there wasn't enough of that already. It's disturbing.

dirtyYasuki · 2025-07-16T14:05:19+00:00

I've faced discrimination as a man. Some subtle. Some overt. But, outright hatred? No. I've seen it happen to others, but I only saw that when I moved here to the West.

AndyRoo2023 · 2025-07-16T06:10:45+00:00

If you’re gay / bisexual / questioning your sexuality, who specifically says you’re ‘bad’ for doing that as a male, apart from religious orthodoxy and / or its adherents?

LGBT ‘hate’ of males...is fully recognised, acknowledged, addressed and dealt with by their advocacy groups, of which there are many.

Society's hateful rhetoric is directed at heterosexual men, predominantly…by not acknowledging this, your post may as well be saying ‘everyone is hated, for any reason, male or female’.

Key_Yogurtcloset2941 · 2025-07-16T11:10:31+00:00

A lot of times in the last 10 years, but never before...

EnormousPurpleGarden · 2025-07-16T20:42:35+00:00

To be a man is to be hated. Being hated is the essence of being a man, as many trans men have discovered.

Never_Pretending · 2025-07-17T21:13:48+00:00

Women want men to reject them and tell them no. Most things they do boil down to that from what I see. Then they will feel desperate and actually try. It’s the stupidest game imaginable and highly self indulgent contrasted against the demands of life. Hence why women are seen as children pretty much. It really is pathetic just from a game theory perspective because it’s so easy for them to win they have to make it difficult.. or rather need you to make it difficult to challenge them, since they seem incapable of biting in to a puzzle like that themselves.

There’s no such thing as the wall but there is a point where most women have to start putting in a bit of effort to learn and understand men, so any men who make that apparent trigger the 15 years or so of entitlement built up and are “bad”.

That’s why man = bad, one reason anyway. If I am not catering it must simply be because I hate women lmao.

RandomGuy9058 · 2025-07-18T05:43:08+00:00

No. People are nice.

Western_Writing6689 · 2025-07-19T04:36:50+00:00

Not really, besides being treated differently in Elementary school.

Kbells68 · 2025-07-21T18:19:45+00:00

I am to old, to man to care!

PowerBorsti · 2025-08-13T09:16:21+00:00

Many Times currently my friend is in Hospital attempted. He got sadly bullied by witches at Work only saying negative Things Like he ist a pervert or pedo. I Tell you He is one of the nicest people i know Always trying to Help people and it Hurt him really Bad until He couldnt Take those false accusations anymore.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2025-07-16T15:10:06+00:00

Hated? No. Feared? Disregarded? Seen as less important, unworthy, or valueless? Yes. But not hated, I don't think.

That's worse, in a way; someone you see as worthy of hatred is someone you see as worthy of attention.

zulhadm · 2025-07-16T11:26:32+00:00

I would agree with all of that except “if you are gay bad”. That seems to be the only one that society treats fairly in 2025.

erik_reeds · 2025-07-16T14:41:16+00:00

not in my experiences with partners or friends or mutuals no

Alternative-Dream-61 · 2025-07-16T18:24:00+00:00

In real life? Nope. Online? Sure, in certain circles.

Vijkhal · 2025-07-16T05:57:18+00:00

Nope.

Strong_Dingo3104 · 2025-07-16T06:38:58+00:00

You are chronically online,go outside trust me nobody hate's you for your gender in real life only on internet feminists would hate on you

Title	Have you been hated for being a man?
Author	Theo04t
Upvotes	174
Comments	80
Date	July 16, 2025 5:46 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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