When you ask a girl out and she says “we’ll see” is that just a nice way of saying no?

Evening-Daikon-3899 · 2025-09-22T14:40:05+00:00

Making plans that far in advance is the problem. She probably assumed you were talking about the upcoming week, and you asking her out yet ”being booked of for the rest of the month” put her off because that’s weird.

-PinkPower- · 2025-09-22T14:48:50+00:00

It’s probably more about how far away it is. Some people dont have very stable schedules.

NatashOverWorld · 2025-09-22T14:56:41+00:00

Usually, but since you're making plans that's weeks away, it's more a 'I don't know if I'll be interested then'.

Try a date that's not so far off, and if she still says we'll see, then she's definitely not interested.

Brutal_De1uxe · 2025-09-22T14:38:44+00:00

Yes. Yes it is. Move on.

IGotUrBrain · 2025-09-22T15:15:41+00:00

Take “we’ll see” literally because neither one of you can tell whats gonna happen way in October.

Rollorich · 2025-09-22T15:12:35+00:00

When someone likes you they make it easy for you

Sudden_General628 · 2025-09-22T15:24:03+00:00

You’re still in the game. That’s not a no. Press on.

jailtheorange1 · 2025-09-22T16:10:26+00:00

I would’ve waited until closer to the time myself.

bobyd · 2025-09-22T14:40:34+00:00

I would just keep her on the back, dont put too much pressure and give some space, early october suggest again smth and if no clear answer just take it as no

Deryckx · 2025-09-22T15:10:47+00:00

What if she says “thank you”. Then turns and walks off?

mabden · 2025-09-22T17:06:56+00:00

When asking a girl out, have a specific event/activity with a specific date/time.

If she doesn't accept without an alternative date/time, she's not interested.

Kierenbrowncoach · 2025-09-24T15:33:13+00:00

“We’ll see” is not rejection carved in stone, but it’s not a yes either. It’s a red flag that she’s lukewarm at best. So hold your frame, keep options open, and never beg for her time. If she’s in, she’ll show it. If not, you’ll know soon enough without wasting energy.

Illustrious_Size610 · 2025-09-22T16:01:15+00:00

Well that’s because women like things to feel more spontaneous. In october she might have already met some other guy. If you are busy you are busy, but she is not gonna be waiting for you if she has other options.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-09-22T14:50:47+00:00

So ill put it in converstaion format best of what you said with some commentary

*Playful banter*

You: we should go out some time.

Her: "depends on the day" (this is tough because she could either be continuing the banter or she clearly is trying to say no without saying it. A person who is interested mightve responded like "we should" and if she wanted to continue the banter could say "we should, but would you be able to handle a woman like me?")

You: "im booked for rest of the month but october works for me" (Unless you are travelling, what are you doing for the next 10 days or so that you can't make a date happen? Dating is like a competition, you cant let that get to you. I once lost a girl cause i had to travel for a few weeks the weekend after i met her by the time i got back she lost interest. If you are that into her, you should've made it happen for this week")

Her: "we'll see" (she either means no or she feels that you arent that interested in her for not making time for her sooner).

All in all, I think you should just keep it moving. Make the plans but dont stop what you're doing fo rthis girl. Like it's ok to say "hey if youre still down we can meetup at this bar for drinks on Oct 3rd". But leave it at that. If she responds great, if not great. Keep it moving. You have drawn the line, do not try to make plans earlier than you stated. If you do so she may feel she has all the power.

SgtSplacker · 2025-09-22T15:16:35+00:00

Dude pick a Saturday no more than 2 weeks away. If she says no, then it's on her now.

AlphaBetaSigmaNerd · 2025-09-22T15:22:50+00:00

Keeping her options open

nighthunterrrr · 2025-09-22T15:43:48+00:00

Lol. happened to me yesterday :D but Im not caring, being flirty funny is the key

Mindless_Ad_8328 · 2025-09-22T16:30:31+00:00

Why not ask her on the day if she is free in the evening. No one can be busy for a full month, at but have time to meet and still be doing online dating

notthebangthewhimper · 2025-09-22T18:05:33+00:00

If you didn’t get a yes then you got a no. And if personal history predicts anything whatever quality made you ask Reddit to tell you if they mean something other than ‘not yes’ when they said literally no word that was yes is the quality you wanna shed either way.

Also someone mentioned the kinda weird bit about how you asked her like a month away and that she legit might not know what she’s doing but that’s just it: if she wanted to go out with you the answer would be yes. She prolly want some more excitement than the level she gets from scheduling a gynecologist appointment do give more zest than that.

But if you ask a woman to spend time with you and they say anything but yes then they are saying no. And it’s not a nice way of saying no. It’s just selfish. And cruel.

Noothyy · 2025-09-23T03:11:34+00:00

It’s not “f’d up”. Just find some free time soon & ask her if she wants to do something. Btw, women are not robots. Hell they’re not all that practical at all, so asking her out a month in advance is…odd. Laugh it off & do something sooner. You ain’t that busy.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-09-24T01:35:19+00:00

Electronic-Fix-300 · 2025-09-24T02:10:10+00:00

I’ll give you my advice as a 30 year old woman . It all depends because at this age I’m at now I do like to preserve myself a little bit and I don’t give in sooo easily . So maybe she’s trying to do that . But my method is to always say YES to the first date and then I go from there . Because the first date is when the game is gonna get started if you know what I mean . And I’m also a very spontaneous, in the moment person . So I DO NOT enjoy super stiff shit . So 3 days in advance sounds perfect to me cause I also don’t want to be invited same fucking day . Shows lack of effort

sliferd37 · 2025-09-25T12:03:21+00:00

Yeah

xXCosmicChaosXx · 2025-09-22T14:44:59+00:00

You should ghost her now. If she tries to stick around then it's clear she is still interested. If she still doesn't make much effort to reply then no harm done anyway.

2025-09-22T14:40:04+00:00

Might be an impolite no, might be a way of keeping you around as a Plan Z. Either way, stay the fuck away from that woman.

lonehawktheseer · 2025-09-22T15:11:28+00:00

Yeah 100%. Move on. Act like it doesn't bother you at all.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-22T15:30:35+00:00

Get your mind out of the negative. It's not always a rejection.

"We'll see" can be translated from womanesse to English as: "I like you, so I'm going to see how patient you are to confirm you are as preselected as I originally thought".

Either way, patience gives u the answers.

Title	When you ask a girl out and she says “we’ll see” is that just a nice way of saying no?
Author	Futurecollegdropout
Upvotes	51
Comments	46
Date	September 22, 2025 2:33 PM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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