Got a Text Back

Accomplished_Egg_928 · 2025-12-22T20:10:58+00:00

It means her roster is currently full and you're on a waiting list.

OpinionThink481 · 2025-12-22T20:19:18+00:00

1 - Girls can easily change their mind at any moment. This confuses some guys because they think in black or white terms where a girl is either sold o them or not sold. However girls make their decisions based on how they feel in the moment and based on how they feel after they processed their emotions after the initial rush.

So a girl can easily feel a high at one particular moment where she is all over you and the after she has had time to calm down relax and processed she can think well that feeling is no longer there anymore or she gets cold feet because she might discuss it with her friends who discourage her because you are stranger or whatever.

2 - Sometimes women give the numbers not because they are genuinely feeling anything for you, but rather because it’s a convenient way to end the conversation without conflict or drama or the potential awkwardness caused by rejection you face to face.

It’s simply more easy for them to be polite and give the numbers not amd the either ghost you block you or tell you what they don’t want to say in person which is that they are not interested.

What can you do to prevent it?

Well first you have to understand that very often thats not something you control and you shouldn’t try to. Just because you’d rather want a straight no than this doesn’t mean the girl is gonna play by what you prefer even if you reassure her you will not get mad. So it’s not your job to tell girls how or when you would prefer to be rejected.

Just try to hage better interactions, flirt better, talk for longer, connect more, etc

And what to say to her text? Just say: “Thank you for letting me know” thats it.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-12-22T21:31:19+00:00

She's put you in the friend zone. I guess she liked the attention. It's not a bad thing tbh. You can invite her to go out with your friends, expand your social circle. The bigger your social circle, the more options you'll have for dating.

Kylearean · 2025-12-22T20:23:02+00:00

I used to troll ESL groups looking for "language partners". One of the girls called me out that I was just trying to hook up, put me on blast. I DM'd her saying she was right, but I thought it was great that she called me out. Good job looking out for the community. I asked her if I could come over and talk about it, she agreed. I went to her place and we were on each other right away. It was crazy.

Rejections like this are usually shit tests. Personally, I don't tolerate shit tests, but if you wanted to play it, just agree and amplify. "You were looking for a connection? My fault, I was just looking to take that dress off and have my way with you."

First_Inspection_478 · 2025-12-22T20:08:08+00:00

what does new connections mean? did she not wanna go on a date? that's the main reason to ask for a number. if she doesnt want you, you keep it pushing and put up more shots with other women.

tattooedpanhead · 2025-12-22T20:25:10+00:00

What is the best way to respond to her message? Wate a week and then text her like she didn't say anything.

Blixxkai · 2025-12-23T07:19:14+00:00

Cannot say what she’s thinking. There’s really not much to say. Might have just been easier for her to reject you over the phone rather than in person. But that does seem like such a roundabout way of doing things. I would probably just tease and say “ I wouldn’t catch feelings for you” it’s a gamble since the phrasing makes it a little personal vs “I don’t catch feelings” it can also come off as insecurity/desparstion. Sort of like a last ditch effort to trigger her. Really I would be trying to illicit a response to weed out whether she thinks I’m trying to date vs sleep with her. By using the word connection she could be trying to say one of two things. That she’s not looking for another needy, emotional dude, or it’s her way of saying fwb without sounding promiscuous.

Matter_Still · 2025-12-23T13:58:15+00:00

Ask her what she means by “connections”.

Plane_Benefit7868 · 2025-12-22T19:58:24+00:00

Idk flirt and then ask her to come over

Title	Got a Text Back
Author	NeatFollowing3881
Upvotes	17
Comments	18
Date	December 22, 2025 7:55 PM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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