What does a successful cold approach look like?

Available-Note-9652 · 2026-01-23T03:03:26+00:00

If you can actually walk up to a girl you don’t know and talk to her I’d consider that a success.

Even the people who are the best at this stuff only convert like 10% of all approaches into getting laid. I’d start by getting numbers and building up a rotation of girls you can text. Once you get to that point then you can start closing with kissing/instant dates.

CottonEyeNacho · 2026-01-23T03:05:48+00:00

Hey what’s your name
Slight compliment
Make small talk based on situation
Get the number or social media

theadoringfan216 · 2026-01-23T03:26:46+00:00

Depends on what you mean by success

ComplexTell25 · 2026-01-23T03:48:44+00:00

Following

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-01-23T04:00:56+00:00

You need to do 2 things:

Impose the seduction frame. This is flirting and she knows it.
This is real. Attraction will blow away quickly after you leave, that is why you need comfort for this part.

Honestly, that is it. You can reduce any model to these two things.

Matter_Still · 2026-01-23T04:55:14+00:00

You see someone you find very attractive and the encounter flirtatious or not, has planted a seed. She may not give any indication but she hopes to see you again

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-01-23T08:26:25+00:00

Read Beginner Daygame by Krauser. Models by Mark Manson as well.

barlowaplesand · 2026-01-23T09:49:46+00:00

There's seemingly a million ways to skin the cat and there's no right or wrong way.

I'd say approach, chat to sense if there's any interest/attraction, compliment and flirt, get number(or take home)

I think the issue is that you can do everything absolutely perfectly and get rejected 50 times in a row straight if you're just not her type. And so 'learning from failure' is kind of an impossible task. (not to mention the unlimited number of variables)

SecretComments · 2026-01-23T15:59:33+00:00

I might make a whole post about this but you REALLY gotta just relax and get Out Of Your Head. It's all Vibes dude.

Girls are supernatural creatures that can smell your insecurities, your overthinking, your phony lines, your forced bravado.

You have to BE that cool, suave guy.....or you have to wing it. Really wing it. Be honest about your intentions, maybe even vulnerable, and you'll do better than the guy who's trying a rehearsed line he convinced himself will work one of these days.

I've walked by girls before out in public and just blurted out "that's such a great dress wow" and moved on with my day. Girls will show interest and chase YOU if the vibes are right, so don't worry about being PERFECT because the more you worry the more she senses your worry, and then you're coming off all wrong, creepy, disjointed, unclear. You can and should ALSO pay compliments like that to MEN. Dude has a cool band tee on and you know the band? Go up to him. Talk to him about it. When you're not seeing a Prospect it's easier because the pressure is off. The ideal would be to treat girls like that too and just flirt more.

I've had girls follow me around in a bar after saying something pretty innocuous, because I'm not cornering her or trying something canned, I'm just being natural.

I ain't even single anymore and I still pay compliments like that because IDGAF what they want or how they react. I'm just comfy being positive toward other people. That can really take you far, I promise.

Vegetable_Anty · 2026-01-23T06:37:22+00:00

Keep it simple: smile, eye contact, say hi.

Title	What does a successful cold approach look like?
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Date	January 23, 2026 2:58 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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