How do you filter out time wasters ?

Additional-Case4392 · 2026-03-24T16:34:55+00:00

Rush to rejection. A couple back and forth messages before asking her out. If she says yes and follows through, escalate to sex on the first meet. If she balks, you walk. Rinse and repeat. Remember, it’s a numbers game. The ones who like you won’t play silly games or waste time.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-24T16:37:19+00:00

There is no universal rule. It's personal to you:

You look at the options you have and the goals you have. Then you decide how long you're willing to wait before nexting someone. You make that calculation on your own, based on the current situation, and nobody can make that choice for you.

It's in my opinion really silly to place a strict rule on these things. There are just so many scenarios where it makes sense to cut someone off sooner, and other times it makes sense to wait longer. So why would you have one rule for every scenario? It's rarely going to be optimal to limit yourself in this way.

Discopotatoz · 2026-03-25T04:44:44+00:00

Every girl has an individual trajectory. Your job is to read her state/compliance and adjust accordingly. As you gain experience you will get better and start to recognize patterns and you'll know intuitively.. some girls with fuck in 1-2 hours, some will trip you up, some are just fkn weird or have trauma or bad experiences and need more time or need to say no first to see how you react.. some are ice queens and will show 0 interest while secretly hoping you make the move anyway. Some girls need you to toe the line between what is technically moral (I recommend NOT ever doing that). My point is adopting a rigid attitude will lose you a lot of girls you could otherwise have by being patient and by keeping a closer mindset. Your game will improve massively as well.

Matter_Still · 2026-03-24T20:07:33+00:00

So, you’re going to use your ex-girlfriend as a litmus test for how others should respond?

Good luck with that.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-03-24T17:55:39+00:00

From my experience, saying something like “let’s meet Friday night” can come off as a bit too obvious — especially if there were kisses at the end of the last date. That’s when they kind of switch into what we call here the “good girl” mode — like not wanting to come across as too easy or anything like that. So if she rejects that day, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal — there are still chances.

In my case, I actually like going out on Fridays for a first date (I’ve had around 26 so far this year), but I’ve noticed it’s not always ideal. Women tend to be more open to Saturdays, even Sundays sometimes. But in the end, it also depends on your own schedule.

EveningBeginning3922 · 2026-03-24T20:03:49+00:00

You said you can ask home If she doesnt come after 3 sperated time asking let her go

If woman desires you she would say yes.

Constant_Special9055 · 2026-03-24T20:21:44+00:00

It depends on how you are meeting them. Where are you meeting them?

Kitchen-Start-3828 · 2026-03-24T23:52:04+00:00

Dates instead of numbers

nappyboy30 · 2026-03-25T06:40:20+00:00

I’d generally get a feel pre date how interested they are and those who aren’t putting much effort don’t bother.

In my country drinking age is 18, if 21 replace with any cheap but cool night spot.

1st Date - Drinks somewhere closeish to your place, if she’s feeling it if you’ve already kissed invite her over. On the date I usually slide in that I’m good at making cocktails, and after the first drink or two say “let’s get out of here I’ll make you a martini” If she rejects your kiss on the first date generally not worth your time IMO.

2nd Date - Dinner, try to pick her up and again somewhere fairly good logistics to your place. Or an activity and dinner. Then find another “reason to get back” like showing her something etc.

3rd Date - Then get her over, if your a good cook go for it. Otherwise I do an afternoon wine and charcuterie.

If you’re not getting anywhere progression after 3 dates then probably not worth it.

I have a bit more to add to how I escalate one she’s back at mine if interested.

morphinetango · 2026-03-25T22:21:10+00:00

Inexperienced women usually need more time to make a decision. Young people have less life experience, therefor less data to work off of in making decisions, so wanting more time just means they're smarter. Even if they just want to have something non-romantic, they are just as interested in not having their time wasted as you are.

dobbs1997 · 2026-03-26T16:34:41+00:00

Mmmm…usually you’ll feel it, in the body, it’s like a gut feeling or a spidey sense in a way lol no words will appear in your mind, maybe you shouldn’t take reference from the mind at all…the body is kinda like..the best compass and teacher..listen to it..in my experience there’s been times where my body’s yelling at me to cut it off but my mind was saying otherwise , then it ended up not going anywhere so in a way , tha gut feeling was right …listen to your deep intuition, what’s it saying?

Any_Vacation8988 · 2026-03-27T07:23:31+00:00

Reminds me of a famous quote by Alex Baldwin in glengary ross. A b c always be closing. Because it’s fuck or walk

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-24T16:29:00+00:00

This is generally slow, average is about 1 to 2 dates max (my personal about 3 hours).

Here is a guide to showcase the limit of speed.

However, the mental leap is the following: you are time bounded with the “get to know each other/show value”, if you overdo it, it starts working against you.

All dates begin in the above mode, but at some point within 1-2 hours you need to switch gears. This is the “flirting mode”. You talk only about dating and convos that lead to that, also you start testing the waters for escalation. Handholding at least should be easy to establish and then build from there based on what she allows.

Will you lose some girls? Yes. But the point is that delaying the whole thing will lose you more girls in the long run. Sexual interest builds excitement and feeds on itself. It is part of the process.

DrBarackPendergrass · 2026-03-24T17:19:42+00:00

Dating Coach here — SEDUCE her before meeting up (This Is KEY!) No coffee. No park. No throwing random pieces of bread at random ducks at random ponds.

Average Guys: “Wanna go for coffee?”

ADVANCED MEN: “Come over at 8.”

Below Average Guys: (Can’t understand this concept.)

Your “second date” should be your “first date” minus the movie excuse and the “cooking together” invite. Tell her you’re cooking dinner and that she should bring her favorite wine or her favorite dessert if she’s under 21.

Once she comes over, put her wine/dessert down, give her a sincere frontal hug, then a light kiss on the lips at the hug break, then go in for another kiss with a light subtle tongue, then a slightly deeper tongue, then thank me later…..

(Then afterwards, days or weeks later, you can “date/go out” if you’re sincerely moved to do so — Not as a politically correct, public audition/job interview at Starbucks.)

Pre-Date Phone Mentality = IMMEDIATELY VIBE/SEDUCE/TELL HER IN (Don’t “ask her out” and then “hope for a vibe” in public…)

PS: “Six Downvoters” — Stop being cowards for once in your “lives” and show yourselves. Everything stated above is My Standard First Date, but let’s make this fun ;) I’ll cash app you $100 if you can prove me wrong while proving “your way” right, but you owe me $1 if you can’t (Keep in mind the woman is already comfortable, excited, and ready for physicality even before she’s at the door.)

Offer ends at midnight 3/24.

Let’s fucking GO.

Title	How do you filter out time wasters ?
Author	johanewesome
Upvotes	30
Comments	25
Date	March 24, 2026 4:18 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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