TL;DR: Do it once you've made up your mind? Papers are filed? Divorce is finalized?

We had a near divorce a few months back. She said she was done, then a couple days after decided she wanted to try again. I stupidly said yes, but during those days she told everyone we were getting divorced. The 180 change confused a lot of people over the next month.

Here we are again. This time for real. Given the confusion last time, I thought this time I would wait for papers to be filed.

That said, I don't care what she does. I'm filing this time regardless, but figured I'd ask y'all when you removed her from family and friend group chats?