So I’ve lived separately from my ex since last October. Things weren’t great before that. We have 1 kid together.

So started seeing someone else back in March and my ex had been seeing someone else since before then. I never gave her a hard time about any of it.

Few weeks ago I found out her and her new bf had broken up, when she asked to borrow a drill to hang something for our son and my response was your boyfriend works construction, doesn’t he have one? I kind of figured they were no longer a thing. Ever since then she’s been way more nosey about the girl I’m seeing and actively trying to call and stuff when she thinks I might be hanging out with her before which never happened when she had a bf.

I told her a while ago I was seeing someone because she had done the same for me. Of the mindset I’d rather hear it from you than someone else kind of thing.

It kind of started when I got sent a photo of a hand holding a phone with the girl I’m seeings Snapchat story and I’m in the photo the day after she asked about the drill. Instantly I’m being told all these negative things about the girl I’m seeing which I chose to ignore because none of it was true. Then there’s been more comments as well from my ex about her despite them never meeting.

I’m going away for work next week for most of June. So I was going to have my son from Wednesday to Monday morning and drop him off at school and hit the road. I saw my son multiple times yesterday and even left work to attend a doctor’s appointment during the day. The new girl hasn’t met my son so took her out to dinner last night because I wouldn’t see her again before leaving. My ex as soon as I get to dinner texts me and I don’t respond so instantly she’s trying to FaceTime me. I sent a text saying I’m busy right now. I then get accused of not prioritizing my son and being a shitty co-parent etc because I didn’t leave dinner to answer her call. Then she has my son now saying I’m choosing some girl over him.

To me she’s just pissed I’m seeing someone else and isn’t happy about it and is using my son to try and get me to stop dating. But lately it seems that anytime she thinks I might be hanging out with this girl I’m getting constant phone calls and if I don’t answer she calls me a shit co-parent.

Don’t even get me started on the last girl I went on some dates with that she messaged on Facebook to get us to stop hanging out.

Anyone else experience something similar or have advice?