Overly nice guy cousin. Flipped the script and became “that guy. Here’s a simple formula.

RakeChapman13 · 2026-07-16T22:26:15+00:00

The problem with the “don’t give a fuck” framing is that it confuses confidence with indifference. Women want to feel chosen, valued, and important by the man they want. The issue is not that a man cares too much about women; it’s when he starts seeking their approval instead of expressing genuine interest. There is a difference between prioritizing a woman because you truly value her and prioritizing her because you need her validation. Healthy prioritization can actually be really attractive because it feels genuine. When a man makes an effort, pays attention, remembers what matters to her, and shows that she is important to him, it communicates real interest. It makes her feel seen rather than like she is just another option.

A man can invest in a woman, make her feel special, and put effort into building a connection while still having his own identity, boundaries, and confidence.
The goal is not to care less about women. The goal is to care about them from a place of security where you are choosing to invest in someone because you value them, not because you need them to prove your worth.

Not giving enough of a fuck ( in the right ways ) and women not feeling prioritized enough is how many men get dumped.

HomelessMilkman · 2026-07-17T07:27:50+00:00

Hypothetically, if you're on a 'win streak' how is your confidence relative to if you were on a 'losing streak'? The Winner Effect by Ian Robertson.

The whole point is to embody that positive, confident, high status, 'winner effect' physiological state without being reliant on the external environment because you can't (it's also too late regardless and conditioned into you) - 99% of you (including myself) come from a strict deficit in results, social scarcity - that's what 'learning game' literally is, becoming a 'winner' through the means available to you.

What that means is adopting a loose, relaxed, nonchalant physiology, mental presence, in the situation amongst pressure - going after what you want while embodying belief and entitlement - that's all. You don't really need to know "What?" and "Why?", if you get results - there's always too much sideways deliberation - accept who you are, work with what you've got, adopt the physiological and mental state of someone successful and you'll be perceived as such.

silver54 · 2026-07-16T22:50:19+00:00

so what did he give a fuck about before that was hindering him exactly

FatherMozgus · 2026-07-16T22:12:18+00:00

This works only if by not giving a fuck you don’t become totally insufferable. In general good advice for some people bad advice for others

CaptainSteveRodgers · 2026-07-16T23:06:34+00:00

How do you overcome shyness and caring what people think of you? I have a low self esteem and think very little of myself.

laptopglass · 2026-07-16T22:24:08+00:00

I definitely believe this works but it's easier said than done

epimpstyle · 2026-07-16T23:07:50+00:00

So 'I don't give a fuck because I'm actually terrified of being judged... Aha, I get it now.

stevie79er · 2026-07-17T04:58:27+00:00

It's the difference between hoping she likes you and being confident in knowing you like her and that's what matters.

tattooedpanhead · 2026-07-17T19:33:53+00:00

don’t give a fuck? Or be indifference? Also "more stuff" is welcome here.

yourmajesty_69 · 2026-07-16T21:44:31+00:00

This makes sense and resonates with me thank you for posting OP

Title	Overly nice guy cousin. Flipped the script and became “that guy. Here’s a simple formula.
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Date	July 16, 2026 9:41 PM UTC (1 week ago)
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