How to respond when girlfriend apologizes?

throwhawayyyy · 2020-12-03T17:59:42+00:00

don’t say it’s ok, it excuses their behaviour. say “i forgive you, don’t do it again”

willwang2020 · 2020-12-03T17:34:31+00:00

Fuck her hard to let her know you’re not mad at her anymore.

catsdontsmile · 2020-12-03T18:17:22+00:00

I shut myself down emotionally and expressively and as I'm a very talkative guy they realize immediately. Like I don't sound mad or anything, I just turn very neutral about everything with pure apathy in my face and I respond to everything as briefly as possible. They hate it. I'm not even sure if its a good or bad response it's just how I react. I know it does flip the table on them 180 degrees as they shift into trying to please me.

4everrekt · 2020-12-03T18:22:00+00:00

What should she do in the future?

It sounds like this is a repeated behavior. Tell her what parts of what she did are unacceptable and why.

No feelings involved, just "when you do <x>, this doesn't work". "You want <x>, and I want you to get <x>, but in order to do that, you must do <y>. Help me help you. You can do <z> if you like, but <something unfortunate> will happen. Again, up to you."

Say she has some emotional outburst. This doesn't work bc when people scream at me, I am not incentivized to help. She can either call down so I can help, or find someone else who accepts that behavior. We're wasting time arguing when we could be working towards something better. She can tell and scream if she wants, but that doesn't make anything better.

It's worth noting that you must be able to walk away if needed. The next time she feels those emotions come up, she thinks "I can't blow up at him bc he'll ghost me if I do", I guarantee she thinks carefully about her next actions. If not, she doesn't give af.

redhawkes · 2020-12-03T18:25:09+00:00

"You'll make it up to me with..", don't let it slide cos she's gonna repeat the bullshit again.

ComplexProjection · 2020-12-03T20:31:38+00:00

First, when she does not behave in a way that adds something positive to your life, you should not be there. Do your own thing, work, work out,... do something. Don't just assist passively to her emotional crisis. Moreover, since attention are what women want, this will be a sort of punishment for her.

Second, when she apologized, you act like you would with a 3yo. Don't make a big deal out of it, she doesn't know better. Women are emotional being. You can scold her a bit, but really just move on. If this happens again and again, ghost.

PreEntertain · 2020-12-03T18:34:44+00:00

"Don't let it happen again." then leave for half an hour.

GilbertoCarlos · 2020-12-03T17:36:35+00:00

Take out your anger on bed with her, and accept women will misbehave sometimes.

testing8382737 · 2020-12-03T19:17:15+00:00

You tell her to get on her knees and suck your cock. Also a good spanking.

SirShaunShaun · 2020-12-03T19:12:11+00:00

“Do not be sorry, be better.”

majordrift · 2020-12-04T00:03:16+00:00

Pretty straight forward of a situation as I lived through this recently with my LTR.

Let her know that if she's going to keep acting like this, you'll leave her ass in the dust. That's it. Don't try to baby her and sound understanding.

Set. Fucking. Boundaries.

ShoulderIsPOPPIN · 2020-12-04T02:33:28+00:00

I don’t know shit about women, but I read somewhere not to say “it’s okay”, but to say, “I accept your apology.” But I would add some gratifying but also lesson-teaching thing like, “as long as this helps you grow as a person.”

XforeveraboveyouX · 2020-12-03T20:43:01+00:00

You need to draw attention to her poor behaviour in that moment. Have a conversation about why she acted out like that

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daproest1 · 2020-12-03T18:42:09+00:00

Man I dealt with this for years. It was a nightmare.

BPasFuck · 2020-12-03T22:41:50+00:00

If it's forgivable, pat her on the ass or top of the head and say 'good girl.'

allday678 · 2020-12-04T04:02:02+00:00

you need to punish her in a sexy playful way

Grave_Heresy · 2020-12-04T04:14:42+00:00

Why not try this question at r / Ask_Simps ? Lol

BemVida · 2020-12-04T09:09:23+00:00

Be honest, communicate what's okay and what's not. If she can't accept how you feel and what you're trying to tell her then she's obviously not worth being with.

laiyaise · 2020-12-04T10:45:58+00:00

Saying you're sorry is only half the work. Ask her how shes going to make it up to you.

PutABabyInThat · 2020-12-04T17:31:40+00:00

"Its nice that you want to apologize, but how are you going to prevent this behavior in the future?"

LemonCakeSalad · 2020-12-03T18:42:54+00:00

Say shut the fuck up crybaby

Jolly_Relative_2105 · 2020-12-04T04:59:21+00:00

“Apology accepted. Thank you.”

Title	How to respond when girlfriend apologizes?
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