What have been your key lessons?

bittr_n_swt · 2016-03-10T10:55:59+00:00

treat women like children, seriously they love it and so will you

TheRedStoic · 2016-03-10T17:44:18+00:00

there's always another hole nearby.
women are children. Act accordingly.
never explain, only order.
I decide on me, she's only allowed to decide her involvement with me.
measurable metrics are required for improvement.
get your finances in order. No debt.
don't ever say more than you have to.
do things, then ask forgiveness.
an argument about beliefs is a justification for wasting time.
don't get married.
if there is nothing legal barring you from walking away, you're making excuses.
women are not friends to men.
do not mistake a comfort test for a shit test. Quick way to ruin a good thing.
selfish charity. Only.
logic is the great bullshit detector. Information is the best tool in your arsenal.
you are what the world sees you do
your value is what the world wants from you
social proof beats almost everything.
as an agent, you act. As a victim you cry out. Don't be the victim.

Trp reinforced these things for me, though honestly I was raised on them from my family.

Post trp? - the world is value. What you give for what you take.

fnordsnord · 2016-03-10T15:43:35+00:00

Abundance mentality:

There are more. There are always more, and this one is not that special.

Plan_of_Action · 2016-03-10T12:33:20+00:00

If you ignore a red pill truth, it will find you. You don't necessarily have to face it immediately, but like an unchecked cancer it will grow under the surface.

It's a lot better to face things (break up with your cheating girl, start working out, finally quit that shitty job) than to face the consequences of putting it off for years, but either way you'll learn the lesson you need to learn if it doesn't kill you first.

iteal · 2016-03-10T14:47:12+00:00

Love yourself, like your life depends on it.

It's also a good book to read by Kamal Ravikant.

medik13 · 2016-03-10T19:33:31+00:00

Before Trp I didn't understand my time/commitment was my trading standard in a relationship

juliusstreicher · 2016-03-11T01:14:38+00:00

You don't spend large amounts of money on a chick unless you've fucked her.

If you haven't got laid by the 3rd or 4th date, you are in the Friend Zone.

Be selfish, and do not be afraid to tell a woman "no", even for no good reason.

Dread.

If she says "I'm not having sex with you", you can probably get sex.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

ice_man_ · 2016-03-10T07:17:24+00:00

Post TRP I was already making some improvements in my life but not nearly enough to see solid results. I was raised to be kind and polite, I still believe in those values but now use them sparingly when earned by others. Being too nice to others, even when I wasn't shown respect made my life very difficult for many years. I try to keep my kindness in check now and treat others according to their attitude.

Learning the concept of keeping frame has help me quite a bit along with refusing to be a doormat/emotional tampon for others has also had an impact on me. I now keep tabs on my posture even when I'm at home, my confidence is now higher than ever.

jcromero · 2016-03-10T18:25:03+00:00

Learning how to seduce is the major basis of properly taking the red pill. Once you know how to seduce women you'll learn to see where your own personal problems are
Women are somewhere between adult and children (the most mature teenager in the house). They're this way because it helps raise kids.
There's no such thing as "the one". It's best to jump ship if you see dark storms ahead, unless you have a valid reason to stay that relates to your own life goals, like children, work, etc.
Everything you do should revolve around your ultimate goals and dreams.
All relationships require work. Sometimes that means being more assertive/dominate, other times that means being more understanding.
The central part of seduction is infringing on a woman's space. They'll appreciate you're boldness rather than you timidity.
Trust your instincts. If something seems off kilter (a woman is sending you covert signals, for instance) follow your impulse.
Be your most authentic self. You can be influenced by the ideas of others, but don't let them bully you. You have the providence to decide what your beliefs are
Always cover your ass, financially, physically, socially, etc. Being a broke, fat, antisocial scumbag will only bring unhappiness to you and everyone else around you
Sometimes you just gotta bustamove to get into her groove.
A woman's love is predicated on your ability to keep her happy. Charles Manson had a girlfriend in her 20s attempt to break him out of prison. She didn't care about his money, she loved how dominant and charming he was. Find out what you bring to the table (charm, status, money, humor, insight, etc.) and use them as your bargaining chips.
No matter what you do, do you. Don't ever let anyone or anything walk all over you. Call them out on it and if they continue that bad behavior just next them.

nastynickdr · 2016-03-10T19:51:50+00:00

Dont be a pushover

Set your boundaries

Follow your own path, dont let others tell you what to do

Dont make any woman the center of your life

Enjoy the ride

DarkisKnight · 2016-03-11T01:09:58+00:00

Women are all the same.

Lifting really is the cornerstone of not only looking the part but developing the mindset.

Stoicism.

stickfiguresk · 2016-03-10T13:41:48+00:00

That's potentially a long reply. My values are the same, but the way I invest time/money/energy is completely different. The most important thing TRP can do for you is scrub out codependancy with the effectiveness of napalm. Don't keep all your eggs in one basket, or don't invest anything you're not prepared to lose.

TRP tenants have mostly been pretty evident to me. Many of us were blessed with already being an asshole before finding TRP. This space, ROK, and the rational male just labeled, documented and measured shit we all experience. The idea of egotistical/female solipsism has been the most valuable to me. Rollo deserves an award for his work on it.

Goldfulgore · 2016-03-10T20:44:02+00:00

I have become a narcissist

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-03-10T21:41:55+00:00

I think I really began to understand once I realized how futile a relationship is with a women- in the traditional sense. You'll soak up the sidebar and quality posts. Then you realize "damn it's appears nearly impossible to have a normal relationship with one of those".

That's when you realize you can't take a woman serious. Therefor neither can you take the relationship serious. When this adds up in your brain and you realize that it's okay to fuck around. That's when you become free and abundance sets in.

Thebigsausagepizza69 · 2016-03-10T22:16:06+00:00

The best lesson that has been ingrained in me has been having the ability to trust myself when I feel something is wrong and having the ability to walk away and not look back. This has been especially helpful when dealing with women and even friends who try to hold you down to their level.

Not surprised by women's behavior but I have awoken to the economics of the red pill and how they incentivize women's behavior. Marriage, divorce, child support, false allegations, etc. The Federal Reserve printing money to infinity with no backing (fiat currency), debts owed all over the place, unbacked liabilities, tax money being wasted on welfare recipients and assorted stupid shit.

My life has changed for the better because I realize most of the people walking around are sheep and totally clueless. Most people are out of shape, absorbed in their cell phones totally unaware, and on apps that do not matter. I'm aware of what is going on today and have begun preparing by investing in myself (exercise, eating well, gaining skills) and making moves economically by investing in tangible assets.

Title	What have been your key lessons?
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Date	March 10, 2016 7:03 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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