Is this a red flag?

SadClownProstitute · 2020-09-22T13:09:21+00:00

Wait what?

He's using a parking ticket as an excuse to have a conversation about getting you to pay for 50% of your dates from now on?

He was waiting around looking for any excuse about how to bring up the fact that you're too expensive for him to spend time with?

The point isn't that he asked you to go 50/50 - obviously that's something you guys would have needed to resolve somehow, and I'm one of those weirdos who will happily go along with a man spending less as long as he's putting more effort into planning - the point is that he wedged that conversation in during a discussion about a parking ticket.

And now you're going to suggest doing low-cost activities? To me, that sounds like you've got a lot of low-effort dates in your future.

The request itself isn't the issue, the fact that he shoehorned it in like that is.

tallwomenneedlovetoo · 2020-09-22T13:45:05+00:00

Yes. It is a red flag.

One college parking ticket = $75

50% of every date for just one single month of continuing to date this scrote (@ 1 date p/week with cost of 50 p/date) = $100

Dumping him and recognizing that you deserve to be treated like a queen = priceless

*Bonus attorney tip - if you get expensive parking tickets ESPECIALLY IN COLLEGE, go to your court date and speak with the solicitor, explain the circumstances and your limited means as a student and it’s very likely they will reduce the fee!

2020-09-22T16:57:46+00:00

I would see it as a red flag.

I would think he is not that into you as a human being. He is a fuckboy playing the long game. A man that is into you pays and provides, because they want to impress you.

You have not slept with him yet, so he is cutting his cost down by suggesting 50/50.

Don’t be naive about his true nature. Do not romanticize him. Women gain nothing from that.

He feels like he has invested (5 dates) so he doesn’t want to give up on having sex with you, which he feels entitled to by now. He’s played the game right, done everything right.

He will hope you will accept this 50/50 shit and he is counting on your good nature and naïveté so he can get what he wants from you (sex) without spending anymore money.

He is using the ticket as an excuse for you go half on all dates from now on. That’s my opinion on this situation.

dzgata · 2020-09-22T15:51:39+00:00

Red flag. Don’t continue dating him.

I’ve had multiple men pay for me EVERY date. And they paid for my Ubers. There are men who aren’t stingy so why waste time with a bum?

Hhjjuuy · 2020-09-22T19:12:53+00:00

I agree with everyone else that his whole approach here is a huge red flag and says a lot about his intentions and likely resentment if you. I wanted to focus on this though:

We agreed to date exclusively but I think it’s still too early to enter a relationship with him so we’re not there yet.

Why? If you've judged it to be too early to commit to this guy, why have you committed to him? Adding these nuanced stages to dating only muddies the water as young along and is also likely part of why he's jumped on this chance to start investing so much less into you. He's already got you. He's won. You've committed to him and he doesn't even have to bother doing the things that you expect from a real relationship.

Sea_Soil · 2020-09-22T16:32:25+00:00

Red flag. That's so rude of him, tbh.

heliodrome · 2020-09-23T12:10:34+00:00

Block and delete

basicbagels · 2020-09-22T19:54:55+00:00

Yes a huge red flag. It’s his car, his responsibility. Block and move on

2020-09-22T20:39:18+00:00

Originally I tried to find any way to justify this. I can’t. He wants 50/50 there is no excuse I can justify to explain this.

cryptohobo · 2020-09-23T03:34:48+00:00

Honestly what I think would be the bigger flag here is how he reacted to the ticket on the dash. Did he have a meltdown? Take it with grace? Shove his fist in the air?

Title	Is this a red flag?
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Date	September 22, 2020 12:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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