Reflecting. I remember once talking "sexy" to the ex demon and saying something along the lines of "I can't wait till we're moaning/hearing you moaning from us getting down and dirty" The whole dirty talk thing is so degrading and I was never "good" at it and my attempts were like what I've written above. Nothing about gagging or being choked. I tried to be frisky sounding but it always felt forced because it was and because I thought that was one of the many things I was supposed to do.

His response though to what I said was "I don't moan" and I said "why? , doesn't everyone if they're enjoying themselves and are feeling pleasure?"

He just doubled down on it and tried to make feel stupid for even suggesting that a man would moan during sex.

It's no surprise that during the times we did get intimate that it was horrible and he was literally supressing any sort of moan or audible noise of pleasure. He just grunted or breathed heavily. Copying porn of course. It just felt so odd to have only that experience.

I know that it was some disgusting porn induced delusion and/or some fear of being called gay (men literally won't wash their ass because it's "gay") so I guess moaning is "gay" too?

Is this common? Did you experience a man purposefully withholding something as natural as a moan during sex?