Queens, I finally did it- I now have no sexual attraction to men who don’t put in effort

First, I thought it was my hormones. Second, I thought maybe the mood isn’t right, but nope, no matter how steamy things got, I could not get in the mood. And I left without losing dignity. I am more attracted to myself because at least I can put in the time, effort and appreciation needed to get me where I need to be. I need patience, passion, and emotional intimacy in order to be there.