"Communication" has long been used on Reddit and IRL as the catch-all solution to any relationship difficulties. "There's a problem in the relationship? The answer must be to communicate more, or better. You've done that and it still isn't fixed? Just keep doing the same thing, but more of it. That'll fix it for sure!"

When the problem is a simple miscommunication, more/better communication is indeed the solution. But in situations where the other person doesn't care about your side of the issue, or in situations where the other person understands where you're coming from and still behaves poorly, trying to solve the problem by using more communication is going to do jack shit.

So why is this partial advice treated as a relationship panacea? Because, for the most part, people don't have any other options.

PUA Polyamory is about being treated well and stepping away from relationships that aren't giving you what you need ("Nexting"). For whatever reason, almost nobody is willing to Next a person who treats them poorly, which means that the only option left is to negotiate and hope that things change.

Sometimes they do. Often they don't. And when they don't it causes drama, unhappiness, and frustration.

Every single person I've talked to has stated that "drama is inevitable within a relationship." I suspect that it's because nobody is willing to Next their partner for poor behavior. With no Nexting ability, the only other path is "communication", and the drama it entails.

Personally, I've never had a long talk with my significant other in the hopes that things would change. I haven't had to. If I'm not being treated well, I just go elsewhere. Simple, easy, done. Shockingly, this means I have almost zero drama in any of my relationships.

Go figure. ;)