An otherwise fine RP woman, got (too) drunk Saturday night. After the bar, we stop at a diner. Before leaving, she got pissed when I told her she owed $3 (more than she put down) on the tab. She paid up, but started a silent treatment. I laughed it off, finished my coffee and said, "Let's get out of here." I head out the door, but she doesn't follow.
I go sit in my car and wait. About 5 minutes later, I see in my rearview mirror that she finally comes out, but heads toward the street. I roll down my window, "Hey!" She continues on down the road. I pull up next to her on the 6 lane highway, put on my hazards and ask, "What are you doing?" "You left me." "I was waiting for you." "You left me!" She doesn't stop walking. "Well, do you want your shit or what?" "Yea."
I pull up a bit, into a driveway and pop the trunk. She grabs her purse and I get out, hand her her phone and glasses from the console. "Thanks." "Alright, see ya."
I get in my car and kick it down the highway. We were about 3 miles from her house, but her car is at my apartment 10 miles away. She starts calling. "What?" "You left me." "No, you left me. You wanted to walk home. You got it." She called a few more times, I told her I was turning off my phone and I did. I get to my place, get in bed and charge my phone - which turned it back on. BING BING BING BING BING ...20 text messages, 6 VMs.
"I'm here. Just let me up (to the apartment) to get my shit." I'm sort of in shock that she is at my place already, wtf. I text her back, tell her to ring the door and I buzz her in. I gather up all her shit (a small duffle bag of cloths and makeup, her laptop) and set it all by the door.
She comes in very upset, "Are we done? Is this it?" "I'm not putting up with this drama. You are not staying here, tonight. Get your shit and go. My only question is how the fuck did you get here so quick?" "A friend brought me." "A friend? At 2am?" "Well, a stranger, I don't know...someone stopped for me." Wow.
"You really want me to go?" "Yes, you are not staying here. I want you to leave, now." She is upset and getting more upset. Over and over, she asks if I really want her to leave. She blurts out that she loves me - first time that has been said in our 4 months relationship - of course, she said it out of desperation, not wanting to lose me. On and on and on, but I'm calm and resolute. "Yes, I want to you leave. Do I have to call the cops?" I grab my phone.
She gets close, slaps me hard and hammer punches my chest, once. I yell at her, "Don't fucking touch me!"
I dial the phone and tell the cops to come. While she is getting her shit together and I'm talking to the police she saying, "I'm going, I'm going. Hang up on the cops." The cops are on their way and I hang up the phone. She's standing in the doorway with her foot in the door, not letting me close it. She's crying and begging to stay, "How are you so cold to me?" I tell her she has flipped the switch, what was on is now off. She needs to leave, that I will press charges.
Finally, she walks away, goes down to the garage and continues texting me.
The cop shows up and I tell him "it took calling you guys to finally get her to leave," but I didn't mention the battery. He says to call back, if she comes back and then he leaves. I text her, "The police are here. I'm turning off my phone. If you bother me again, I will put them on you." "Really?" "go away"
Sunday, all day, she texts and calls. She apologizes for everything, reiterates her love for me - she says anything and everything - EXCEPT, she doesn't say a word about hitting me. I don't respond to any of it. Finally, she stops for a couple hours. I talk to one of my best friends about it. He says I should give her something. So, around 5pm, I text her, “I need a week." She says, "ok"
I honestly don’t know what I think about the violence. My previous LTR pushed me, once. These are the first times any woman has ever laid a hand on me. I made it very clear (at the time) to my old girl that she should never touch me out of anger. This current LTR heard that story and should (IMO) know better than to hit me.
I anticipated resolving the $3 drama with time apart, but her hitting me ...I'm not sure I am willing to forgive it.
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Thanks guys. All input is/was appreciated.
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