Does anyone have any insight into whether and how the tenets and strategies of MRP might be different where wife is a survivor of childhood abuse?

EDIT: I should 'fess up, this question was prompted by a fuck up on my part. I tried to initiate last night and was shot down (as usual). Wife was a little bit out of her frame, though. A little defensive and unsure. So I pressed ahead until I got a very firm no. I lost OI, got into an argument with her, and ended up telling her "fuck you." I wanted her to know how bad I felt, I guess. Totally fucked up.

This morning I'm acting as if nothing at all happened yesterday, just my usual cheerful IDGAF self, and she's mostly doing the same. I'd call it a setback, but that would imply that I was otherwise making progress.