Chad

Man, there's some asinine questions in AMRP lately, reminds me of the old adeage I was told early on. It was mostly geared towards working out, but I'll bet it would help in most areas.

That image of Chad you have in my head? Muscle-head who gets girls, etc. In traditional Nietzsche fashion, that envy of a cock sure man who gets girls taught me a few things. (envy is inspirational/aspirational IMO)

You know what Chad does? Wakes up, he eats, goes to the gym, comes home, talks to his phone harem about his needs, gets them, or moves on and eats lunch. What an idiot. If only he was more self aware. It's just too bad that he's focused on his singular vision. Happiness.

Thinking isn't helpful in singular focus

Know what? You know what thinking does? Thinking helps think up excuses asshole. Thinking points out all the reasons something won't work. The "smarter" I am, the more I think, the more these excuses make sense. I had an early OYS that I admitted I was a very smart guy, and it wasn't meant as a compliment. I truly believe that.

The greatest curse of the intelligent person is that he can rationalize anything

Here's where I ramble:

You know what smart guys do? Have most things come easily and naturally. Know what to do when something isn't immediately clicking? Give up, because I am 'a smart man' and if something doesn't come naturally, just quit:

  1. I'm smart, so I'll build up a narrative that placates my ego, and I don't have to test my identity further.
  2. I could have done better if I applied myself, so it's clearly that I didn't, and not that I'm not gifted in everything.

So I used to ignore things that you don't immediately master, because the alternative is to admit that this ID I have of being the 'intelligent man' is more important than truth, growth, or success. Tell me that's not the epitome of BP bullshit. I don't miss that shit at all, kind of freeing really. I no longer have anxiety for being less than perfect in things, and no one cared anyways.

The point(back to)

Want abundance?

Have a situation you don't know how to deal with?

Don't know how to deal with being locked out of your own house?

Just stop thinking. Go to the gym, have some rolled oats and a fried egg, hit on the chick at home. If she shoots you down? Go do something else, pay it no mind, turn off the brain. Stop thinking about how she hasn't desired you better, stop thinking that whatever reason she's chirping at you has any importance. She starts 'talking' at 10pm? Go to sleep, tell her to write it down and you'll read it in the morning.

Personal story.

Had a good laugh this morning, realized I was doing it.

I finally got the perfect styling of my hair today after my cut last week. Was going to skip the gym, because then it would be all fucked up and I won't shower till tomorrow, spouse is in need of comfort today and ...

oh FFS, so I'll throw up a post, and I'm headed downstairs afterwards to work out. Then I'm going to have another 4 coffee's. Fuck you brain... fuck you.

Know the alternative?

Spouse is having some overthinking panic at work this week. Totally normal for her situation, and I've been there. It's not something wrong with her, it's just a matter of not getting sucked into everyone elses bullshit. Gave her my old navy smarties (adivan) and told her to leave them in her purse, just having them available if needed will be enough, call me if you decide to take one.

Morning of shit tests. Just like /u/bogey06 said this morning in a comment, try poking fun at her pet peeve and holding frame. Thought for a moment he was watching my life and commenting. She gets pissy, then she laughs, then pissy again. It's all in her head, and the last thing anyone needs is to make it a reality.

this could have gone the other way so easily

I could be in damage control mode, walking on eggshells, treating her like she was made of porcelain, assuring her (because I can fix other people right?) and sitting at Starbucks, running my hands through my perfectly trimmed quaff, getting fatter off of vente fraps, worried about how I can keep this house from crumbling around me.

Granted, by writing this, I'm thinking about it a lot more than I should, but we can't all be Jesus now can we?


Just stop thinking so damned much. Do things that make you happy, take care of your responsibilities, and carry on. Want to know what to think about when X happens?

Don't, you got better things to do.