**A deadbedroom Once in a blue moon I browse through /r/deadbedrooms to remind me where I am coming from. Most of us know that this is a very depressing place and it is hard to endure, how many people live in denial about their relationship.

But some posts can be interesting, today I found this one. Its title say I had sex with a turtle today

**Rape

But my wife turtled up during sex by putting a blanket over her head (like a turtle hiding its head) and laid perfectly motionless (like a turtle) as I thrust away

She hides herself under a blanket while getting fucked. This behaviour might be a little bit extreme, but it’s a great example. Obviously hiding is a way to avoid intimacy with her husband. Even more hiding is a very natural tactic to escape a unpleasant situation.

Why is the situation unpleasant for her?

Because she doesn’t want to have sex with her husband/partner. She has no desire to get fucked by him. The reason she allows him to fuck her, is that she feels forced to endure it. The enforcement is caused by social pressure (being married), economical reason (him being the provider).

So my fellow man, what do you a call a person, who’s sexual consent is enforced by violence or psychological pressure? A rape victim.

I’m pretty sure, this woman will show the same psychological patterns as a rape victim in the long run. She’ll feel used after her husband pulls out his penis, she’ll be unhappy.

As state before this behaviour (hiding) is a bit extreme, but starfish sex is basically the same response to a beta prover. We all know that a women’s subcortical brain structures, which control her reproductive behaviour, will make feel disgusted by the sexual advances by a beta and make her avoid sex with him.

It’s out of question, that self-improvement is not only the best for yourself, but essential for your partner’s/wife’s mental health. Remember every time you fucked your wife after you showed low value behaviour, she’s going to feel like shit. In some case she’s going to feel like she’s been raped. (Her being wet doesn’t mean shit – it’s a mechanism to avoid injuries while getting penetrated)