So to follow up my last post - she came home later that night. But since Sunday she's been basically living in the guest room.

I've reread mmslp and nmmng in my free time now. Clearly I've been lacking in the leadership dept. So in the minimal contact we've had, I've tried to maintain frame. I owned up to my mistake and made it clear my intent to move on.

Last night, we had tickets to a show that we had from before the blow up, and so that morning her and I agreed we'd go. She made a big deal of "putting her ring back on and making a last hurrah" - which I just ignored and said I'd see her at 6. And we went, had dinner, saw the show, lovely time, normal conversation. Then we get home and quickly she's back to the guest room with out so much as a "good night".

This morning it's still been the silent treatment. When she walks by I'll simply say good morning, how are you, and act like everything is cool. And she gives me a "I'm not ready"

So I'm trying to maintain frame. Do I just let this silent treatment, living in the other side of the house game continue until she gets tired? That's been my strategy so far. But I don't know if I'm missing a comfort test in there somewhere.

Oh and before this derails - I'm at least 99% certain that it isn't another guy involved. I've done my homework - I'd rather not go into some of the more stalker shit I had to do, but it was extensive and there isn't a shred of evidence.