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Can She Keep Up?

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January 13, 2019
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Like the title says. Been owning shit around the house (inside and out) because that's what I want to do. One room was a particular disaster and typically unorganized. After drinking a coffee and watching opening speech of Patton to the 3rd Army I get into things. Organizing and getting shit together. She comes by and says something to the effect of "In our years of marriage, this never bothered you". (Note - wasn't bothering me... Just getting shit done). I told her she could fetch me a beer and I could sit on the couch and watch the game (I could give a fuck about pro sports), smirked, and kept on my business.

Next thing I know, wife is vacuuming, dusting, and all kinds of other shit like it's a race of some sort and is trying to keep up. Mind you, I slept in to 6:30 am and had been doing other shit for the past 3 or 4 hours already.

Question - Is this a typical occurrence as you're working your way through MRP? She's acknowledged my physical and mental changes and in either case I could give no fucks. I'm sure it's her trying to hang onto what she's losing control of. I'm just curious about any of your observations and experiences.


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Title Can She Keep Up?
Author Spock_Vs_Spock
Upvotes 13
Comments 32
Date 13 January 2019 06:45 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203680
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/afmbzr/can_she_keep_up/
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[–][deleted] 40 points41 points  (3 children) | Copy

You displayed a milligram of leadership and she followed. Keep going and up the dosage.

[–]NorthernWarriorRP8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Can confirm this happens

[–]SeamusAwl4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Can confirm again that it happens. Alot.

[–]haraishi5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can confirm also, mrs takes it as a challenge of sorts and feels like im challenging her turf. I just see shit that needs to be done then do it.

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Look woman. I lead. Look at me looking at myself lead. Me Man.

Good job now shut up like it’s not a big deal because you adulted today

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy

Has been typical for me...without fail, if I start cleaning something inside the house, my wife acts like she has failed in her duties and steps up immediately to finish the job. She apologized to me a few weeks ago after I vacuumed the den. She's started packing my lunches, makes sure dinner is ready when I get home, etc.

I take it as the rope tightening and her trying hard to add value to a high value man's life. Whatever the reason, I like it and rewards her good behavior

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

And that is what I was thinking myself. She's made more comments lately about how I'm better at XYZ compared to her and basically her verbalizing how she's failing at whatever. Just curious to see where I am along the journey. Insight appreciated.

[–]CaliEd2562 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Amen brother. If you don’t need her to clean, and you’re hot enough to fuck other women, then truly what do you need her for?

And that’s a perfect place to be.

“Follow my lead, or someone else will.”

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

True. It's definitely been a slow March towards progress but I have no regrets and am liking the man I'm becoming.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

You’re overthinking it. You did some work, and it motivated her to do some more. Quit mind tripping- it puts you in her frame.

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds good

[–]MrTrizzles3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Come back and ask us in a year. That’s when it counts.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red10 points11 points  (9 children) | Copy

i told her...

Fuck you motherfucking faggots need to learn to STFU and the power of the shoulder shrug.

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[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Banned. Though I'll leave the comment up.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cause of too many exclamation marks?

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

B - b- but he’s doing chorework... a-a-and he doesn’t even care about pro sports

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Noted. Thanks

[–]Kpwn882 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

she could fetch me a beer and I could sit on the couch and watch the game

Sounds like a DARE, not a DEER... carry on, OP

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ah yeah.

Dare your woman for you to be a beta faggot.

So fucking alpha.

[–]Kpwn886 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everything is going to be ok, red. Just show me on the doll where reddit hurt you.

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You lead she follows. It’s kinda the entire gist of this sub.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is this a typical occurrence as you're working your way through MRP?

Yes.

She's acknowledged my physical and mental changes and in either case I could give no fucks.

The idea is to not GAF about your validation and thus kill it. The idea is to be a strong leader, NOT to not GAF about your wife.

I'm sure it's her trying to hang onto what she's losing control of.

Lots of women clean frantically when they want more "control." You could give her something else to handle- like learning how to deep throat?

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Get used to her shit tests getting worse as you progress through your map. You’ve been a faggot drunk captain for so long. She doesn’t believe it’s realz yet.

[–]rAFCdadHUSBAND3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

I actually wish to 2nd this. Remember that when you run the MAP, it *often* results in positive change. But for a smaller % of wives, it leads to fear of not being in control - this was my situation - and she left altogether.

RedPill is good, Alpha is good - but you married this woman. A little Beta comfort now and then is necessary since, after all, you married her. You can go all-hardarse-all-the-time if you want but she may eventually leave.

[–]CaliEd2560 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Expand on her leaving? Pretty surprising outcome, usually the rope tightens (slowly or quickly), and they come right along.

Would be interested to hear synopsis of the story.

[–]rAFCdadHUSBAND0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I'm only speaking about my personal case:- I was Full beta, dead bedroom marriage.

My ex was a controlling person and i thought we were being 'equal'.

I took Trp and thought 'thank god this makes sense'.

I read and learnt the 48 laws of power, the up shot being that her manipulations all became transparent.

I was running the MAP hard, but she just took it to mean that i was having an affair bcos i was getting very fit, and never got bitter or upset when there was no sex like i used to previously.

Conclusion: i successfully made necessary changes but, it was too little too late for my marriage. The ex is not someone who can cope not being in charge. And i was still learning.

Athol Kay made it clear that dread often creates better behavior from the wife - but occasionally the divorce is unavoidable. I was the smaller number where things were terminal anyway.

Right now I'm off to the gym for the 4th day in a row doing 6w2shred and 3rd day of keto using meal prep and the r/keto beginner guide.

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Have you done 6w2shred in the past? It's been about 10 years since I've seen 10% bf and that's the goal

[–]rAFCdadHUSBAND0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In the past i focused more on bulking programs ... it was my excuse to eat badly.

So no, this will be my first time.

I really really hate cardio lol

[–]Spock_Vs_Spock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks man

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A good partner builds on your actions. You sharpen each other, you push each other.

Reciprocation is natural in a relationship with a giver. If you got one she's a keeper. The toxic shit withers and she flourishes with you, recognizes you got the water out of the boat and took the wheel.

I don't know your wife, so I don't know about future trouble, if she keeps it up reward her. If she falters or gets blustery try to see through to what's really eating at her.

Be entertained, but be supportive. Don't take any shit, but deflect it and solve the issue.

Take her out, talk about things that aren't boring and repetitive. Don't bitch about life with her, talk about how fucking cool and interesting shit is. How great it is to work together etc etc.

Pull her into your frame and get her comfortable there. Maybe she'll just behave. When she doesn't you know what to do, or you research and take action.



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