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Make new couple friends?

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August 13, 2018
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I think this is relevant here.

First, what are some good ways to make new couple friends?

My wife & I have several, but it seems like they are often too busy. So secondly, how do you increase your value so that friends want to hang out with you/reach out to you more?

Aka what is the redpill version of increasing your value for friendship?


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Title Make new couple friends?
Author Idunnowhy2
Upvotes 6
Comments 17
Date 13 August 2018 03:43 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204106
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/96zdiw/make_new_couple_friends/
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[–]helaughsinhidden10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here you go.

  1. Find cool shit in your area that YOU like to do. Concerts, hiking, boating, sporting events, stand up comedians, movies, bbq, cars n coffee, gambling, wine tasting, restaurants, golfing, under water basket weaving (jk), etc. Not here to judge what you do, but just find something you and your wife think is fun and keep it in mind, like with your memory.
  2. As you live your life, make small talk with other humans part of your normal activities. Practice often so you don't sound like Data from Star Trek. Ask questions, nod agree, ask more questions as they talk and mention anything of interest.
  3. When you identify something they say interesting, ask what kind of shit they like to do regarding that topic. Example; they mention the word handicap and aren't in a wheelchair. You ask "are you a golfer?". He says "Yeah, but not really good" You say, "Me either, but they let you drink and drive, right!". He laughs, you tell an anecdotal story of a golf thing that you did.
  4. Then you mention your wife likes to come with but just to drive the cart, so you say something like "We were thinking of going to a new course next week, how about you join?".
  5. Give absolutely no shits about his wife and your wife getting along. If you do, you are living in her frame. Plus, most women do not like each other, so just drag them along anyway.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you have kids, then parents of other kids are front-runners.

If you have kids, then clubs and sports are fantastic options; your participation is great for both you and your kids.

Otherwise - kids or not - there are a few things I've noticed over time:

  • Be thoughtful. The most popular people I know are thoughtful. They remember birthdays, they remember events, they create events. They go out of their way to be in your face, especially when it's important for you.
  • Take initiative. The most popular people I know take initiative, they don't wait to be called, they do the calling.
  • Be stimulating. The most popular people I know ask questions and stimulate conversation. They challenge you to use your mind.
  • Be charismatic. The most popular people I know are charismatic. They light up a room.
  • Be active. The most popular people I know are very active. They go places and do things. Cool places and cool things. As a result, they meet lots of other people, often like-minded people.
  • Be a connector. The most popular people I know connect people. The more people the better. Super connectors are impressive specimens of life.
  • Achieve power. The very most popular people I know are all those things above and powerful, too. Wealthy, successful, and generally ahead-of-the-game. They seem to have the world at their proverbial fingertips, and people are attracted to them.

[–]iloveairplane4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

groupon type activities (wine tours, wine and painting classes, sunset cruises, concerts, segway tours, progressive dinner tours, etc - usually have couples). Church (if you go). PTO and kids sport involvement (if you have kids).

Lead your wife and demonstrate your high value by being the one who introduces yourself to the other people in the group and introducing them to her.

Raise your "hang out value" by doing exciting things often and inviting others to join often. (also wearing deodorant helps)

[–]helaughsinhidden1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

segway tours

?!?

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

First off, why do they have to be "couple friends"?

If only there were a sidebar book that talked about how to win friends and influence people.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just be interested in people, they can talk for hours and hours about themselves.

The same rule applies to people that applies to females. Watch their actions and you can tell what their desires are.

Someone into fitness will be carrying their food. Someone into golf will have a faggy glove or a set of gold clubs. They might have golf magazines around their desk. That's why people suggest you going to places you are interested in to look for friends.

I read it somewhere and it's stick in my head and has proven true by my life experience.

Stop worrying about being interesting and more about being interested.

Ask people questions and actually listen to what they say, don't use the time they are talking to try and think of something cool to say. Actually listen.

Don't think about YOU getting friends.

And fuck your god dam wife. Leave that woman at home. Make some male friends outside of your marriage. The way your post is written you sound like a blue pill pussy faggot.

You want to spend more time with your wife? Wtf~~~

[–]nantucketghost1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think it’s really depends on your age. As you get older your friends constantly change. Most people I know or hang out with today revolve around where I live. We have three or four really good neighbors who live in the area we do things with now and then.

Of course as I have moved the people I used to hang out with I no longer see. Not by choice, but mostly due to convenience.

Another great way to meet people or through clubs

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What is the redpill version of increasing your value for friendship?

Imo, it's all the same...friendships and relationships. I have a pretty new friend that has complained about his old buddies never coming around, not staying in touch and so on. It was pretty off putting when he started in on me with the whole "I never hear from ya" bs. Comes across as needy and makes even the thought of hanging out with him exhausting.

I also have lifelong friends that go MONTHS without hearing a word from me. When we all get together though, we pick right up where we left off.

Don't be needy. Hang out and have a good time. Do your own thing while they're doing theirs. As far as making new friends, the possibilities are endless, but the rules of engagement are all the same. Be an attractive, not unattractive, friend lol.

[–]CalvinRichland1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

For me it has been a lot of luck. Find a dude you like doing stuff with in your same life phase and then test out the girls together and see if they get along. If it works out they will take over a lot of the social planning.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Am I the only person not looking for new friends?

If you both own your own businesses you must come into contact with a lot of people. I can't imagine asking if they want to do something at night would be difficult. They perhaps may think you are swingers however.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Am I the only person not looking for new friends?

I'm in this same boat. I lead a pretty boring life, but, I've got some exciting 'friends'. I don't really like people, but, we have common interests...guns. They range from yuppies to unemployed factory workers, and they keep inviting me to go out with them. I don't really know why they like me...I'm at least 20 years older than them, have less money than them, am less attractive than them...I guess that in my work, I just stumbled onto people with common gun interests.

[–]lostinpatagonia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am really starting to see the value in befriending people(couples) that are older than me(us). If you pick them right, the wisdom and the maturity that comes from them helps you grow and get your shit tighter. I also have firsthand experience about what happens when you start befriending couple that don't have their shit together, their instability can rub off on you and your partner. So CHOOSE the couples you want to befriend.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine-5 points-4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Gay post.

How do I make friends mommy?

[–]DeplorableRay6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Really? He isn’t talking about just making friends, he’s specifically asking about making couple friends, that both he and his wife can enjoy. I have plenty of friends my wife doesn’t particularly want to take to a spend a night on the town with. It makes red pill sense because social proof is one of the basics. He wants to make friends that he can display his value with in front of his wife.

We’re all here because we lacked/regressed from a state of personal frame. Perhaps this is a weakness of his he is improving. That’s fair.

What’s gay about improving your social skill set?

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Unless he’s asking about how to fuck these other couples, it’s a homosexual post.



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