Hello all, Im looking for tips to deal with my ex-wife. We are currently in the middle of a divorce (the documents will go to the courts hopefully next week) from my wife of 10 years. We have a 3 year old together, and co-parent.
I find that I am still having trouble caring about what she does, but am trying to create more of an attitude of indifference. I avoid her social media when possible, and limit our conversations to about our son. I had 2 specific questions:
She occasionally asks me to take my son for an extra day/evening to help her out. I always do this, because I want to spend as much time with my kid as possible. However, she basically gets to have her cake and eat it too. Also, I do not think she has any respect for me in general, and my helping all the time probably makes this worse. Should I take a different approach?
Should I be acting more friendly towards her? The goal is to have a good relationship for our son, but she fucked me over very badly. I mostly go between anger and indifference, but would it be more optimal to just act normal and friendly?
I am focussing on my mission, and trying to let go of what happens to her. This is sometimes hard, especially as everything with her appears to be going 'wonderfully'. Any thoughts about how to let go of my anger?