I am posting in this sub than asktrp hoping that i will get more balanced answer as the married guys has lot to lose than the trp guys. My question is when to mate guard and when not to. I am having a difficulty to understand this concept.

I do understand that mate guarding is beta and "betas mate guard and alphas disregard". However,I would like to learn a bit more about this in broad manner than simply parroting something.

I do understand that we should constantly improve ourselves and maintain abundance mentality and SMV and be the best version of ourselves. But on the other hand in real world we are only one guy. there are many other men who has same or higher SMV than us. Also, even we have high SMV or the best than the rest, there is no guarantee that things will not go south even the other guy has lot less smv than us.

I do understand that we have to set the boundaries at the beginning but even though those boundaries are set, there can be instances that wife can test those boundaries time to time.

Also, when chosen not to mate guard and being alpha, how to act/ know in an instance when your wife wish that you would mate guard.

One can argue this is just fear due to not having abundance mentality. What i am asking is, just like we should have balanced alpha and beta qualities in order to maintain a good LTR / married life, is there a balanced way of mate guarding or mate guarding in a "alpha" way than "beta" way?

Further i would be grateful if you could give examples for easier understanding. (i am not a native English speaker)