I am finding myself disappointed with my wife displaying some low value traits. In the past this would have caused me to react in anger, trying to explain it to her, and end up in a fight.
This particular trait, is her loosing her shit when things get tough/stressed, it comes out, when she needs to be strong... Right now we are in a process of selling one house, finishing off new house, planning move, new place gardening, new place decorating, as well as the usual day to day stuff, and kids. She is just not coping with it all, and feels overwhelmed, and wants to hide her head in the sand. Anything happens now, and she is on a phone to me having a melt down, even little things, even when I am taking care of it.
I try and manage her as best as I can, provide comfort as needed, deal with shit tests, try and be fun/light hearted about the whole process (seriously: how bad is it, when you can afford to build a new house how you want it...) negate her negative views, paint an exciting picture of my vision in regards to the new house, and future projects. Booked a weekend away, next week, to let her rest, distract her from everything. I am organizing, and dealing with all tradesman, lining everyone up, dealing with issues as the arise. I am handling it all well, in fact I am finding myself looking forward to challenges now, as it pushes my comfort zone, and I feel like I am growing from it all. Taking care of what needs to be done. I have not lost my cool at all over past 4-6 weeks.
But this trait is bugging me... Its bugging me for a couple of reasons:
When she acts like that, I find her unattractive, I feel like I want to distance myself from her...
I need to rely on my wife to handle shit in my absence. If I am not there for whatever reason (work, illness) I would like to know she will hold the fort until I get there.
In the past I was butt hurt, and angry. I am neither of those now, but feel a niggling disappointment, that I can't shake off.
I am not sure if it still my ego, or maybe its just time, until she realizes that everything will be taken care off, and she can relax, or maybe it is her ...
What are your thoughts gents?