First of all i would like to excuse my errors(english is not my native language). Lets start from the beginning. Im a 26y/o M. Been married for 3 years.
When we fell in love all was well. We did a lot of stuff we hardly ever argued. But since the moment we got married. It kinda went downhill(ups and downs but it seems like all i can remember are the downs). We have a lovely daughter of 2 y/o.
My first fckup was that i never told her she was becoming a little obese. Ofcourse she noticed the less attraction less sex etc. So i straight up told her i wasnt a man enough to tell her that in our first year. Since that moment she has been throwing that shit in my face. It doesnt matter what i do it always end up with something like: 'you never loved me' 'why am i even trying? You think of me as a fat person'.
Even tho she lost a lot of weight and im superproud.. she wont believe my compliments..
Since mrp things are slowly getting better. I started lifting again. Starting to at least be a little manly(take the lead.. not doubting etc). I know i camt use this as an excuse but i fcked up telling her im emotionally kind of a closed person because of my youth. At the moment she understand and is all sweet but tje next moment she can blow up if i (for example forget something at the grocery store) and then the WHOLE story gets brought up about me lying about her weight and how shes not the one for me.
I know she has daddy issues. I know i need to treat her like a lil daughter and take the lead. She even told me she wanted me tk man up.
But fck this is hard. Its againdr my nature. Im used to stfu and do what was told. Beaten and never to complain.
How do i become a real leader and earn her respect. I have read nmmng and that shit was soo meeee. I have still got a lot to learn and im so gratefull. But i just wanted to share my feelings since i cant and wont ever do it to any woman... ever again.
Excuse my fcktard story. Its all messy im sorry..