How to balance "You are not a snowflake" and "You are the prize"?

The_Litz · 2017-04-02T10:04:42+00:00

What was first, the chicken or the egg?

Guys self sabotage because their thinking is that they do not deserve to be the prize. I find entitlement to be more prevalent than high self esteem. And entitlement is the fuel for covert contracts.

High self esteem, to me, is more akin to self actualisation, reaching for the higher levels on Maslow's hierarchy.

Low self esteem can sprout from any number of problems in your life. How you deal with problems, not the problems themselves, makes you a resilient man, leading to high self esteem. This is also tied in with stoicism, how you engage your world.

It is all knit picking in the end. Philosophers talk to much and fuck too little. Direct translation from ancient Litz-nese transcripts.

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Auvergnat · 2017-04-02T09:17:09+00:00

I agree with his comment on a whole minus the last part.

I agree men's main issue definitely is a lack of masculinity. I agree what they're wrong in perceiving their problem to be a lack of self-esteem: their main problem is a lack of success due to a lack of masculinity. Low self-esteem is the result of the lack of success, and it's not in attending your low self-esteem that you will cure the underlying issue. If anything, as long as you remain unsuccessful, the low self-esteem will persist. Low self-esteem is your body's way to urge you to get successful already.

Given this, I think most non-masculine western men will have low self-esteem. Just see how many men are clinically depressed. Those that have high self-esteem are those who are successful. And the more successful the more self-esteem.

So in that respect, I'll disagree with /u/Archwinger that modern men have high self-esteem. We have a lot of entitlement and expectations, but they don't come from a high self-esteem.

Your best rule of thumb is always to err on the side of too much boldness. Believe you're special. Believe you're the prize. Believe you're entitled to pussy. Show abundance mentality and prize mentality, even if underneath you have low self-esteem. Just fucking believe it, then reap the sexual rewards of it, and the low self-esteem will turn into a high one.

losingmymind70 · 2017-04-02T11:58:42+00:00

In the context of your relationship with a woman, you are the prize, not her. You do things because you want to do them, because they are part of your mission, because they lead to self-improvement, not in an attempt to gain favor or win her as a prize.

In the context of your relationship with the larger world, you are one man among many. You are not a special snowflake and are not exempt from having to do the work and put in the time to improve yourself.

man_in_the_world · 2017-04-02T12:24:22+00:00

"You are the prize" because of the real value you bring (earned), rather than just because you're special little snowflake you (entitlement).

screechhater · 2017-04-02T12:28:16+00:00

This is exactly how you deal with it mentally

Tracffic rules on the highway are in place for a reason. Ignore at you peril

Adhering to the rules, then Texting while driving, turns you into that special snowflake.

Driving with conditions, keeping your distance and leaving an out at all times, avoid a pile up or running over a motorcycle going down directly in front of you, And you stopping to help, you are confident of your actions and cognicent of the situation, you are doing the right things. The prize

Entitled - snowflake Engaged - the prize.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2017-04-02T15:55:09+00:00

You are not a snowflake because there's nothing inherently special about you before you work at it.

You become the prize because of the hard work you put into building yourself and living from a strong frame. Once you do that to establish high standards that you want to enforce for yourself and within which to live your life.

Coniferous_88 · 2017-04-02T12:01:24+00:00

I think the difference is in regards to perspective-

No, you aren't a special snowflake when you haven't put in the work, don't want to own your problems, wonder why life isn't going your way when you are a low effort neck beard pussy.

Yes, you are the prize once you've internalized TRP, spent months lifting, owning your shit, built a strong positive masculine frame, and bring value to and energize those around you...But all that still doesn't make you special, it just means you don't suck as a man.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-04-02T16:04:16+00:00

Every man must find the right balance for himself. The point of Red Pill is KNOWING that there is a balance to achieve. It is the same as between "Kill your ego" and "You are the Captain." It doesn't mean you have to choose between a supplicating monk OR a fleet Admiral. It doesn't mean you should have no ego OR be the only one in charge. It means that the balance you have in your life right now is not working and you need to change that balance.

LymanRP · 2017-04-03T02:18:42+00:00

The way I see it, entitlement means one sees oneself as the prize without actually putting in any of the required prerequisite work to be the prize.

Continually working hard to self-improve and be the best possible version of yourself enables you to be the prize. However being the prize comes with a lot of hard work that most average men aren't willing to invest.

SorcererKing · 2017-04-03T04:34:06+00:00

Synthesis guys, from the Greek for "place together".

There are several comments on here that, from my perspective as the "You are the Prize" author, that need to be placed together.

The snowflake comment is about "Own your shit, stop the whining, do the work, FUCK YOU." It is usually also in the context of your relationship to the Universe and to other men. Unless I have a specific reason to care about you, zero fucks given, pal. Get used to it.

The "prize" post is about recognizing that you have value, once you create value in yourself. You only live once, and if you are a man worth respecting, you deserve respect. Don't settle for less than you're worth. Especially from women.

Yeah?

red_blue_and_hot · 2017-04-02T13:13:46+00:00

Fuck you, I work hard for this shit.

I ain't no special snowflake, just expecting everything handed to me, so I can Just Be Yourself. No one's going to give me shit, just because I showed up. Life don't have a Participation Award. I don't get to be lazy, and put on the the pounds, and still expect to get laid on the regular.

I gotta work hard to get my ass to the gym and lift. Lifting is hard work, motherfucker. And then what do I get? Sore.

I gotta work hard to read the books in the sidebar, and deal with my wife's shit tests, and be the oak.

I gotta work hard to be the Captain, and lead my crew, and be responsible for all my decisions. Even if they were fucking stupid decisions.

And, after I've done all this work, put in all this effort... do you think I'm going to be a Nice Guy and just give away this shit? If I'm truly high value, because I've done the work; if lots of hot women want to fuck me, because I've done the work; if I'm leading and got my shit on point, because I've done the work -- why would I want to give this prize to some bitchy, screeching harpy? No, I'm going to treat myself like the prize I am, and be selective who gets me. Because, you guessed it, I've done the work.

[deleted] · 2017-04-03T09:46:03+00:00

Couple of ways of looking at it. Easy way is - you're not a snowflake because your specific fucking situation doesn't make you shpeshal. How you handle a woman makes you be the pride to her.

RBuddDwyer · 2017-04-03T22:30:29+00:00

There is no comparison between the two. You have to put in the work to become the highest value man you can be. If that happens to also be the highest value man she thinks her SMV can afford her then she sucks your dick and lets you cum on her face. Don't over think it.

Balldogs · 2017-04-05T09:15:44+00:00

Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're awesome. Then deliberately put out a cigarette on your face. That usually does the trick for Steve Bannon and he's still drowning in pussy.

The earth is flat, and there's no such thing as gravity.

Title	How to balance "You are not a snowflake" and "You are the prize"?
Author	deconstruct0r
Upvotes	5
Comments	25
Date	April 2, 2017 7:29 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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