FR: NMMNG is like a punch in the gut

sixdownsevenup · 2017-03-10T15:11:50+00:00

Good on you for actually reading the material. It is almost comical how many men here have been "reading" the sidebar material forever and yet don't seem to understand some of the basic concepts. I have read it all, some books multiple times, and branched out into more advanced titles as the years have gone on. These books have made me a better husband, boss, lover, and man. I also have much less stress in my life now that I have internalized the truth about the reality we live in. NMMNG was a punch in the gut for me too but it was When I Say No, I Feel Guilty and Rational Male that really completed my Red Pill Newbie training.

dandar4600 · 2017-03-10T14:28:16+00:00

That's why that book should have been read first. That one is the one that opens your eyes.

discobolus_ · 2017-03-10T21:53:10+00:00

Is it? Why would you feel shitty about how you were? We were lied to about the rules of the game.

I guess one man's gut punch is another man's "AHA!" I read this shit and thought "Oh thank god there's a better way". Took me a while to understand it, but I skipped right on past the anger phase because every other man in my life was just as clueless. They can't teach me shit they don't know themselves.

[deleted] · 2017-03-10T14:54:56+00:00

Jan 1st.

Top KEK. Most lead with actions, questions, or failures. Brokebackmountain haiku works though

capn_barnacles · 2017-03-10T16:14:36+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I've started reading MMSLP along with the sidebar/wiki first. I think I'll put MMSLP on hold and start NMMNG.

Guidance on the order is very helpful to me. Lots of material to absorb, and I want to make sure i don't get ahead of myself.

[deleted] · 2017-03-10T18:22:30+00:00

Welcome to the party.

[deleted] · 2017-03-10T23:25:08+00:00

Fuck. Do I have a lot of work to do.

Yes you do. Approach it as a long term journey. Embrace it. Enjoy the work.

You are starting through your freshman year of MRP. You will be on this path for the rest of your life.

As you do the sidebar, realize many of the resources you will read again, but with a higher level of understanding in the future. Best.

[deleted] · 2017-03-11T11:30:08+00:00

You were me 18 months ago.

Welcome. read. Everything. Devour.

I cringe when I think of all my failings as a man. It's been work, but the work is invigorating because I know I'm doing it for me.

Advice? Dump your ego. You're so new you don't even know what you don't know. Keep reading, thinking, working on yourself.

Congrats on opening your eyes.

ReddJive · 2017-03-10T14:32:44+00:00

This isn't a field report. A field report is about an action of actions you have taken, doing an evaluation on them, and then looking for advice or criticism from others.

This is:

I read a book. It was cool. Hope you read it to.

bogeyd6 · 2017-03-10T15:01:41+00:00

There are plenty of good articles in /r/marriedredpill talking about which book to start with depending on who you are. Nice guys obviously need NMMNG and push overs need WISNIFG.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-03-11T22:57:59+00:00

punched me right in the fucking gut

Love the image though I saw it as more of bitch slap that knocked me on my ass. NMMNG has unplugged more men than any other source. The idea of covert contracts is so obvious and so ubiquitous with men today but almost none ever see it.

mundocorde · 2017-03-12T05:33:56+00:00

It was also a kick for me.

I am convinced that it's not enough with reading the books once. Only after several reads the info starts becoming second nature.

By the way, I highly recommend the audiobooks, especially for long commutes.

Sincerely, another noob like you.

TaistoKarhu · 2017-03-13T06:47:09+00:00

Yeah it was the eye-opener book for me. It felt like I was getting beat down in every page, everything I had believed in was shred to pieces. It's strange how the book included most of my former disfunctional foundations of belief and explained their flawed mechanisms to me in such a way that I couldn't help but agree in the end. I remember wanting to argue with the book all the way until acceptance came.

It was painful and for that I'm ever grateful to Robert A Glover. I'm reading it the third time now because I really want to internalize that book inside out.

firstorbit · 2017-03-18T23:18:49+00:00

I'm about a third of the way into NMMNG and I'm only identifying with about half of what he's saying. I started with MMSLP and I found it had much more relatable and practical, usable info.

Like I don't get how staying sober and staying in shape are approval seeking behaviors and then he tells you to try not doing those things. So becoming a fat drunk is supposed to help somehow?

Title	FR: NMMNG is like a punch in the gut
Author	sixdownsevenup
Upvotes	13
Comments	44
Date	March 10, 2017 2:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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