My first post here with a shiny new account.. Started taking the red pill four months ago. I don’t have time right now for all of the background (it’s quite typical anyway) married 9 years together 13 years x2 kids. Marriage was very rocky between 2011 and 2015. Done/doing allot of the sidebar and though still a long way to go but making decent and motivating progress.
My predicament: One of my family members is quite ill, like months maybe weeks to go (its cameon quite suddenly like in the last month). I am going to fly back home (we live in another country) in the next two weeks for a long weekend (cant do more than that unfortunately) to say hi & possibly bye.. I said we will all go but my wife said I should go with the kids alone as it’s a long way and she has a lot of work to do etc. I told here it’s important for me that we all go and that we go together and are seen as a strong family unit and if she asked the same of me she would expect me to support her; she accepted. However she brought up the matter again another two times (different angles), each time I stood firm. The last time she mentioned it I gave a different answer. Doing my best to hold frame I said “You know what I think but I won’t force you to do this for me, you are right it’s a long trip and will be stressful and will interfere with work so if you don’t want to come I will take the kids alone.” She asked about a dozen times if I was 100% sure and I remained stoic. Then after much hamstring she said "ok I will come but can I work over one of the next Saturdays to make for it?" I said yes sure.
Now the reason for finding the red pill is 4 months ago I found signs (though nothing definite) that she might have been seeing some else form work over the last few years. I have dug deeper and tracked back and forward since then and found 0 evidence to confirm this other than some (like 2) flirty (by her standards) emails in the last two years, also MAP is working very well, sex is up (x2 weekly previously monthly and she initiates about 10% of the time before it was 0), shit tests being passed etc. But the trip, weekend thing has got me thinking again.
So my question is what to do? Make her go, let her stay for a whole weekend, let her have a Saturday, forget it and stay on MAP (if she is up to something then don’t stop here and concentrate on myself), set a trap (and if so how?), all of the above? I will answer specifics if needed.