Basic texting advice

Reddit View
December 16, 2016
6 upvotes

Been here almost a year as a lurker, been taking a lot in and reading as much as I can. Very happy with progress and have lots to keep working away at.

In the past I would have a constant text train with my girlfriend every day. I've been out of that for a good few months now and am happy with things. Spending my time working and doing, and no time at all worrying about texting away. Feels good.

Now, we text for logistics, sexy texts and the occasional random too and fro.

She will occasionally text me innocent things, "I love you hun" or "hey, how's your day going?".

All of us here have our own personalities, our own women and our own lives. I'm not looking to live off a script and only have certain responses to these texts, but I'm still unsure of the correct type of way to respond to them.

I wouldn't say they are any kind of test, they seem sincere. Is a simple "I love you too" ok? How about asking how my day is? I prefer to speak to her about that in person when we get home, not over text. I can just tell her that in response, but it seems harsh if the question is sincere. Do I just ignore her and stfu?

Simple questions and I'm probably over thinking it, but would appreciate some input. There are posts saying texting should be logistics and sexting only, I'm not sure where these fit in.


Post Information
Title Basic texting advice
Author thefastestrock
Upvotes 6
Comments 23
Date 16 December 2016 10:40 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206764
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5inmbh/basic_texting_advice/
Similar Posts
Comments

[–]screechhaterRed Beret11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

you got to learn what's best for you.

But here is my deal. Lots of texts come in through the day.

If it's logistics I very the time it takes for a text back.

If it's I love you's and shit, I ignore

If it's call worthy, I take a few and call making sure I am done with what I was doing, so I can concentrate

Look at it this way. If you text your life away as shit happens, what do you have to talk about later ?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very helpful, makes sense.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is a subject that will probably get different responses depending on the age of the Merper. Guys over 40 probably have no text game. Guys in their 20s would be stupid to ignore text game. I'm in my 30s. A couple times a week I send sexy pictures to my wife when I get out of the shower at the gym. It usually soaks her panties. If I'm working late she sends me lingerie pics. If she sends me some emotionally charged bullshit, I try to ignore it or fog. You can fog over text pretty easily.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That makes sense, thanks.

[–]mrpthrowa4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

if you have a good frame for texting it's fine. Just don't argue. Follow the golden rule of 2/3 ratio, both in number of texts and content of tests.

"i love you hun" -> "i know".

"hey, how's your day going" -> "Smashing. how is yours?". Then reply with "cool" or something like that to whatever she says.

Don't overthink it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks. I've said similar before:

"I love you hun" > "I know you do"

And had her reply:

"Do you now?"

I see this as a small shit test because she's expecting an exchange "I love you too". I'd probably just ignore her text at that point and carry on with my day. Does that seem appropriate?

[–]innominating3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I know you do. lol"

"Do you now?"

"lol"

"Babe!!!!"

"I'll show you how much I love you later tonight. Make sure you're wearing sexy underwear for me."

[–]mrpthrowa1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

ah right so it's not all hunky dory and sincere. yeah ignore.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good point. Thanks.

[–]mtdog2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Emojis work well for me. Then I can be responsive and acknowledge without being too mushy or having to use words.

Next time she texts "I love you" respond with a thumbs up emoji. That will get her thinking.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

gifs are fun too!

[–]anythingincRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

http://yareallyarchive.com/

Top Right of the page.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That man is interesting. It's funny how the only place you can find his stuff is sosuave and rollo comments.

So many gems that you really have to get into the manosphere to find. SolomonII is another one, ROK has an archive of their posts.

I hope /u/abdada site comes back up, he had great gems

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

/u/screechhater is dead on when he says: what do you have to talk about later.

In addition, if she is getting that comfort, those "I love yous" all day from you...when does she have time to miss you and build that desire? By the end of the day she's full up on your "love yous" and has you home so now she doesn't require any feeling from you at all.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I agree completely, it makes sense. I much prefer to come home and catch up in person, if we text all day there is nothing left for at home at all.

[–]sunthas1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

are we really suppose to spend 10-15 minutes each talking about our day? I'll let her blow off any steam or work drama she wants, but ideally, I shouldn't need to tell her about my day unless something really interesting happened that's not work related.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, I'm always asked how my day was, but it's just a script. Every day, come home, "how was your day".

It's a set thing, not a genuine question born out of interest in me. She always complains that I never ask it back. If she's just asking me how my day was in return for me asking the same, is that not a covert contract?

When she's already informed me of a big event, "I have an important interview today", "I'm going for that scan today", of course I will be interested and ask how said event went. But I don't like the autonomous "how was your day" for the sake of it. It's the same as saying "I love you" in exchange for hearing an "I love you too" back.

[–]sunthas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How was your day?

Fucking fantastic!

STFU... and wander off into the other room to change clothes or whatever nightly chores need to get done...

[–]470_2_700_nm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Logistics is logistics.

For the "I love you", I like "if you loved me you would send me a picture of ____" insert your interest in that moment there.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

OMFG.....

Don't text....if you are not able to maintain a sexual overtone to everything you do then fucking stop!

for all thats holy in the world get a fucking set of balls.



You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2021. All rights reserved.

created by /u/dream-hunter