I started RP a month ago, but by coincidence I started lifting three months ago, so that gave me a head start on step one.
So far, my program has been lift religiously, stop vomiting feelings all over wife (somehow thought that was a good thing, so it's been easy to just shut up), start enforcing basic respect boundaries, and quit looking for approval (a really bad lifelong habit that I'm only now waking up to). At least noticing shit tests, but honestly probably not passing many.
Response from wife started with not noticing anything, to bemused interest, to maybe a bit nervous (she suddenly decided to start running last month). Sex life is improving slightly, but still not good. I'm not imitating much because I can't yet even fake OI over it, so I'd rather just not get into it at all.
Right now I'm just thinking I should stick with the lifting and other small steps for another three months or so before pushing things farther. But I'm asking myself if this is just an elaborate lazy cop out to avoid the pain of pressing faster and harder. In other words, is this just an excuse to keep walking on eggshells and avoid a fight?
Probably not enough context here for anyone to really judge, but maybe you guys have some thoughts for me to consider?