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FR: How'd I do for a newbie?!

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October 28, 2015
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OK so right off the bat: Disclaimer 1: Not married, but in a LTR Disclaimer 2: First post… I’ve been into MRP for only a few months. I’m a guy who’s naturally good with women and life in general. My gf of 2 yrs is hot, adores me, we fuck a lot, and generally I was/am quite satisfied with the way things are. Not surprisingly, though, after a few months of reading up on RP theory I’ve started to notice instances where maybe I give her a bit too much leeway, maybe I’m too helpful, etc. So enter last Sunday where the first obvious (to me) opportunity to test this arises: I return from a trip with my buddies and get to doing some work I had to do over the weekend for my job. Now, I enjoy my free time as much (and probably more) than the next guy, so I’m not too keen on spending the waning moments of my weekend doing work for a long week ahead. The gf makes dinner, as usual, and a bit later asks me if I want to go to her sister’s place for a drink.

Me: No, I’ve gotta finish this work, but have fun.

Her: OK, see ya later!

She gets on her bike (we live in a large city) and rides the 20 minutes or so over to her sister’s place to hang out. I continue working. For hours. The clock strikes 10 and I get a text message:

Her: Are you in bed?

Me: Not yet

Her: I’m tired… are you done your work?

Me: Just about.

Her: What are the odds of maaaaybe getting a ride home? How much do you love me again?

Me: Haha odds are zero.

Now.. at this point, 30 seconds after this is sent, I get 4 messages IN A ROW from her sister that read: “Why are the odds zero?” “It’s cold and dark out” “She’s your woman” “Be a man.”

Now I imagine that many of you wouldn’t respond well to this kind of shit. Especially someone who isn’t even your gf. So I simply respond: “Insults. Great strategy!” Her sister had the sense to STFU after that.

A few minutes pass by and my gf starts up again:

Her: Whyyy are the odds zero?

Me: Cause you’re a strong and self sufficient woman who’s perfectly capable of riding her bike home.

Her: Oh nooo… so you won’t pick me up and place me in a nice warm vehicle? Nooooooo…

Me: Hahaha no, I won’t drop my work and come running to save you anytime you’re mildly inconvenienced ;)

Her: Save me lol? Maybe you watch too many Disney movies. Ya I’m capable of getting home just thought if you’re not busy.. sure don’t wanna inconvenience you so see you later We go into radio silence at this point… after which she says

Her: I’m tired, just gonna stay here tonight, good night.

Me: No problem, night.

And such was the end of the conversation for the night. I went to bed, undoubtedly, as this sort of thing is still new to me, feeling a bit anxious about the outcome. After all, I don’t LIKE it when my gf is disappointed.

But here’s what happens the next day. I come back from work to find: -Bathroom freshly cleaned. -Laundry done -Groceries done -A photo of us she printed out that day and a note “I love this photo of you!”

She gets back home a few hours later and acts all grumpy and butthurt. I stay silent. Sure enough, come bed time, she’s wetter than a fucking waterfall and we have the most enthusiastic sex we’ve had in months. The next day… still a little grumpy… by last night, back to normal. I never left my frame or apologized and she never brought it up… probably because she’s embarrassed of acting like a child instead of a grown woman.

TL/DR: frame and shit-test passing paid off

Eager to hear your thoughts!


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Title FR: How'd I do for a newbie?!
Author downvotesanimals
Upvotes 6
Comments 62
Date 28 October 2015 07:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207958
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/3qlssj/fr_howd_i_do_for_a_newbie/
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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

My response would have been, "Are you drunk?"
 
If yes, I would pick her up.
 
If no, and I had work to do, then I wouldn't.
 
If I were goofing off and not working it might be a different story.

[–]downvotesanimals[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Agreed. I do her favors all the time. The whole point is the hissy fit thrown the one time I refuse.

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Its only the beginning. She will shit test your frame now that its on the radar.

i.e., "you dont care about me," "you left me at my sisters", "i cleaned the house for you and you screwed me over."

EXPECT IT.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sure enough, come bed time, she’s wetter than a fucking waterfall and we have the most enthusiastic sex we’ve had in months.

Another data point. Do we really need any more? My reaction to this is visceral. Dude was a douche. I would have picked up my GF without a thought even though I also know the result of saying "No." Fucking rainbows and waterfalls but not a single unicorn.

[–]downvotesanimals[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Can you please elaborate on your last sentence a bit?

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That was a GREAT line. OP talked about his wife gushing like a waterfall so the joke is by telling her "no" you can get "waterfalls" and even rainbows but not unicorns (because they don't exist).

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nice job. My only bit of advice would be to say less. You sounded a little defensive to her sister. Explain and defend yourself less, preferably not at all. I would have ignored the sister entirely and just kept the responses to your gf as short as possible. "No" would have been sufficient. Good report.

[–]FearDearg2015Mod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a good field report. There is so much AWALT in there that I found myself predicting almost to the letter each upcoming text message from them. See, that's why you should STFU. The back and forth text tennis simply consumed your valuable time. It added zero to your life. If you had shut it down with a simple no, it might still have ended in radio silence, except you wouldn't have wasted so much of your most valuable asset.

I find shit tests like this are even easier to pass when it's a "ganging up" on you situation. I had 3 on me recently (wife, my sister, and my mother), and as I did my verbal aikido, they were openly hamstering among one another, which of course just made me laugh out loud at them. Wife was acting all butt hurt as we went to bed, but I initiated anyway and she was wetter than I've ever experienced before.

Good to see that you are keeping on top of things from the beginning. My only other advice would be to not get married, but you probably already know that

[–]0kool740 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Hmmm........this one is kind of tricky. If you are working, and had work to do, I'm curious as to why she wouldn't drive to her sister's house. By the by, I guess that doesn't matter too much.

I was kind of on the fence as to why you wouldn't have gone and picked her up. It didn't seem like a shit test at first. However, once her sister threw her hat in the ring, that's classic twatwaffle manipulation bullshit. Everything you did after that was right. It's one thing for her to drop femcrap all over you. but her sister getting in the mix.....the only correct response to that is NO and hold frame.

Her getting wet like a river and getting after you is proof positive that you made the right move.

[–]Griever114-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

If you are working, and had work to do, I'm curious as to why she wouldn't drive to her sister's house. By the by, I guess that doesn't matter too much.

B/c he is beta and drops everything to cater to her needs. Thats why she road her bike, expecting to be picked up. Especially since her sister sounds like a cunt dropping that "be a man bullshit."

[–]downvotesanimals[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Nah, she doesn't own a car and rides her bike everywhere.

[–]Griever114-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thats one thing. But as others have said, "after 3 times it becomes an obligation."

Im a former nice guy so im speaking from experience. Its great that you want to be nice and help but be careful that this doesnt become a thing.

I would bet $1000 that she went to her sisters expecting a pickup and the sister was pissed her sister had to crash. which is why she busted your balls.

[–]downvotesanimals[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Which is exactly why I refused.

[–]Griever114-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are on the path brother. Well done.

As i said in another comment, be prepared, because this WILL come up again. You are on a new path and she will not like it when the boat gets rocked.

[–]Redneck001Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Why doesn't the sister give her a ride?

[–]downvotesanimals[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Neither own cars, which, to be fair, is common in our city.

[–]itsgavinc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The only proper response would be one to her sister which would be "why don't you drive her over here and we can all snuggle it out together."

Sheesh. AWALT.

It's simple: either you find value in giving her a ride or you don't. That's it. Only you can answer that. Don't second-guess your decision.

[–]Stonesaint0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nice sister.

I would have gone with, "I am a female-to-male transsexual. Ask your sister."

[–]mediamole-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your gf adores you, fucks you a lot and you're satisfied with your relationship.

Call me a beta, but I would have given her a ride.

You were just about done with your work, it's just a couple minutes away by car and she's cold and/or tired after hanging out with her sister. She asked nicely and you swatted her down.

I wouldn't feel obligated to do it, but unless I was really tired, I'd do it for a buddy and I'd do it for my girl.



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