OK so right off the bat: Disclaimer 1: Not married, but in a LTR Disclaimer 2: First post… I’ve been into MRP for only a few months. I’m a guy who’s naturally good with women and life in general. My gf of 2 yrs is hot, adores me, we fuck a lot, and generally I was/am quite satisfied with the way things are. Not surprisingly, though, after a few months of reading up on RP theory I’ve started to notice instances where maybe I give her a bit too much leeway, maybe I’m too helpful, etc. So enter last Sunday where the first obvious (to me) opportunity to test this arises: I return from a trip with my buddies and get to doing some work I had to do over the weekend for my job. Now, I enjoy my free time as much (and probably more) than the next guy, so I’m not too keen on spending the waning moments of my weekend doing work for a long week ahead. The gf makes dinner, as usual, and a bit later asks me if I want to go to her sister’s place for a drink.
Me: No, I’ve gotta finish this work, but have fun.
Her: OK, see ya later!
She gets on her bike (we live in a large city) and rides the 20 minutes or so over to her sister’s place to hang out. I continue working. For hours. The clock strikes 10 and I get a text message:
Her: Are you in bed?
Me: Not yet
Her: I’m tired… are you done your work?
Me: Just about.
Her: What are the odds of maaaaybe getting a ride home? How much do you love me again?
Me: Haha odds are zero.
Now.. at this point, 30 seconds after this is sent, I get 4 messages IN A ROW from her sister that read: “Why are the odds zero?” “It’s cold and dark out” “She’s your woman” “Be a man.”
Now I imagine that many of you wouldn’t respond well to this kind of shit. Especially someone who isn’t even your gf. So I simply respond: “Insults. Great strategy!” Her sister had the sense to STFU after that.
A few minutes pass by and my gf starts up again:
Her: Whyyy are the odds zero?
Me: Cause you’re a strong and self sufficient woman who’s perfectly capable of riding her bike home.
Her: Oh nooo… so you won’t pick me up and place me in a nice warm vehicle? Nooooooo…
Me: Hahaha no, I won’t drop my work and come running to save you anytime you’re mildly inconvenienced ;)
Her: Save me lol? Maybe you watch too many Disney movies. Ya I’m capable of getting home just thought if you’re not busy.. sure don’t wanna inconvenience you so see you later We go into radio silence at this point… after which she says
Her: I’m tired, just gonna stay here tonight, good night.
Me: No problem, night.
And such was the end of the conversation for the night. I went to bed, undoubtedly, as this sort of thing is still new to me, feeling a bit anxious about the outcome. After all, I don’t LIKE it when my gf is disappointed.
But here’s what happens the next day. I come back from work to find: -Bathroom freshly cleaned. -Laundry done -Groceries done -A photo of us she printed out that day and a note “I love this photo of you!”
She gets back home a few hours later and acts all grumpy and butthurt. I stay silent. Sure enough, come bed time, she’s wetter than a fucking waterfall and we have the most enthusiastic sex we’ve had in months. The next day… still a little grumpy… by last night, back to normal. I never left my frame or apologized and she never brought it up… probably because she’s embarrassed of acting like a child instead of a grown woman.
TL/DR: frame and shit-test passing paid off
Eager to hear your thoughts!