Should my girlfriends sexual past bother me?

SICFJC · 2019-02-01T11:17:56+00:00

Sounds like you're just another horse on the carousel

pame12 · 2019-02-01T11:14:58+00:00

I donno about you, but I'd rather be single than be with a whore.

Rkingpin · 2019-02-01T12:07:10+00:00

The local football has landed at your feet, you've failed to pass the ball

LegitimateCableGuy · 2019-02-01T10:33:27+00:00

Well if she's a plate no but this girl is not LTR material.

goblinboglin · 2019-02-01T11:43:07+00:00

If she is your fuckbuddy or a plate, no.

If it's a girl that has potential for being your future long-term partner then of course yes.

It's a big red flag.

throwawayycheyeah · 2019-02-01T13:23:15+00:00

Kind of going through similar shit, not nearly as bad but finding out from my girl friend that she has cheated on a bf before me was a major red flag. Found out about it after we dated a year and it was before trp.

I'm kind of mello about it cause every girl cheats so eh but it still jumps into my head when I'm pissed at her so obviously it's still noodling around in my brain.

Stuff like that wont ever really leave you. You'll think of it when you cant sleep at night, when you are driving with her, when you're fighting, when you're watching tv with her, basically anytime you arent getting fucked up.

Sounds to me like she isn't worth all that. Every person on the planet is capable of doing horrible shit, but do you want a girl that you KNOW has been rode hard by the town just because for this minute you think she loves you?

You know you gotta get out before you really get fucked over so just rip off the bandaid and you will be happier.

CainPrice · 2019-02-01T11:53:53+00:00

It's not like you were going to marry her, right? Just enjoy the sex. Keep an eye out for better women. She's doing exactly that. So should you. When things run their course, you will be expecting that eventual outcome and can just move on without throwing a fit. 8

kfd_capital · 2019-02-01T12:50:10+00:00

The fact you came here to ask this question is probably a red flag

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2019-02-01T19:37:37+00:00

And this is only what she’s told you. Imagine the shit she’s still keeping secret? Run

Bennet123 · 2019-02-01T12:32:33+00:00

Just dont fking care.

MisterRoid · 2019-02-01T11:30:51+00:00

Why do you even want to know of a girl's past? I would rather chose blissful ignorance. But yeah, I would feel bothered if a girlfriend has been rawdogged by black guys, gangbanged or done stuff for an ex boyfriend that she won't do for me.

MemphisBro · 2019-02-01T13:29:12+00:00

I want to jump in here because I see a lot of dumbass answers.
Every hot chick has a history of sleeping with some people. Despite what the comments here say, you won’t find a 10/10 virgin that falls in love with you. No one here can say the girl is a whore or a cheater. For all we know, she is as dedicated as a married woman in a relationship (although that’s not saying much nowadays).
Basically what I’m getting at, if you got a hot girl you are gonna have to deal with guys hitting on them and with what they’ve done in the past, but it is no predictor for how they will be with you (an alpha chad).
My advice, be aware that all girls can be tempted, and could cheat or be a whore but it’s not that likely. Don’t put any thought into it, and make female friends to text so you don’t get oneitis.
I have the mindset “I’m so great who could she find better than me honestly” I find that a helpful way to think about it.

maljo24 · 2019-02-01T11:49:50+00:00

Would not bother me. The past is past. What she does going forward is what's important.

linkofinsanity19 · 2019-02-01T12:25:05+00:00

I wouldn't LTR it, but nothing wrong with keeping her as a plate.

chomponthebit · 2019-02-01T13:56:06+00:00

Reading your comments you clearly have deep-seated issues with her past. Either next her or get a RP therapist

biohackninja · 2019-02-01T14:48:08+00:00

The answer is in you. If it bothers you, leave her.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-02-01T18:55:31+00:00

Yes.

She's not your girlfriend. You're just maybe one of the dudes she's currently fucking.

boy_named_su · 2019-02-01T19:49:09+00:00

yes, absolutely

for a plate/fwb it doesn't matter. but why LTR a whore?

rugged79 · 2019-02-01T19:58:15+00:00

Demote to FWB, initiate threesome protocol. Weapons hot and engage all targets.

TheBigForklift · 2019-02-01T20:10:16+00:00

“Prior taste for black men...”

So you’re upset that your gf used to also like black dudes? That seems...oddly specific. What’s that all about?

Granite_Pill · 2019-02-02T06:30:36+00:00

To: OP

McVaghunter · 2019-02-01T11:27:16+00:00

I see no problem here, she's enjoying her life and so should you. TRP is about understanding that all girls have the same high n-count, the only difference is that the large majority of girls are ashamed to admit it, and who's to blame them, the moment they open up about their sexuality they're called "city whores" and "not LTR material" buy guys who aren't getting any.

KirthWGersen · 2019-02-01T10:59:29+00:00

Accept her as she is. In other words, admit to yourself what she is like and accept it. Don't project an image of your perfect woman onto her. Don't lie to yourself.

Encourage her to be open about her past. Act as if everything she says is the most normal thing in the world to you. She'll end up telling you more and more details. And then you can decide what kind of relationship you want to have with her.

If you are the jealous, Madonna/whore type (like most insecure macho guys on here!), she won't enhance your life.

If you are not, and don't care about her fucking other guys, enjoy it for what it is.

Personally, I love women who love sex. They tend to have been around a bit. And if you show her it is normal to you, you can keep things non-monogamous, while developing a mutually-beneficial relationship.

LegitimateCableGuy · 2019-02-01T12:47:20+00:00

LegitimateCableGuy · 2019-02-01T13:11:27+00:00

Does it bother you?

Roto2esdios · 2019-02-01T13:19:09+00:00

the more sexual partners a girl had the more likely is to cheat/monkey brach you in the future. So this girl is perfect for short period of time. No marry material though

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-02-01T14:52:00+00:00

Soft downgrade to plate. Not LTR material.

onpuzzle · 2019-02-01T12:36:13+00:00

It bothers me but again, most (if not all) girls aren't LTR material. What is one supposed to do in this case? I have no idea.

Title	Should my girlfriends sexual past bother me?
Author	LegitimateCableGuy
Upvotes	4
Comments	124
Date	February 1, 2019 10:31 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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