Can We Please Not Normalize This...

Sage_Planter · 2020-09-12T23:45:15+00:00

Even my NVM ex did his own laundry and kept his spaces mostly tidy. My problem was with his lack of participation in larger household chores like cleaning the fridge or scrubbing the toilets or washing the sheets.

If the "can't put his clothes in the hamper" husband isn't even doing that, I guarantee you he's not doing anything else.

sadpourtoujours · 2020-09-13T01:48:07+00:00

There are so many women who walk into their man’s house and can’t help but clean. Ladies. Don’t. His laundry is in the floor? Don’t touch it. Dishes in the sink? Oh well. Trash on the floor? That sucks.

You’re not his maid. You clean up after him now? You set the precedent and it stays there forever.

If his place is a mess whenever you visit? He’s a slob and clearly doesn’t want to impress you. If his apartment is turning into a mess down the line, refuse to come over the next time he asks you on a date. Just tell him the clutter gives you anxiety. Or the dirtiness puts you out of the mood. Guaranteed the next time you come over it will be sparkly.

cupcakedreamz · 2020-09-13T01:23:20+00:00

I was once engaged to a man like this. I did ALL the cleaning. I'd spend hours deep cleaning the house and scrote would throw his dirty underwear on the floor right in front of the laundry hamper. We actually had several arguments over it. Stupid me stayed with him TOO long wasting time.

acrosstheoceanin1984 · 2020-09-13T01:11:51+00:00

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Nat_at_all · 2020-09-13T01:51:23+00:00

This is pathetic

petit_rouge · 2020-09-13T04:19:29+00:00

Yeah that’s gonna be a no from me dawg

Hahane · 2020-09-13T12:00:26+00:00

When I went backpacking to Indonesia for a month with my then bf few years ago, he was expecting me to wash his clothes by hand, because we were travelling low cost and there weren't any washing machines. I was so upset, because while I was washing the clothes he was sleeping, watching tv, eating loads of junkfood etc. Then I forced myself to believe, that it's okay, that this is what a woman is supposed to do, and that I'm washing my clothes anyway, so what's the big deal if I wash a few more? Not. He never said: okay, you did enough, now it's my turn, go to bed now. Now when I think about it I spent full 24 hours washing his dirty underwear. Like damn.

typeadhd · 2020-09-13T03:37:44+00:00

This ain’t it sis

2020-09-13T09:23:36+00:00

I didn't laugh.

CarmelPeach · 2020-09-16T04:30:44+00:00

That’s embarrassing

Title	Can We Please Not Normalize This...
Author	xYennefer
Upvotes	195
Comments	19
Date	September 12, 2020 11:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/irnc5e/can_we_please_not_normalize_this/
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