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First post ever. Ready to STFU and learn.

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Title First post ever. Ready to STFU and learn.
Author EnchiridionLife
Upvotes 10
Comments 32
Date 15 February 2019 10:25 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/218492
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/aqv9pc/first_post_ever_ready_to_stfu_and_learn/
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[–]boy_named_su8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

You make 350 a year. Buy yourself a power cage for the garage. You don't need a workout buddy

Learn to fight too

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is the plan I’m following. After finding RP I bought a power rack and weight set (about $800). Best money I ever spent.

Started Muay Thai a few weeks ago. Learning to fight is fun shit and also humbling. I found my ego needs to die... being humbled helps kill it.

[–]boy_named_su0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I tried Muay Thai but the classes were crazy big. Found a regular boxing gym with smaller classes, which I like. Will try Muay Thai again next year

[–]InChargeManRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

she has a sincere desire to leave behind her high school days and be a "good girl.

Lol. Just so we are clear, she doesn't want to be a good girl, she just doesn't want to have sex with you. It is 100% "take it to the bank" true that there is some man she knows or knows of that she would be a bad girl for right now. If he was in the picture she would do every kinky think you have ever heard of and even kinkier stuff you haven't, and she would do it gladly.

Your goal is to make yourself that man.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Shut the fuck up bitch.

Bottom line- Your wife is a slut and rode the cock carousel hard in high school. Right now, you’re not getting her best. She gave that to Chad. You turned into a fat piece of shit. She likes her beta provider (you).

Stop fucking around at the gym:

1) Faggot Excuse 1: “Got a gym membership, but need to find a workout buddy“.

Don’t need a faggot buddy.

2) Faggot Excuse 2: “Got a gym membership, mostly Swimming laps“

Swimming is gay.

Quit jerking off and start lifting.

“ My marriage is not sexless”

No, but it’s pathetic. Might as well be sexless.

“has led me to verbally dump nonsense shit and feelings on my wife.”

So Gay

“When we go out on a well planned date (ie. babysitter, dinner, TopGolf or theater”

You can do this with an escort for way less money. Your cost per fuck is incredibly too high.

For fucks sake: Stop talking about sex. You can’t negotiate attraction.

Welcome.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your cost per fuck

Thanks. Needed a reason to take a Xanax today.

[–]SkimTheDross5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gym buddy for “accountability” is an excuse.

Do you lifts in the power rack. No spotter needed.

Get in and get it done.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Stats: 5' 10" 209 lbs. 22% bf

Got a gym membership

Ok, let's face facts here. There is no fucking way you are 22% at 5'10" 209lbs and DYEL, unless you have been on a diet of straight tren since you turned 18. I'm 20% at 5'10 and 176lbs and I'm on TRT and I lift. You have an extra 35lbs on me.

You are fucking obese.

I concur with the others, get a cage for the garage. You don't need a spotter if you have a cage. If you can't give up the garage, get an air conditioned shed for the backyard. Pay a PT to come to you to show you how it's done.

[–]catchpull0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed with your BF calcs for OP. Disagree on getting AC in a shed, a shed would be perfect but get in there when it’s hot and sweat and fucking work. Brutally work.

[–]SuperCrazy078 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

You make $350K/yr, but you’re skipping the gym until you can find a workout buddy?

Get a personal trainer. Actually, get several. Workout with each twice and figure out who is listening to you and creating the workouts that meet your goals.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or he can buy his own weights and have zero excuses.

[–]mrpthrowa5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are so in your wife's frame it's painful to read I had to stop.

your entire life right now revolves her pussy, you worship that shit so much it's insane, she has you on a leash attached to her pubes

All of that nonsense about kids and mentality and leaving college girl behind and what not... is...

guess...

complete nonsense and excuses..

you're just not attractive

I've seen so many of these woman suddenly lose their minds in 5 minutes and drop on their knees to beg for cock with the right man

And your woman is no exception, i fucking guarantee it

So stop the pity stuff

Discover your purpose, your mission, lead your own life,

Stop orbiting her planet

get working, get busy, get improving, get so good

her pussy might follow, or it might not

if it doesn't, there is so much better younger hotter pussy you'll be wondering why the fuck you wasted so much energy on her hole

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

try not to fuck things up by going too hard, too fast and spooking the wife. I can definitely see that going Rambo is almost a problem for me. That's why I seriously need to STFU.

Sounds like you're doing pretty well. The missteps you're making everyone makes. As you said, the main thing is to not try too much too fast. I (and many others) learned this lesson. Really check your thoughts and don't let them spiral out of control... you can have a few days or weeks of things going well, then your hamster starts trying to convince you otherwise then you go off and rambo.

This post helped me learn to shut down the voice in my head that caused me to not STFU after my Rambo a few weeks ago. Beta Shit Goblin

Think about this as your self-discovery and don't gauge success by her actions or how many times / quality of sex.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

As a dentist, what can I do to help my girl and her gag reflex?

I mean I have almost trained it away but would appreciate any tips.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.02 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got a gym membership, but need to find a workout buddy for accountability and spotter for free weights.

5' 10" 209 lbs. 22% bf 34 yo

got a gym membership, go twice per week, mostly swim laps.

Stop the excuse making for christs sake. You are fat, make no mistake. I make 1/3 of what you do and I converted a portion of my basement into a gym with a power cage, bought rubber horse mats from Tractor Supply to line it and all the weights needed to start 5x5 Stronglifts. Everything you say is an excuse unless you are doing the work.

The emotional overload of having my world reordered by MRP has led me to verbally dump nonsense shit and feelings on my wife. She has no idea where this is coming from, or why I'm "suddenly talking more about sex." I haven't talked about MRP with her and won't. Need more discipline with other aspects of not dumping feelings on her though.

STFU and then STFU some more. Stop dumping your feelings, talking about sex, etc. Sand actually dumps out of your wifes panties when she takes them off after you do this. Oh yes, STFU.

My wife and I are both religious, and she has a sincere desire to leave behind her high school days and be a "good girl."

Lets be clear, your wife was a slut and pulled the Jesus card so she could land you the great beta savior and provider. I will go so far here as to give you a glimpse of where my situation was. Two years ago when I found MRP I did the same shit as you and my wife would say the same things even though she had done nasty shit when we were dating. Shit, I would suggest things and it was tantamount to rape in her eyes. Last night she begged me to fuck her mouth because she was a nasty girl. Your wife is a slut, she just isn't your slut. It even says in the Bible Jesus hung around whores. Its an excuse.

We have had times in our marriage where we had sex a couple of times per week, but I know that my technique was not the best, and I have tons of room to improve.

Realizing your short comings is fine but stop fucking self-depricating, you look like a shit bag. Read Book of Pook till your eyes bleed and your "technique" is fixable.

Stop with the excuses, stop chasing her pussy and get the fuck out of her frame.

[–]4percent33812 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Spend money to get physical training, weight loss, and babysitting. You’ve properly identified things are very wrong, you need help. Take some time off to just read. Throw away the sex toys, you’re just trying to negotiate desire. Stop trying to justify/negotiate her excuses,but do recognize that’s a SYMPTOM of what’s going wrong.

This guy set me straight on why your feelz and moods are permanently damaging your marriage: https://thefamilyalpha.com/married-red-pill-reinvention-podcast-with-adam-lane-smith/

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That podcast is great. Not entirely without flaws, but still well worth a listen.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

When we go out on a well planned date (ie. babysitter, dinner, TopGolf or theater) she wears a lacy thong, gets very handsy in the parking lot, and generally we end up fucking to my satisfaction. Outside of that (a serious date), however, things fall off dramatically. We have sex twice a month-ish. Once a month she'll be into it, and once a month it's "a quickie" (pity sex). I know that we can be more. She had sex often in high school (years before we met), and I get a glimpse of that inner slut from time to time. It's buried under the mom surface, but it's there under the right circumstances.

As you (will) read in MMSLP, you will become more attractive by getting in better shape and stopping the emotional puking all over your wife. As you become more attractive, your wife will start to notice, and she'll (likely) respond with increased sexual desire for you. DO NOT pressure your wife into having more sex, or talk about more sex, or dwell about more sex. Dwell on becoming more attractive, which will in turn increase her attraction to you, and by NOT pressuring her into sex she'll pressure herself into wanting to have sex with you.

We have had times in our marriage where we had sex a couple of times per week, but I know that my technique was not the best, and I have tons of room to improve. I was not as sexually experienced as she was coming into our marriage, and I've always followed her lead and never pushed the boundaries.

Don't worry too much about this. Once you get around to reading Sex God Method this will likely take care of itself. I'm going to say it again: DO NOT FOCUS ON THE SEX RIGHT NOW. Focus on becoming more attractive (Lift) and STFU (stop emotionally puking to your wife). That is ALL you should be worried about until you're done with MMSLP.

got a gym membership, go twice per week, mostly swim laps.

-started being more firm with the kids and family. I sit at the head of the table. I don't lose my temper as much, and try to be a fun dad when I come home instead of dicking around on my phone.

updated wardrobe, donated older style clothes

started telling my wife, "let's go to xyz restaurant for lunch," instead of, "do you want to go to lunch? Okay, what sounds good to you?" Asserting subtle dominance.

Good job. This is all good stuff.

I played football and did competitive Olympic powerlifting in high school, but started doing more cardio in college.

WTF is Olympic powerlifting? To my knowledge there's Olympic lifting and powerlifting, and ne'er the twain shall meet. I'm a powerlifter, so I'd argue to go that route, but I see nothing wrong with Olympic lifting. It just... seems more injury prone to me. That being said, I still incorporate Clean & Presses into my routine for explosiveness.

I had just taken my first baby step in MRP. Then I failed like a little bitch and started talking about sex with her and tried to have a conversation about it. Somehow I forgot to STFU and ruined whatever alpha equity I built by dominantly fucking her.

At least you see it. STOP TALKING ABOUT SEX. Like you said, STFU, enjoy the win, and go to sleep.

try not to fuck things up by going too hard, too fast and spooking the wife. I can definitely see that going Rambo is almost a problem for me. That's why I seriously need to STFU.

You have a lot of insight for someone just beginning. Breathe, go slow, LIFT, STFU, and stop talking about sex. If you want to have sex, flirt with her and try to lead her to the bedroom. If she shuts you down, don't get butt-hurt. If she has sex with you, great, positively reinforce the things she did that you like (did she give you head? then say "Damn, I love the way you give me head.").

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

“DO NOT FOCUS ON THE SEX RIGHT NOW.”

This .

OP, sex will come last.

[–]Tbonesupreme1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need a gym buddy for accountability? Ick. YOU should hold YOURSELF accountable.

And if you have never lifted, use dumbbells that you can drop when you need to. You don't need a spotter until you're lifting weights that would crush your rib cage or skull. If you get the 100lbs you'll be able to bench stuck on your chest, you'll survive.

Someone give this faggot a swirly.

[–]Frosteecat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got a gym membership, but need to find a workout buddy for accountability and spotter for free weights.

Screw that. I've been lifting free weights by myself since Day 1. Get SL 5x5 on your phone. Start with the bar. That should keep you busy for at least a few months. I'm just now getting ready to break the 200 lb barrier on most of my 25 rep weights, so I will need a machine or a spotter before too long. But don't let spotting be an obstacle if you're doing it right and starting low.

You seem super OCD about a lot of this. Get out of your head and hers and learn to go with the flow more. Sure, measure what you're working on that needs measurement, but avoid analysis paralysis. It is a fun and momentum killer. Get moving and STFU is key here. Good luck.

[–]RPeed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Came here to fat shame but see it has been done to my satisfaction.

Just to be reiterate: all your comments wrt to physical appearance, past, present and future are gay.

Your disgusting physique is a burning building you should be racing to escape from. I sincerely hope your obviously comfortable and obviously slutty wife is not already having an affair.

On the plus side: working out is awesome and personally I would kill for this to be my main issue.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got a gym membership, but need to find a workout buddy for accountability and spotter for free weights.

I didn’t make it past this BS excuse

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP, I approved your post given that you are new, and I hope that in six months you look back on this and chuckle at how far you've come and how badly you needed the kick in the ass.

[–]donmcde1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stats: 5' 10" 209 lbs. 22% bf 34 yo,

Got a gym membership, but need to find a workout buddy for accountability and spotter for free weights.

Stop being a little bitch. You don't need a partner for accountability. You need discipline.

has led to her being less adventurous and less open sexually than I would like.

No, you did that yourself

The kids are a huge energy and time suck, but I'm definitely a family guy and value the kids. My wife has breastfed all of our kids, which often gives her the excuse that she is too, "touched out" for sex. Our youngest is almost done with nursing, so whatever legitimate complaint came out of that will likely be a non-issue in 2-3 months.

She'll find a new excuse. You're just not a man she'll be a slut for.

I can't change her, I can only change me.

Good start

got a gym membership, go twice per week, mostly swim laps.

Good, okay, laps? You need to lift.

I don't lose my temper as much, and try to be a fun dad when I come home instead of dicking around on my phone.

I hope you're being fun because that's who you want to be. Also, uninstall the shit from your fun that's sucking up your time.

started telling my wife, "let's go to xyz restaurant for lunch," instead of, "do you want to go to lunch? Okay, what sounds good to you?" Asserting subtle dominance.

My dude! Getting some base in his voice

My overall physical frame is still somewhat there,

No it's not you fat fuck

first words out of my mouth after sex used to be thank you,

I... I have no words.

I really hope you stick with this and re-read this post in a year to see how much of a faggot you were.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You clearly have money... unless you spend it faster than you make it.. So one major suggestion;

1) Hire a professional trainer to teach you the compound lifts... with a barbell... Dont ask for a trainer to do some crossfit circuit or something... Just hire someone who is good to teach you the proper form for the squat, bench press, overhead press, deadlift, chin up, dip, bent over row. You need to get completely comfortable with the barbell... even if you need to sleep with it between you and your wife. Swimming is great for cardio and low-impact... but right now you need muscle growth. The benefit at your stage is that heavy compound lifts will burn fat for you (during the 48 hour muscle building post workout phase) faster than swimming or the gay treadmill.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

As the sole owner of your business or, the one everyone looks to for the answers, it's a real motherfucker when the wife won't fuck

Ask me how I know

Read all the comments, - read- lift, diet and start a life outside of the house with bros. get the business lined out and shit scheduled to a "T"

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ready to STFU and learn

And yet here you are, doing anything but STFU. I see now why people make fun of dentists.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hey man, you make 350k a year so you have some resources. You can shave a lot of time off the learning curve if you have a coach.

Get Rian Stone on a Skype consult.

[–]Imaginary_Historian-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

I wouldn't normally say this but a dentist is a highly prestigious profession and you should have little problem finding some side pussy to make up for a wife who won't fuck you. Just don't be stupid about it.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

too much oinitis and fear

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He could actually be inside chicks mouths all day....



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