I think I'm sabotaging myself because of a fear that girls will recognize that I have almost no sexual experience

Terdmuffin · 2019-03-03T17:03:10+00:00

You won't be their first shitty lay or their last. If you nut then what else is there to worry about? Gotta get experience somehow.

[deleted] · 2019-03-03T20:00:14+00:00

Iron Rule of Tomassi No. 8: "Always let a woman figure out why she won't fuck you, never do it for her."

02537-41101 · 2019-03-03T18:00:08+00:00

Shouldn’t let that sort of thing define you, pal.

It gets easier once you get it out the way, so find someone acquiescence to that.

fshnkut · 2019-03-03T18:18:29+00:00

My very first lays were comparable to a porno scene if not more crazy.. and it has declined into God knows what, a good lay has became rare, also 90% of the time even if it's good it's only because of my effort. My last lay was so bad that I have lost all interest all together.

mgtownigga · 2019-03-04T00:12:49+00:00

take it from someone that can relate : you just gotta do it. Will you suck? Probably. Will most girls care? Not really. Some might write you off immediately depending on how bad you were, while others will give you more chances. The more you do it, the better you get, and eventually you wont have to worry about it.

There's no way around it, it's gonna probably suck, but you gotta just do it man. if youre lucky, youll get into the swing of it quickly and not embarrass yourself as much as you think. A lot of girls who like you are going to give you more than one chance, just be honest and say you got nerves or youre a bit drunk or something.

AnyDoughnut · 2019-03-04T00:48:24+00:00

You care too much what a woman thinks. I wouldn't care if I blew my nut in 30 seconds or 30 minutes, if she isn't satisfied that's her problem. Let her figure out if she wants to do it again. Stop worrying so much.

XXXMersenne · 2019-03-03T21:23:18+00:00

This'll sort you out:

Tyler's Secret To Effortless Motivation Buy In To What You're Capable Of Accomplishing +Infield

PotatoWatt · 2019-03-04T02:05:01+00:00

Hey dude, just wanting to lay this down for you: If you check my post history i've been crying and crying on askTRP about the same topic, I have perfect shots with girls, like they get into my actual fucking room giving obvious signs, and I dont make a move and reject myself aka sabotaging myself.

I didnt quite understand why, i've blamed it on my past, i've blamed it on my virginity at 21, i've blamed it on being lazy and i've blamed it on being ugly.

Guess what? All of this what I can tell you is this: Man the fuck up and take action. Its vague, I hate when I get this on my threads, but this is the answer. Man up. How? Up to you, hit the gym and get ripped and cocky, start getting rejected, start getting into fights (not recommended), get outside of your comfort zone to the point where your comfort zone is everything (an extreme example).

I hope you got my point, read my crying posts for replies for topics like you. My personal tip for you: Your mind is weak like mine. To fix this you need to man up. Lift heavy shit, hang around manly people, fight in a martial art or something and get cocky.

itsveronicalodge · 2019-03-03T19:02:45+00:00

Hi I’m a 26 year old female. I prefer unexperienced men, even better if virgins. Why? Many experienced men are just stuck in their sex habits which are trash in my experience. If I try to tell them I’m not enjoying it they act like it’s my fault and every other girl orgasmed!! (Hint: u sure bud??)
Unexperienced males can be taught good habits and it’s easier to teach good than to unlearn bad habits. Some girls are just as uncomfortable sleeping with a man who’s very promiscuous as TRP males are in sleeping with someone promiscuous. Work it.

SauliusTRP · 2019-03-03T17:43:35+00:00

Doesn’t matter, you get sex and experience, you should put your needs first. If the bitch is unhappy, that’s her problem, you can game later another one, who don’t know your performance in bed.

Also work on your PE: Kegel exercises, Edging on Fleshlight to controll your ejaculations

[deleted] · 2019-03-04T01:39:30+00:00

Just be real with them about it. You aren't their first shitty lay and you probably won't be the last. I can guarantee I have less experience than you, and even I don't trip off this kinda shit, and we're not that far off in age. Only way you get good at something is through practice. My reason is that I don't chase tail because I have my own personal problems to deal with first, what's yours?

tefllifestyle · 2019-03-04T12:02:32+00:00

Get a 5 and just practice on her till u feel like don juan. It will be worth it

If u fuck her 30+ times u will be confident in ur abilities by reference experience.

Or if u got the money and stomach practice on hookers and tell them teach u how to fuck em well

monsieurhire2 · 2019-03-04T15:14:56+00:00

Yeah, it's kind of funny. Sex is SUPPOSED to be enjoyable and relaxing. For women, they don't have to do ANYTHING. They can just lay there and receive. They don't even have to be wet. They can just apply lube. They don't have to enjoy it to perform.

Men, on the other hand, have to be aroused enough to maintain an erection, but in order to "perform," they have to neither become over-aroused and finish too quickly, or become under-aroused and not be able to perform. For people who don't understand this, it can be a bit tricky. And then for people who do understand it, it can be a source of anxiety. Also, the orgasm doesn't last very long. And it takes awhile before you can have the next one, unless you're taking supplements and doing all kinds of crazy supplementary exercises just to prove something.

But when you get down to it, it's not that big of a deal in terms of mechanics.

archaic-guy · 2019-03-03T23:29:27+00:00

Have you tried talking with your parents about the need for intimacy? I can assure you that there aren´t people more interested than them in seeing you being succesful with woman becuase they want you to spread their genes.

Also stop overthinking and add some Occam Razor to your life

Title	I think I'm sabotaging myself because of a fear that girls will recognize that I have almost no sexual experience
Author	ApwoperMuser
Upvotes	30
Comments	29
Date	March 3, 2019 4:57 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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