“There’s just something about him”

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March 10, 2019

Is it just me or is this just what women say to justify making bad decisions?

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Title “There’s just something about him”
Author Schniattle
Upvotes 106
Comments 49
Date 10 March 2019 12:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/221395
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/azf0ng/theres_just_something_about_him/
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[–]rpsheepdog183 points184 points  (14 children) | Copy

be the guy who "just gets it"

[–]boredathome1934 points35 points  (12 children) | Copy

How to be that guy? You obviously can't just tell them how you understand women because most of the time they don't even understand themselves and even if they do they won't admit it.

[–]Steely_D 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

Show her hypergamy calling the shots behind the scenes that you get it, not her hamster spokesperson. You're not dealing with her, you're dealing with her instincts. She will feel that you "get it" but won't know why. It's an inside joke that you and her hypergamy are both in on.

[–]boredathome19 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Funny story: I'm friends with a girl I used to make out with, but she rejected me for anything futher. She is in a relationship right now.

I'm dating multiple girls and I'm honest when anyone of my friends asks me about it. I'm not bragging, just answering her questions. She also heard it. A few days later she admitted to dreaming about us all going out and me being a player. A bit later she also admitted that (in her dream) she disliked seeing me with other girls.

Since then she's giving me way more attention than before - AWALT

[–]Steely_D 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy


Every. fucking. time.

No bullshit, same scenario here. Girl from way back when that I made out with and went as far as fingering/handjobs decided she didn't want to push it further. LJBF, all that jazz. She gets into a relationship. Lingers around social group. Lets it drop one day that she dreamed about us fucking.

The hamster is nothing but an incompetent PR specialist

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Had similar experiences too, yep AWALT. It's pre-selection, now that you are getting selected by many girls is an extreme DHV.

[–]dtyler861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amazingly clear way of wording it 👊🏻

[–]slayer_in_midst 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

You obviously can show them.

Demonstrate higher value.

[–]SilentMeatball7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s it right there, chief. Stay true to yourself no matter what. Best way to explain it is having an attitude of “This is where I’m going, you’re welcome to come with, but I’m going.”

[–]boredathome198 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's not someone who "just gets it".

A jacked millionair has pretty high value, but he can be a beta cuck and not "just get it".

[–]pridebrah0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Google “rational male get it” and click the first result.

[–]resnine64 points65 points  (16 children) | Copy

You hear this sort of thing EVERYWHERE. Music, movies, shows. It's that special something that he possess that can't be articulated into words... Basically he has bad-boy traits. DGAF, Outcome Independence, Abundance, and just seems edgy and tough. Most likely superior looks. It's pretty much that. Notice girls don't say this sort of thing towards men who are good, nice, GiveAFuck, Scarcity mindset and inferior looks.

And she's gonna try to change him and make him good!

[–]Chaddeus_Rex-1 points0 points  (14 children) | Copy

Out of all the traits, perhaps the most important is looks. It can make or break a man with all of the bad-boy traits.

[–]resnine4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Looks are certainly important but I wouldn't say it's the most important thing. I have seen too much to the contrary. I think it has more to do with ones energy/aura. In other words, the way you carry yourself. Posture, body language, words. You come at that person with a negative/shy/introverted/approval-seeking or overall bad-traits that girl will just be completely turned off. When you have a shitty self-image it can truly ruin your life with women/dating. People can see into you. People can see you how you see you. So looks are important but with a bad personality it can make you look ugly.

[–]Chaddeus_Rex2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

You come at that person with a negative/shy/introverted/approval-seeking

I've been on both sides - the approval seeking guy with a negative self image - it didn't work. I've also been the guy with the confident body language that acts like a frat boy - it also didn't work. then I saw facially attractive guys slaying.

the aura a man gets is the halo effect - its amplified if they are good looking.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I've read your post history, you are a negative ass dude. I doubt you are coming off as positive no matter how hard you try and it's killing your game. I've seen ugly dudes slay, it's not ALL looks but it helps. It's the cause and effect. What causes what. If a guy is ugly does he become negative and therefore bad game? Does a good looking guy become positive and therefore develop good game? Game is king when you really work at it. You have to force yourself against all the negative social conditioning you've been through about your looks.

[–]Chaddeus_Rex0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Positive? Man, I try hard to be positive. People who see me in public always see me with a smile on my face and a positive word. I have been called slick and smooth by people, because I always have a response for everything. These are other people's words, not mine. What I have found is that unless a girl is already interested in me for whatever reason (it happens), then she is receptive to my game and its far easier to slay. If a girl doesn't like my looks, it doesn't matter what honeyed words I pour in her ear.

I am willing to be proved wrong. I hope I do, but my experience has shown this to be the case so far.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

so many people carry a scowl on their face and wonder why ppl don't find them attractive, a smile goes a long way. First rule of game is to smile.

[–]millioneuroextreme0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Being a swole mofo > having a good face.

Almost every single time.

[–]Chaddeus_Rex12 points13 points  (7 children) | Copy

eh, not too sure about that.

seen swole dudes who can't get girls. and seen skinny pretty boys having women throwing themselves at them.

that being said, its better to be ugly and swole than ugly and not swole.

[–]millioneuroextreme2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good point

[–]xddm26531 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

That's because of their mindset. Gtfo with your black pill. Swole dudes can be nice guys, pretty boys can be slayers

[–]Chaddeus_Rex8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

That's because of their mindset

Mindset doesn't matter when the girl doesn't want to hear you out because you don't pass your looks threshold. I'm an ugly fuck and I can act and DGAF like any old frat boy any day of the week.

If you don't pass a womans look threshold so that she gives you a chance, mindset doesn't matter.

[–]pridebrah4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

A person who has one trait but not the other will always say it’s the other trait that is most important. This question has no right answer.

From my experience, I’ve seen enough good looking guys flop because their mind\game was garbage. Women do not care about looks as much as guys think. If you are in decent shape, dress well, and have a decent haircut/basic grooming down, the rest is game. It is also situation dependent, though. Some girls won’t fuck with a guy unless he’s 35+ making six figures and driving something exotic. You can flex your abs and charming looks all day at those types and it won’t matter. Other women might be coming off a breakup and looking for validation so the 6/10 guy will be a fine fit for her bed that night.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some girls won’t fuck with a guy unless he’s 35+ making six figures and driving something exotic.

Yeah because she wants that BetaBux

[–]xddm26531 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You cant get every woman, but in a fun party environment plenty will give you an opener. And you can score above your own value with game

Dont forget networking, where your friends introduce you to other girls and the social proof makes you look even more attractive.

[–]resnine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely, social-proof doesn't get touted enough on here.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K1857 points58 points  (1 child) | Copy


Watch the dude's they say it about. That's where you learn

[–]resnine36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. Being bitter about it will just keep you stuck. Learn from them and you'll grow.

[–]omega_dawg9313 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy

"you either love women or you understand women, but you can't do both."

the biggest waste of time for ANY man is to try and rationalize why some woman is with some guy. half the time, they don't know themselves... they just react.

never forget, women don't live in the logical world; they live in the "how does it feel" world, and they base their decisions on that. then, after the fact, they rationalize it all thru woman 'logic.'

they own the good decisions... the bad decisions are due to some man (the closest one to them at the time).

[–]pridebrah0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I disagree. You can usually figure it out pretty easily. The problem is guys apply male standards to a woman (I’m guilty of this too). When you consider that women prioritize traits differently and are mostly emotionally stimulated, it starts to make sense. Chad gives her the tingles from his bad boy traits, beta boy Bradley gives her temporary tingles via validation, rich guy Jeffrey gives her tingles through providing an exciting lifestyle that she can flaunt etc.

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

and i disagree with that. women, in general, have no clue WTF they want. their mood and feelings change like the wind. they also have no clue what they're attracted to either.

they just feel and they react. then, after they've experienced where their feelings have taken them, they acknowledge that there are consequences.

from here, 'chick logic' tries to rationalize the bad consequences (STD's, pregnancy, 'WTF was i thinking fucking a total stranger on vacation'). the good consequences go straight to social media.

[–]resnine-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

false dichotomy

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

prove it

[–]Str8_Pillin32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some tied up, choked, face-fücking, etc. fantasy is going on in her head that she can't say out loud

[–]rugged7917 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women speak for "Pussy Slayer."

[–]RedLegendx14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

More like “He was cute, I had a couple of drinks, my friends edged me on...”

[–]BigDickEnergy1233 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's with her, but can easily replace her. And she knows that.

When you have options, they want you more.

[–]Vikingcel11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have heard it before and it was always good looks and/or dark triad behavior.

One time a chick literally said "he has predator eyes".

[–]OilyB2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are very few woman who are capable of deciphering attraction. Most of them make it cerebral and politically correct - he's established or nice etc. Haven't met many women who can openly admit they feel like they want to surrender to a man. It's not snotty enough to admit to. So they make it a probable deniability: there's something about him. (-that makes me want to be spanked, have my hair pulled and be dp'd.)

[–]UrIRLFriendLowkey3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nope. That genuinely is the reason. It's subconscious frequently, and look at it this way:

If it was a justification, there should also be a real reason she's trying to cover up, and what could that be? Nothing, my friend, that's not a cover-up, that's the genuine reason. When it comes to selecting men, women are not all that practical and pragmatic. And when they are, let's face it, we're the first ones to hate it.

[–]smartstarfish3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I an't believe i had to scroll down to the bottom of the comment feed to find someone who actually knew the answer, lol.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like a Deftones lyric

[–]terpredpill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Since fully digesting TRP I'm starting to get this now.

[–]downvotesanimals1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tingles. We have a word for it.

[–]mr-satan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is it just me or is this just what women say to justify making bad decisions?

Absolutely not.

This is just the nature of women. They’re not really conscious of it, and are goofy at qualifying why they feel that way.

Women like a confident guy, period.

[–]Incaahhh1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Im feeling slutty here is my veil"

[–]Nesqin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

their "hamster" is always on the run yet it looks like they can't find a better excuse.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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