For some background. I'm 5'5" and 225 lbs. I used to be 285 at my highest and have been killing it for about a year to get down to 225. I still have to lose about 60 lbs to get where I want but all the same I look WAY better. Anyway I'm going overseas for a while so last night I wanted to hang out with my fraternity brothers one last time before I left.

A couple things happened:

1) I ran into a girl I used to talk to a lot when I was bigger and less outgoing. Talked her up for a bit and made some jokes. I wasn't into her and my beer was getting flat so it was a brief interaction. One of my friends talks to me later saying I creeped her out.

This confused the fuck out of me because it was literally a two minute non-sexual interaction. I'm a high-energy guy but I wouldn't think one would associate enthusiasm with creepiness.

2) Ran into another girl I used to know. She's black, as am I. My most drunk friend (white) made a joke about how all the black people on campus know each other (which me and another black friend concurred with. It's a small campus). She goes ballistic and starts spouting shit about him being racist. I tell her to chill out and she says "Is he really your friend? Do you really hang out with people like that." "Of course he's my friend we're brothers." "I really hope that you begin to reevaluate that."

I was so shocked. This bitch really was telling me to drop my friends over a joke. It was like I woke up when she said that. She was trying to manipulate me. I just looked her in the eye and said "No." And walked away. Bitches man.

As for the first example I don't feel like I'm actually creepy. I used to be for sure, and honestly she might just be associating bad reference experiences with my past self in the situation. I do however believe that my SMV is still low enough to put me in that creep boat. I.E. I don't have the genetic honest signals to go with my game. Problem is my confidence is way higher than my SMV. I've been an athlete, a captain of my high school rugby team, a fraternity president, placed in pageants for Greek Week and such, job, car and film maker all through college. I really feel like SMV is holding me back hard.

TL;DR 1) Anybody have problems where their confidence and self-worth is way higher than their SMV? Can a guy with confidence and social skills be a creep just because of low SMV? 2) Black hamster bitch pissed me off.