Six months ago, I got serious about strength training and applying BPP's first and second levels of dread. Lifting 3-4 days a week, committing to hitting the iron temple every morning, and cleaning up my diet has produced results. The good news: I've lost 30 lbs of fat, got my BMI down to 22, and I can almost bench my weight.
The bad news: My wife seems to resent the hell out of my gym habit. Every night brings nonstop snark: "You love the gym more than you love me." "I should just buy you an escort since you're clearly just trying to impress other women."
First, I acted like a beta bitch and thought this might be a comfort test. So I did a lot of hugging and reassuring. When she pushed me away I got disgusted with myself for letting my inner beta faggot get the best of me.
Next I tried to STFU. That just brings on more of the same: "You have nothing to say???"
Then, I try to humorously agree and amplify: "Thanks for the offer to buy an escort. But go slowly, I can only handle five or six at a time." This just escalates the rage level even more.
I'm out of ideas. I cannot even tell whether this is a shit test or something more malevolent. My only guess is that she resents my progress, is unhappy with her own physical shape, and is lashing out at me. I'm trying hard to hold frame and not boil over in rage and am running out of ideas.