What is the "ideal lady" you want to be?

SEnutshell · 2020-09-16T14:56:25+00:00

Great topic ! Thanks for asking this question.

My ideal lady is beautiful : she takes care of herself on the outside as well as on the inside. She wakes up in the morning and has a nice ritual of doing yoga, meditation and eating a good breakfast before going on with her day. She is someone you know you can count on, has good advice and is caring and nurturing of the people she loves. She is resilient : she can face whatever the universe throws at her. She wants to have kids and be a good mother when (hopefully) she does. Ultimately I think she wants to do something meaningful with her existence but it's ok if she doesn't end up doing something extraordinary, she simply wants to be a good influence in the world. She might take up photography and maybe even painting :)

Everyday I feel closer to this "goal" yet really really far from it. I don't think anything can be perfect that's why I'm prioritizing resilience and being happy with who and where you are. Meditation has made wonders for me, but I still have a very long way to go.
I hope we can all approach this ideal visualisation we have of ourselves 🙏

ban1chka · 2020-09-16T11:01:30+00:00

That's an interesting question. There are a couple of things that I would like to improve on. I'll divide my answer in three categories.

Appearance. I'm pretty and have a good body from working out. I slid back a little during quarantine, so I would like to go back to my pre-quarantine shape and activity level. I have done a good job in the last couple of years to find my style, but I'm still trying to figure out the best routines for my hair and skin. Definitely need to pay more attention to my body skin, because it can get a bit dry.
Social aspect. I have been told that I'm a good conversationalist. I'm warm and affectionate. I'm patient and polite. Best compliments I've received are that I look very approachable and that I smile a lot. However, I can be a little socially awkward with people I don't know very well. I would like to learn how to loosen up and be a little bit more myself. I've been working hard on being a better listener and I can tell it's paying off. However, I have trouble remembering little details people tell me about themselves, at least at the moment of conversation. I want to be better at remembering these on time so I can ask and show people I really care.
Work ethics. I have always found it extremely important to always show high quality work (or, at least, the best quality I'm capable of at the moment). I pride myself on always excelling at the tasks I'm given. I'm terrible with time management though, so I'm working on just being a better planner. Leaving earlier so I'm not late, starting work on projects early so I don't do everything last minute. I hate rushing. I also want to be a better beginner. I used to hate not being good at something, so now I'm learning that it's okay not to be perfect while still learning and it's important to practice, especially when things aren't working out.

Here's a fuller picture of what I'm striving for:

My ideal woman is someone who is elegant and classy, always put together, intelligent, with knowledge in a wide variety of topics, a good conversationalist. Someone you can talk to about anything. Someone very skilled, the kind of person you can trust with an important project because you know they'll do a good job. Someone worthy of respect, with good principles whose word has a lot of value and who is disciplined enough to do the right thing even when it's not the easiest. Someone kind, warm and welcoming, who can make you feel safe, loved, understood. Someone who respects herself and has a sense of dignity but can also be goofy sometimes and have fun. Someone who is humble enough to always be honest and admit mistakes, apologize and work through issues, but who will also stand up for herself when necessary. Not expecting others to fix her issues, but still able to graciously ask for help and accept it when needed.

ragnarockette · 2020-09-16T12:57:55+00:00

I basically want to be Gisele meets The Pioneer Woman with the sense of humor of Lucille Ball and the self control of a Tibetan monk.

I want to get more invested in my hobbies and learn to sail. And I want to work harder at being the goddess of light and fun for my husband!

princessinvestigator · 2020-09-16T15:07:36+00:00

Things to improve:

learn more complex hairstyles. Styling my hair for me is just doing beach waves and leaving it down or adding a cute headband. I literally can’t even braid properly lol.
posture
I’m pretty okay weight-wise, but I’d like to tone up to the way I was before quarantine
improve my accessories. I have the basics, but I’d like to get a few more “nicer-everyday” pieces (not heirloom quality) and a few more statement belts and sunglasses. Would also love to start wearing hats more frequently.
wear more stylish loungewear around the house
I need a nail polish that doesn’t chip so easily. Currently I’m touching up my nails every 3-4 days and it’s just getting annoying lol
learn to cook more complex meals
have a better cleaning routine that I can actually stick to, and get some nicer decor pieces
be less shy around new people
get into some more traditional hobbies and practices like writing handwritten letters, using the good China without a special occasion, regularly having fresh flowers around and/or nice candles burning
finances, I literally have no idea how to budget and I don’t really understand investments

What I’m already doing well:

skin, makeup, and fragrance is great
eat healthy but not obsessive about food or constantly on an annoying diet
I’ve been told I’m very friendly, kind, helpful, and optimistic
- Good sense of style and knowing what looks good on me
on top of work and school, like my coworkers and love my college and major
even though I need to work on budgeting and understanding the details of finances, I do have good credit for my age and an IRA.

ladyrailly · 2020-09-16T10:57:18+00:00

Someone who values self maintenance but not high maintenance. It takes me enough time at the moment to have a hair routine, skin routine, workout routine that anything more would just be too exhausting. As long as my nails are clean and healthy, I don't really care for painting them etc, same with makeup although I do see the value of makeup.

Swearing less, being more kind, being more orderly. Smiling more. Being there for my partner, not speaking over him, listening to him, offering a safe ear, he's going through a really awful time atm and the last thing he needs to hear from me is how it's affecting everyone else over himself.

Currently working on my dress sense (co ordination) & clothes choices but money is tight and it's hard when most of your clothes your partner has seen you in for months/years.

lonelythrowway763 · 2020-09-16T17:42:56+00:00

Physically, I would like to be better dressed and groomed. It is way too easy as a SAHM (especially while pregnant) to get into the same old grubby loungewear every day, never touch my makeup and let my hair/brows/nails go completely! I have a pretty good idea of what my style is, but I don't often stick to it.
Personality-wise, I would like to be less anxious and more trusting (especially of my husband and friends who deserve it). I would like to be more optimistic about life! I've always admired people who seem to see the glass as half-full, no matter the circumstances. Optimism, a lack of cynicism and a quiet confidence with a sense of direction are all traits I've always looked up to in my mentors/role models.
Things I like about myself: I take care of my health (eating healthy and maintaining a healthy weight, especially during pregnancy). I'm a good listener and have a good sense of humor. I'm a good cook--especially since I'm cooking for a husband with celiac, I think I make some darn good gluten-free food! I am frugal and quite a bargainista... my husband is always amazed at how little I've spent decorating our house and building my wardrobe. And I'm a very loyal friend.

IcarusKiki · 2020-09-16T16:49:05+00:00

I want to be more chill and relaxed and not have to have everything be so “perfect”. More for my own sanity than bfs lmao. I used to be like that but as soon as I got into a relationship I was so focused on being the perfect girlfriend that I ended up stressing myself and my BF out by beating myself up everytime I slipped up and spending hours planning my outfits. Being relaxed yet having my stuff together is the ideal woman I want to be. She looks nice and put together but doesn’t have to have everything coordinated and flawless. She’s carefree yet attentive. She’s not a slob but she’s not Mary Poppins either.

daffodil-13- · 2020-09-16T20:08:05+00:00

I love this question so much!

My ideal lady is aware of her comportment/manners, but not stuffy or uptight. She can talk to anyone, she’s warm and inviting. She’s involved in her neighborhood/community and her church if she’s into that sort of thing, but her involvement isn’t just a way to derive a sense of superiority to others—she actually cares about people and wants to see her community thriving. She’s well dressed in a timeless way, and she knows what colors make her shine. She smells good, and her house smells good. Her home is a welcoming place the same way she’s a welcoming person. She’s an accomplished gardener, a great chef and baker, and industrious enough to stay on top of her duties.

She’s also a person who knows how to say “no” in a gracious yet firm way, someone who enforces her healthy boundaries. She’s not a doormat, but she’s not a shrew either. She’s a good friend, who gives trustworthy advice. She gives amazing, thoughtful gifts. She’s well read in a variety of subjects, many of them ones you might not expect on looking at her. She knows how to travel without stressing, how to find the best bargain, and what type of sheets are the most luxurious and comfortable. She’s in good shape physically and mentally and takes the time to take care of herself, seeing that as a long term investment.

Right now I’m working on myself, getting my mental health in order. I’ve been slowly improving a lot about myself since around the time the pandemic hit. A lot of my ideal qualities are just long term goals-I garden already, but I wouldn’t exactly call what I do accomplished or impressive. I’m just a beginner, and I know that I’ll amass knowledge over time as I keep gardening. I’ve been updating my decor slowly, investing more money into things like bedding and furniture. I figured out my color season and kibbe type so I’d have a better idea of what clothes look the best on me, and updated my skincare regimen for the first time in ages. J started a bullet journal, which has been really fun and helpful. I’ve come up with good bedtime and morning routines for myself, and while I’m not anywhere near as consistent as I want to be with them, I’m also so much more consistent now than I was a few months ago when I started trying them, and that improvement feels so gratifying. And I’ve always loved to cook and bake, so I feel like I have that part locked down already

I want to get to an even better place mentally, be consistent with my morning and night routines, and learn to do my hair in new ways. I want to get back to doing pilates 4 or 5 times a week, spend more of my spare time volunteering, and be more available to my friends and family when they need an ear/some company.

Pinkrose571 · 2020-09-17T02:05:15+00:00

Someone who is strong.. who is strong enough to stand on her own to feet even when the whole world is against her... someone who doesn't need validation. She can make up her own mind

daffodil-13- · 2020-09-16T17:51:16+00:00

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piezoelectrical · 2020-09-18T03:47:35+00:00

The image I have for myself as an “Ideal lady” is :

• Keeping a very organized and clean home. Although for the most part I achieve this, I’ve honestly still not adopted a routine that is like second nature and I can effortlessly maintain.

• Kind, patient, warm. The kind of lady who can chat with anyone in line at the grocery store. She’s present in the conversation and people can trust her and be open with her, not judgemental or a gossip. My favourite thing about my father is he never speaks a word against anyone but he is firm and assertive in his values.

• She is open and expressive. Just her genuine self, which she’s worked hard to make a lovely person to be around. Not afraid to show her emotions. Also, she finds happiness within herself.

• While I’m still single, accomplished in my career. A constant learner, curious mind and humble student. Although I’m not in a traditionally feminine line of work, still being appropriately feminine.

• Devoted to some cause outside of myself. E.g, volunteers at shelters or non profit organizations, active in a church or community, possesses many hobbies, will help someone in distress. Has faith.

While I’m mostly focused on my career in the electrical trade right now, when I get married I’d like to get into the electrical codes inspector or safety side of the trade in a more traditional type role for women. Being in the field wouldn’t work well for say, someone who was pregnant or parenting small children and that is my end goal. I’ve made some changes in my social circle that was hard but I’m proud of, cutting out anyone who was unnecessary and unhealthy for me. I’d like to have great taste in friends and of course, partners !

Attempt_Historical · 2020-09-18T19:27:36+00:00

My ideal Lady would be:

personality:

Inspiring

altruistic

nurturing

loyal

Interests:

Arts n crafts

kids board games

child psychology

Learning a langugage

reading a lot

collecting calico critters

Skills:

expert cooking

baking

mending

basic nursing

home remedies

cleaning

homeschooling

pearlsandstilettos · 2020-09-16T14:36:38+00:00

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Title	What is the "ideal lady" you want to be?
Author	herebci
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Date	September 16, 2020 9:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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