Overthinking not only destroys your game, but it can also make your baseline levels of happiness lower as you constantly think about your "place in the world."
1) Get involved in something bigger than you.
It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it isn't women. A lot of guys don't have a project that's always on their mind, so they immediately revert to thinking about their place socially. Incels, for example, are certainly not pursuing anything bigger than themselves because they have numerous posts on the forum in just a few hours.
For me, I'm involved in a creative project that I think about constantly. When my mind is on this project, I find people are actually more responsive to me because I'm not trying to force conversation.
2) Don't get involved with dudes you feel like you have to put on a persona for.
I used to have friends that played bullshit hierarchical games. I was worried that I'd have be on top all the time. Naturally, since I was worried, I wouldn't be on top for long periods of time, and the when I was on top it would be a high stress situation.
I don't care if my friends are beta. I have more fun conversations with them, and I'm not worried about being on top with these guys. If it seems like a big fish/small pond situation, that's going to be the best some of you can do for now. But honestly I'm twenty times happier, and as a added bonus I don't have to worry about most attractive guy in the group grabbing the girl before me.
3) Keep all your social media, but don't actually use it anymore.
Not having social media is honestly a red flag if you're under thirty. That being said, social media is very hierarchial because you're comparing your "behind the scenes" life to everyone else's "highlight reel." A lot of people develop an inferiority complex when they see someone go to Cali or whatever.
I also feel like posting shit on social media is kind of gay and validation seeking. If your smv is 8+, this behavior is positively received. If you're not, then it's only going to hurt you.
4) Always focus on having a good time.
When you're out and about, joke around with strangers. Strike up bullshit conversations with no goal. Practice not thinking about what the guy or girl thinks of you, just have a good time in the process. Don't worry about saying something "too beta" when you're trying to game. Just focus on the fun you're having. I would actually suggest you never analyze another approach. If you keep reading here and internalize the concepts, you eventually will kill the beta without conscious effort.
I personally don't believe a chance with sex with a woman is worth putting in massive amounts of energy being someone you're not. The lifting weights, having proper hygiene, and good style are things you should want to do anyways, regardless of women. Faking your personality, however, is extremely draining and deleterious to your mental health.
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