I am 2.5 months into my MRP journey and I am working on defining frame. When I was first studying this concept I was having trouble distinguishing frame from ego. I knew that ego is your sense of self worth. After studying frame I would say that frame is how we interface our ego with reality. A lot of people say we need to kill our ego but I don't think it can be killed. Ego will always be with us, I think it just needs to be reprogrammed. STFU is a way of reprogramming the ego and for us to stop sabotaging our lives while we learn RP.

The problem with the ego is that the default setting for the ego is to be stimulated when our bodies receive pleasure. Unless you are careful your ego will allow you to be under the impression that you are succeeding in life everytime you:

  • eat a cookie

  • look at porn

  • receive praise

  • avoid discomfort

Allowing the ego to operate like this is self destructive. As MRP men we need to reprogram our egos to be stimulated by ourselves because we truly like the person we are or are becoming. We start investing time and energy into ourselves because we believe in ourselves and we want to make ourselves happy. Pretty soon our ego tells us we have value because:

  • you are intelligent

  • you are funny

  • you like how you look in the mirror

  • you proved to yourself you can achieve goals

Being your own source of ego stimulation creates positive feedback loop that results in a strong ego that will not be shaken when someone insults or disagrees with you. Once the ego has been reprogrammed, you can build your frame around that. Your frame is the interface between your ego and reality. If your frame is fun, energetic, positive and strong, like your ego is, then most people will be happy to enter your frame. If they choose not to enter your frame its because they are bitter, boring people and their rejection of your frame will have no impact on you. Don't try and build your frame until you have fixed your ego.

Thoughts?