Could there be the equivalent of introverted/extroverted tendencies in relationship preferences?

uto-uto · 2017-05-17T14:45:39+00:00

Could it be possible that there are similar tendencies in relationship preferences that make some more suited to polyamory than others? If so shouldn't we be more accepting of polyamory?

possibly. some are more suited for polyamory than others.

it seems like most people around me are pretty accepting of polyamory as it is, though. i mean, it's still foreign to many of us and we'd never engage in it, but if someone else wants to and can handle it, more power to them.

i think some of the stigma is fading to where everyone mostly minds their own business about this kind of thing, but i don't foresee a time where everyone is polyamorous or a time where there are no people who are personally opposed to being a part of that kind of relationship.

IamTheWalkingMenu · 2017-05-17T14:48:58+00:00

It's not a stigma, it's an emotional thing for me. I have to have that exclusivity. Why? Because for me sex is about that deeply personal and intimate connection to a man. I can't bring myself to see it any other way. I won't ever reach that level of being sophisticated or whatever it is.

Also, why as an extrovert are my friendships less meaningful than those of introverts. I don't understand why you say that.

nemma88 · 2017-05-17T15:56:33+00:00

Poly people cheat too. Then there's negotiating housing, security and everything else. It's not really a win button in those regards, and garnishing multiple relationships is a lot of work and a lot of time. People hold relationships in such low regard these days they can't even put enough effort into one relationship.

Crappy human behavior is crappy human behavior. For what it's worth I do believe men AND women exist on a scale with tolerance for Poly / Mono, and I do believe people should have the choice.

sublimemongrel · 2017-05-17T18:49:59+00:00

I take issue with the idea that extros desire a bunch of "less meaningful" friendships. I'm definitely an extro and this isn't true at all for me.

says_harsh_things · 2017-05-17T14:51:05+00:00

I dont think polyamory is the driving force behind cheating. Head over to /r/adultery. Its mostly noamory that causes that.

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UhKhat · 2017-05-17T17:12:17+00:00

Polyamory is fine for the people who really want it, I just don't think that many people really do. I think most people find the idea of thinking of someone they love having sex and an emotional relationship with someone else rather unsettling...You have to be ultra secure in yourself and not at all jealous for that to work.

I've heard this before about extroverts having a greater number of friends overall, but probably less deep relationships with them. I'm not sure that's true. I'm an introvert and have quite a few acquaintances and only one really deeply close friend. I have no trouble keeping relationships 'superficial'. I think extroverts are probably more likely to have lots of pretty close friends because they tend to need more input from others. Introverts are ok not talking to anyone about things for a while and just picking up with people casually - and having that one or two close friends to really confide in once in awhile...Maybe introverts could be happier with polyamory?

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BPremium · 2017-05-17T14:13:31+00:00

poly relationships suck for a guy unless youre top 20%. Why would anyone other than those fortunate few want something so shitty? We need a system where more than just hot and rich guys get quality women while every other guy has to share scraps.

reepbot · 2017-05-17T14:48:47+00:00

I reckon that polyamory has less to do with personality and more to do with the strength of the relationship. I can't imagine a bigger sign of trust then letting your partner fuck other people. You would need a real strong foundation otherwise it could all end in tears.

trpobserver · 2017-05-19T00:05:34+00:00

I've always thought the "introvert extrovert" categories were meaningless and incorrect. People are introverts or extroverts depending on environment. Its not really a personality type.

Title	Could there be the equivalent of introverted/extroverted tendencies in relationship preferences?
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Date	May 17, 2017 2:02 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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