If one parent requests a paternity test, does the other parent have a right to know? What about the child?

shoup88 · 2016-12-16T21:31:36+00:00

Like a noninvasive test that you mail off to get results? If so, then I don't think you're obligated to tell the other parent or the child. The request itself is harmless, so I see no reason to advise anyone else until you have the results.

As far as the results go, if it's proven that the father is the father, I don't think you should have to tell anyone you had the test done. If the man raising the child is not the bio father, both he and the mother have a right to know. I think the child be informed as well, but there could be convincing reasons not to.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-12-16T21:47:43+00:00

DucksCanDance · 2016-12-16T23:46:11+00:00

No, so long as it is easily and harmlessly accomplished, a man should have the same certainty re paternity that the mother has

TheChemist158 · 2016-12-16T21:25:29+00:00

Interesting question. I'm leaning towards no but I'd like to hear others thoughts.

-almost-blue- · 2016-12-16T21:48:46+00:00

i think so, leaning towards yes to both (but i admit i don't know much about paternity testing). the (hypothetical) idea of even non-invasive tests being run on a child i co-created with someone, without my knowledge or the kid's knowledge, seems like a major breach of trust and boundaries. but i can only really apply it to my own relationship, so, that's also why.

midnightvulpine · 2016-12-16T21:55:42+00:00

There is no legal obligation. One could make an argument for a discreet test being reasonable in certain extreme situations. But one shouldn't be surprised if, should your other half find out, there would be a certain blow to trust in the relationship due to the secrecy. If you require that secrecy, there is obviously a problem in the relationship.

DupreeMcJones · 2016-12-17T18:56:38+00:00

I see no reason for this.

Seems like one of these cases of women not wanting to give up an inherent advantage.

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Titaniu · 2016-12-16T21:53:55+00:00

It only seems fair to give my own view, I invite others to CMV if they like...

As for informing the other parent, I don't feel very strongly either way. There may be good reasons to inform or not to inform the other parent whether the test proves parentage or not.

From the perspective of a the child being tested, I feel strongly that any and all medical testing, no matter how harmless, should be available for them to know at least by the time they reach adulthood. It is their body and they have a right to know their medical history.

artietx · 2016-12-16T22:05:39+00:00

It should be a basic procedure along with other tests. Shouldn't be a big deal where you need to specifically request it etc.

LSTW1234 · 2016-12-16T22:06:04+00:00

They don't have a "right" to know in any legal sense. Ethically, I think it should be disclosed to the other parent regardless of the results, but not to the child unless the results prove the child is someone else's.

darksoldierk · 2016-12-17T04:06:33+00:00

No and no.

Full paternity tests should be standard. If divorce court is going to continue to be as biased towards support and custody, than at the very least, there should be hard proof that the person they are screwing over is the right person to screw over.

Battle-Scars · 2016-12-17T04:41:22+00:00

All this would be solved by mandatory DNA testing when the Baby is born. The child could have his DNA printout attached to his birth certificate. Of course that would be a valuable database in the wrong hands, like the government, so privacy would have to be protected.

fredgravy · 2016-12-17T05:47:49+00:00

The fact that someone needs a paternity test to figure out the biological father alone should be reason to HAVE to tell the father of the child.. even if it's his..

Explain why not?

Let him decided after that if he chooses to disclose whether or not mommy needed a test to decide if we were a family or not..

The fuck..

EDIT: read it as mommy asking for the test.. the other way still stands for me..

Fuck ya daddy.. let her know..

Protect child at all cost..

murpyramidz · 2016-12-17T14:53:19+00:00

It depends on how you are planning to use the results. For example, if you plan on using the result for Family Court or a Birth Certificate name change. Then it would be wise for you to make the other party aware.

A Peace of Mind Paternity does not require the other party to have knowledge to the test. I guess the issue for the party who wants to perform the paternity test would be acquiring the genetic sample of the father. This assuming the mother or another family is looking to perform a paternity test.

If an alleged father wants a paternity test, it is just a matter of having the child with you on the day you want the samples collected or, acquiring some kind of sample from the child if you are not able to have alone time with the child.

Please note, if a child or an alleged father is not able to be present during the sample collection process you will then be performing a Forensic DNA Paternity Test. This type of test requires another type of sample like a toothbrush, q-tip etc.

Hope this helps.

Entropy-7 · 2016-12-18T02:48:47+00:00

I don't think you should tell the other parent about the test but you should inform them of negative results. That is in the case where the kid is very young or within a narrow window after a .guy becomes a "surprise" father (a relative of mine did not find out until 16 years later. . . when mom ran out of money and came after him for child support).

But more than a few years in, I don't know what the answer is because it can really mess with a kid's mind.

Title	If one parent requests a paternity test, does the other parent have a right to know? What about the child?
Author	Titaniu
Upvotes	1
Comments	75
Date	December 16, 2016 9:19 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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