CMV: Players/abusers ruin womens' lives and good guys are punished for it.

[deleted] · 2016-10-03T02:06:24+00:00

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fuxdpus · 2016-10-02T19:32:25+00:00

I think you've just described dualistic mating strategy.

Ride the CC while you're young and beautiful, then secure a man you can brow beat into submission and refuse to have sex with because he disgusts you while taking his resources after you hit the wall.

CovenantoftheSun · 2016-10-02T21:17:38+00:00

Typical feminist viewpoint, men are responsible for women acting irresponsible. Either that is true and women really can't behave or think independently, or women are just blaming their mistakes on men. Either option looks pretty grim for the case you are trying to make.

sublimemongrel · 2016-10-02T21:59:11+00:00

Can't you say the exact same thing about TRP and their reactions to women being shitty?

[deleted] · 2016-10-02T19:26:46+00:00

First of all, I have to accept that your assertion that a man not wanting a relationship somehow makes him a bad man.

Could you please explain further why the female imperative is the end-all judgement on what makes a man good or bad?

Also, does this judgement hold true for women as well? If a woman uses a man but doesn't want a relationship, does that make her a "bad woman"?

648262 · 2016-10-02T23:52:09+00:00

How come she always find those bad boys that ruins her before finding a good guy?

despisedlove2 · 2016-10-02T19:17:35+00:00

And yet, given half a chance, she goes running back to Chad whenever he calls.

Also see: Alpha widow.

gopher_glitz · 2016-10-02T22:44:39+00:00

Shitty fathers or lack their of ruin more females than anything

Entropy-7 · 2016-10-03T04:35:44+00:00

I can only CYV to the extent that it isn't just the players and bad boys that ruin it but rather the process of being in multiple relationships over time ruins it, even if the guys in question were basically normal and things just didn't work out.

We all know about the correlation between the number of pre-marital sex partners and the chance of divorce. The same thing happens in relationships generally: the more relationships a woman has had, the more picky and demanding she becomes.

Reference

If, by the time a woman is in her 30s, she has not pair-bonded it is likely that she has been in and out of any number of failed relationships and - somewhat logically - she doesn't want the next one to fail. So, she sets her standards sky high and if you end up dating her she will drag out the courtship process to weeks or even months while looking for any foible that any previous BF possessed. If found, you either get nexted or have to work ten times as hard to overcome her presumptions.

Apexk9 · 2016-10-02T20:08:43+00:00

Actually sounds like the women is ruining her own life.

By making shitty choices.

ProbablyBelievesIt · 2016-10-02T19:37:59+00:00

People do this. Some learn from their mistakes. Some don't. Some make new mistakes. Some don't. Some are caught in an endless cycle, running back and forth between their mistakes like a tennis game without end.

And some find a better way.

Now as a defense mechanism, she's very skeptical of all men

That's fine by me. It helps me feel better about being skeptical too. If we're meant to be, we'll work through all that in layers.

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InBaggingArea · 2016-10-02T21:19:09+00:00

Your conclusion is correct, but your way of getting there doubtful.

fuxdpus · 2016-10-02T22:11:23+00:00

This may be why men have historically often preferred young women who tended to have less baggage. But of course that is heavily shamed now.

LedZeppelin1602 · 2016-10-03T01:33:42+00:00

man dates hot sexy alpha male player (who happens to be a bad person) He uses her, cheats on her,mistreats her She gives the guy dozens of chances and he still mistreats her. She finally finds the courage to leave him This process happens 1 or more times until she's fed up. Now as a defense mechanism, she's very skeptical of all men

From what I understand alphas play the field and don't get into relationships, you can't cheat on someone you're not in a relationship with
If she gives him chances that means she's stayed, if she doesn't like the way he treats her then she should leave. <- this is in reference to early on, before the abuser Instills in the mindset of the abused party that he or she can't leave
Then that's down to her for getting involved with asshole men again after the last one
Rather than be sceptical of all men she should alter her dating habits to not select men who aren't good for her

As a result, by these standard, looks and swag matter more than personality and dedication. so, she either get used by jerks (making her angrier at men), or she sleeps with a few nice guys and dumps them (as a way to project when men have given to her).

So she's choosing the same men she's chosen all along, repeating the same cycle and treating good guys badly to get back at the jerks thus eliminating happiness to chase unhappiness

Such women who go through this process are likely damaged in some way so seek out bad partners to be treated how they feel they deserve inside, badly

A deadbeat father impregnates a woman and leaves, so another man will be tasked with the responsibility of raising a family.

And what if the man wasn't ready to be a father, should he be forced into being a parent despite not being given the option to not become a parent after conception like the woman was?

lbspredh · 2016-10-03T06:47:28+00:00

That or just some people have a terrible choice in partners and project it onto the entire gender

YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2016-10-03T07:08:01+00:00

Players (the businesses) provide a wanted/needed product/service to the customer (women). If you look at it as an industry, the environment is created to a lesser extent by the business, the business is created to a greater extent by the environment. The environment being the general propensity of women wanting/needing a good fucking.

[deleted] · 2016-10-03T16:26:26+00:00

And single mothers give birth to the players. Its a never ending cycle that women have to sever.

Title	CMV: Players/abusers ruin womens' lives and good guys are punished for it.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	69
Date	October 2, 2016 7:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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