Would you consider it good advice for a woman to advise another on the risks of investing, heavily financially and emotionally with an alleged former "player" or "pua" type?

[deleted] · 2014-10-08T14:30:01+00:00

Of course! That's female camaraderie 101. Don't let your homegirl anywhere near bozos; no he's not "different" and he doesn't love you for you.

Those_Who_Remain · 2014-10-08T14:43:49+00:00

Yes. Women do this all the time regarding "player" types. There are many cases where the statement "He's a player" is not a compliment. The first time I heard it used negatively was actually in junior high ... this is pretty mainstream.

GridReXX · 2014-10-08T15:40:08+00:00

Our aunts, moms, sisters, best friends, female peers, etc... do this all the time.

In the same way a guy might tell his friend who is head over heels with a promiscuous woman "Hey man, she gets around." or "She's a slut."

Women will tell their friends who are head over heels with a promiscuous man "Hey girl, he's a player." or "I don't know... he gets around."

I.E. proceed with caution. He's not the type you want to "fall in love with." Keep it simple with that one.

Lettuce quote from the book of DMX.

Reverse the genders and it's the same... instead of the "kid ain't yours" it's "he has 7 other baby mamas."

You wack, you're twisted, your girl's a hoe.

You're broke, the kid ain't yours, and e'rybody know.

Your old man say you stupid, you be like,

"So? I love my baby mother, I'll never let her go."

Villaintine · 2014-10-08T19:10:30+00:00

If I could help it, I'd get every woman I know to avoid useless men.

There are some who are on the same spectrum as these guys though, in that they use men because they feel used by men (similar to the reasons why I've seen guys sleep around, as revenge seems to be a common excuse for the promiscuous behaviour in the red pill). Ideally they wouldn't, as they are only perpetuating the cycle. Hurting people because you've felt hurt is an awful mindset to get into.

[deleted] · 2014-10-08T14:22:43+00:00

Considering that that's 75% of what we do at RPW, yes

[deleted] · 2014-10-08T16:03:15+00:00

As a former player, now blue, I personally will warn women about that type, so yes

[deleted] · 2014-10-08T18:41:19+00:00

Yes, naturally.

If I know someone who was a "player" type, I will go out of my way to warn any friend that he's most likely not suitable in terms of a long term relationship. Financial investment would also be a red flag for me.

UsernameThe4th · 2014-10-08T19:14:52+00:00

I don't think people should hate players and sluts- they aren't necessarily bad people, unless they are being deceptive or preying on naivete.

But friends should warn friends if they believe the friend is looking for a relationship- they should be avoided like the plague.

babyguineapig · 2014-10-09T00:47:03+00:00

Good God yes. Men like this are rarely reformed and not worth the risk: have fun with him as long as you use a condom, but don't let him into your life.

[deleted] · 2014-10-08T17:52:20+00:00

That would assume all PUAs are "bad." They're not. Players on the other hand - those guys are asshats.

Honestly, I would say continue as nature intended and go for the high value man - even if it's Stephen Pearcy or Vince Neil. Only becoming a FtM transsexual will discharge you from the matrix of mass women going for only the tiny-ass handful of high value men.

So A) You may as well say gravity doesn't exist. And B) The matrix isn't necessarily as bad as you think it is. And C) There's a 90% chance she'll be hooking up with a good PUA no matter how many warnings are given.

Lucy_Furr · 2014-10-08T21:14:28+00:00

I would advise not to financially invest in a guy in general. As far as emotional investment in these types of guys who advertise it?...I dated a guy who actually was a former player/party-boy, and he heavily talked down that side of his past. He was embarrassed about his behavior.

A guy who really desires a woman is going to try to read her and mimic what she wants. If she thinks of herself as a "good" woman and the guy doesn't play up his "good" man characteristics (and instead tries to act like a player), I'd consider that a red flag.

as far as being a woman actually advising another woman, it strongly depends on our relationship - has she passed my "girl" tests, or do i just not gaf about her, and i typically word myself more carefully with friends who are a few years older than i am.

SirNemesis · 2014-10-08T14:53:42+00:00

Obviously yes.

17b29a · 2014-10-08T15:41:16+00:00

Nah, why?

oxyderces · 2014-10-09T16:29:34+00:00

Of course. It utterly astounds me that TRP can think that male promiscuity is not a problem for most women. What the hell did they think Don Giovanni was about?

wuboo · 2014-10-10T01:46:34+00:00

Hell no. That's awful advice.

We_Are_Legion · 2014-10-08T14:49:21+00:00

Yes.

But I'm sure in the mind of me and every other RPer, we are the only players we would exempt from this rule.

/sarcasm for those who don't get it.

awesomesalsa · 2014-10-08T14:35:49+00:00

Um... yeah.

sh1v · 2014-10-09T03:31:35+00:00

Not sure if blue pillers responding dont realize they're declaring themselves in favor slut shaming with the genders inverted... or dont care

[deleted] · 2014-10-08T15:05:11+00:00

This is a question for bp people.

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