How to make a threesome happen?

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October 1, 2019

This very cute Italian girl just moved into my building. We bumped into each other and chatted a few times, I got her number, took her out, closed the deal. She then goes on to tell me she’s bisexual and in an open lesbian relationship.

If this isn’t a perfect opportunity to have a threesome then I don’t know what is.

However I’m just not too sure how to go about approaching it.

All wisdom welcomed!

Edit: She said her and her girlfriend don’t tell each other about the other people they hook up with

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Title How to make a threesome happen?
Author mcl116
Upvotes 105
Comments 69
Date 01 October 2019 01:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Snowboard18135 points136 points  (2 children) | Copy

Shit I’d probably just ask her, tell her to bring her girlfriend over for wine at your place

[–]Zone_Box17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]KarmicPrism1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Please OP listen to this dude. IT'S THAT SIMPLE. I wanna see you get that threesome on bud. It's right around the corner! ;)

[–]2ComplexProjection116 points117 points  (17 children) | Copy

Threesome are my thing, so I have plenty of feedback. The easiest, surest way to do it is to bring 2 girls you are already sexually active with at your place. Don’t tell them the details, don’t even mention there will be another girl. You want them to come with a mindset of going to yours to fuck. Then some alcohol, escalation and questions like « did you ever kiss another girl? ». Base your approach on the bisexual girl, she will help you.

[–]rockyp3266 points67 points  (10 children) | Copy

As a newbie I’d expect that to backfire I wonder why that is

[–]2ComplexProjection53 points54 points  (9 children) | Copy

Why is that? You are offering plausible deniability, so the girls can say « it just happened ». It’s like regular sex.

[–]rockyp3247 points48 points  (8 children) | Copy

Just idk if you invite two girls over id imagine they’d be very surprised and confused and ask what’s going on

[–]2ComplexProjection47 points48 points  (4 children) | Copy

« What’s going on? » « B was in town so I proposed her to join us. What do you want to drink? » And that’s it. Don’t overthink things

[–]rockyp326 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

And that’s worked for you?

[–]2ComplexProjection29 points30 points  (2 children) | Copy

More than once!

[–]Zone_Box8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

More than twice!

[–]damaged_goods4204 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

A lot

[–]FattiesMakeMeGag25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

If that's the mindset you have, that's the mindset they will have. Same goes with just 1 girl you invite over, if you think it's a big deal that you're inviting her over to yours to have drinks, she will think it's a big deal. This is why girls reject guys when asked to come over from the club. You have act like it's not a big deal and just trying to extend the fun and create good times. I'm in an LTR and there's been countless times where my girlfriend has had a friend come over to have drinks and the girl brings up threesomes, just to gage our thoughts. We don't do threesomes, but it's funny because girls are always down.

[–]mortalcoil13 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

If 2 girls you are having sex with are okay with being over at the same time, they are most likely okay with having a threesome.

Girls aren't stupid. They just don't want to feel used/like sluts. Start off the threesome by making it about them. Massage them both at the same time. That's what Neil Strauss did.

[–]rockyp32-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

That sounds crazy but props dog

[–]mustache_ride_13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

Don’t tell them the details, don’t even mention there will be another girl.

You forgot to emphasize: the point is to create competition between the two.

Bitches get horny when the envy meter goes up.

[–]2ComplexProjection4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

I usually try to create a collaboration mindset. What would be the advantage of your advice?

[–]mustache_ride_5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Ever got laid with one of your ex's friend after you broke up simply because she wanted to piss of your ex? That's the advantage of my advice.

Women's sex-drive is directly linked to their emotionally imbalanced center. Leverage it.

p.s: if you and OP are both Brad Pitt looking motherfuckers then ignore my advice. All you need to do is show up, be pretty and shut up.

[–]2ComplexProjection8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

You didn’t bang the ex and her pissed off friend at the same time, did you? In your example, competition makes sense. But when you want them both together, you need them to like eachother, don’t you?

[–]mustache_ride_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No of course we didn't lol... it was just to illustrate that women's sex drive is more complicated than men's and can be contingent on emotions to a larger degree.

In the original scenario, if OP tried to gamify the experience, especially since it's two actors who don't know each other, that element of competition can work in his favor (I.e "first one to finish her wine gets a mustache ride" and other silly shenanigans).

[–]red_philosopher3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can confirm.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev40 points41 points  (1 child) | Copy

If only there was a sidebar...

Uncle Vasya's Guide To Threesomes

-When It Comes To Head, Two Heads Are Better Than One

[–]z2a1-91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]WolfofAllStreetz7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

(posted this previously in another thread about this, figure this applies mostly)

This is a complicated question because we don't know you or this girl. Girls are a big talk when it comes to this shit (see: bar-sexual) and can your girl handle watching you fuck another female is the real question. Not many girls can.

If you think she is going to be OK with it, and not have a meltdown during the activity if you actually pull this shit off (which is harder than it looks because a lot of girls don't want to be a "third") then press on.

I've had a bunch of threesomes with my girl (MRP guy here) and we actually dated a girl together last year for a few months. My wife is bisexual so it's a little easier on my end but you can still fuck this up.

Best way to accomplish this is having her hunt/lead which is akward for most girls since they have no clue how to game. This is what I learned muddying through these waters. Girls aren't programmed to know how to game men so when you have two girls trying to figure out logistics it's like two monkeys fucking a football. She has to seem like the one who wants it when you are approaching or talking with girls at clubs and bars. Alchohol helps here but not too much since the intended target might bail or get too drunk to actually do anything. You can also go the app route with her making a Tinder profile as a girl, seeking girls but Tinder is now saturated with couples it seems. (see: unicorn hunters). Make sure theres a photo of both of you in there so it's not a bait and switch for anyone interested. Just note you will waste a lot of time on Tinder because most girls match, don't reply or flake on an actual meetup and want to just chat as girls are orbiters hunters by nature. Another option is subtly dropping hints to her friends while you are drinking. Have you girl kino women. It's not hard.

So if you actually make it to the bedroom with two girls whatever the fuck you do you need to focus on your OWN GIRL MOSTLY. Let the other two play with eachother etc. You can fuck this up easily and then the whole thing blows up and now your girl is mad at you and you blew your opportunities for good. Me and my girl never had a problem but I knew what to do before I made it to the game so it helped. We still bang girls together but be forewarned it's hard to go back to normal sex once you open pandoras box.

Vasilly has a good guide on this as well.

[–]warthundersfw12 points13 points  (9 children) | Copy

Ask her if she's ever been in one. If she's interested. She might not do it with her partner, but find another girl. I find girls that are curious about it make the best +1 because they WANT to try it.

[–]2ComplexProjection17 points18 points  (8 children) | Copy

Never take the overt route. You might trigger her « I’m not a slut » defense.

[–]warthundersfw2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah, I was talking about if you're already extremely open and know each other so thats a good point if she's new.

[–]2ComplexProjection6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

The only moment it is okay (but still not the best) to propose a 3s to a girl is when you just had a 3s with her.

[–]warthundersfw0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If you and the girl both know she's a slut it's not a big deal. That kind of Rapport

[–]2ComplexProjection6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am not saying it could never work, just that you

1: take unnecessary risks. At any moment a girl can decide she is not a slut anymore and erase her past from her memory. Then even if you have build this type of relationship, you will still trigger her.

2: are not leading. Don’t ask her what she want, do what you want. Then in the heath of the moment she will choose if she wants in or not, but the odds are in your favor.

[–]Hltchens0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s pretty rare these days.

[–]mcl116[S] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

At what point do you just act like adults that are confident enough in themselves to have an open conversation about things like that?

Like what’s the big fucking deal? We’re both adults.

We had sex, she told me she’s bi and has a girlfriend and I was like okk cool.

I definitely don’t think it’s something to bring up until I’ve built a little more rapport though. Maybe that’s all it will take so she sees I don’t judge her in anyway

[–]2ComplexProjection8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’ve asked for advice, I gave it to you. Do what you want. But going the « adult » way with women will often push you in the wrong direction.

[–]warthundersfw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you’re asking you should follow his advice

[–]silent_dominant15 points16 points  (4 children) | Copy

Pay 2 hookers

[–]Calebrox1245 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

You like Huey Lewis and the News?

[–]Zero-Milk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do you like Phil Collins?

[–]mustache_ride_3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Smartest man ITT.

[–]sakis_ikr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

We have a winner here!

[–]MotiMorphosys2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

I've never had a threesome but I've had the framework laid out a few times.

I'm super curious and plan to try ComplexProjection's recommendation. I have thoughts on why it won't work but I've never tried it so I can't say shit.

I have had multiple girls literally tell me that they are open to a threesome as long as the other girl is someone that they don't know and they meet the other girl for drinks or something and aren't weirded-out. every time I have pushed this further, I have showed pictures of the other girl to one of the girls when I'm with her and I have never had both girls beforehand see the other girl and agree to meet. But I would imagine that's how it goes for most people.

But I've never done it. That's all I got.

[–]2ComplexProjection9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy

Don’t follow the girl’s framework. The more you talk about, the more you build tension and increase the chance if triggering her ASD.

You should not care if they find eachother attractive. You are the attraction center.

Act, don’t talk! And let us know how it went.

[–]MotiMorphosys3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

I shall.

My trouble is that my lifestyle has some pretty strong beta signals. I own my own home in a more up-scale neighborhood. I can't tell you how many times a girl has been DTF but then we get to my house:

"Wait, you live here alone?"

Me: "yup, just me and my princess" (dog)

It's like a fucking switch gets flipped. She suddenly tries to bullshit me with the "I'm not a sex on the first date kind of girl". It's gotten to the point where I call them out on it sometimes. I'm usually able to overcome it.. one time I nexted her and we were in my garage walking to my car before she stopped me and was like "wait let's talk some more".

Most of the threesome talk happens before they come home with me.

But I'm totally giving this a go. I'd love to be wrong. I'll make a post about it when it happens.

[–]party_dragon1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Wait, you live here alone?"

No, I'm just crashing at my friend's place while he's on a business trip.

[–]2ComplexProjection0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s the right answer. « I picked the lock and squat here until the owners come back. »

[–]moltenw1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Funny you say that.

I literally wrote a post on here like 4 months ago on the topic, where my theory was essentially :

"Women act differently for different guys"

Example :

You are a hot dude at a bar - fun, charismatic etc, but you are giving off the vibe of "I'm the fun bad boy". If you get back to your place and you are broke etc, It won't matter for her. After all, she's just having fun - she doesn't need to marry you or anything, so she can freely let her sexual side come out for the "bad boy alpha".

Now, what about the same situation, where your game is just as good as the first guy, except you also live in a good house, have everything going for you etc. The girl might want to do the same sexual things with you as with the first guy, but now she'll likely repress them in order not to come off as a slut, because she actually cares about your commitment and the potential of having you as a partner and not just a fun sex toy.

Either way, the fact of the matter is - none of this matters much (only perhaps for testing how good your game truly is when you're stripped from all the fancy cars, clothes etc). As long as you are getting what you want out of them, then you shouldn't care how they view you. If you aren't, then find other bitches.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I have had multiple girls literally tell me that they are open to a threesome as long as the other girl is someone that they don't know and they meet the other girl for drinks or something and aren't weirded-out.

If you're in a LTR with the girl, she'll say "I'm totally into a threesome", but as soon as you try and progress it the conditions will come out:

  • Can't be cuter than me
  • Can't be less cute than me
  • Can't be someone you know
  • Has to be someone I know
  • You can't have met her before
  • You can't meet her again after

And it all ends up with a magical set of circumstances that will just never happen.

If you want a threesome, you have to do it with girls who are genuinely down with it.

[–]MotiMorphosys0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah that seems to be the rules for girls I'm not in an LTR with so I can only imagine. Glad I have no interest in an LTR

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

She then goes on to tell me she’s bisexual and in an open lesbian relationship.

She would not have brought that up for no reason. So she's thinking what you're thinking.

Next time you arrange to take her out, express some interest in meeting her girlfriend. Get the two of them together with you in the same room. Involve alcohol. Run game.

Shouldn't be too hard.

[–]mcl116[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

She said her and her gf don’t talk about the other people they hook up with so not sure that’s the route I can go

[–]Self-honest1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Try it. Gotta be willing to lose girl #1.

[–]ogkushinjapan0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Depending on ur dick game u can always fuck girl 1 first. Then invite girl 2 next time. Happened to me in my last 3some with a tinder bisexual with open ltr.

[–]mcl116[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Already fucked girl 1 and fucked her good

[–]ogkushinjapan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shouldn’t be hard then. Especially if u can get her to break the ice to the other chick then ur gold bud

[–]Kn311 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's the same as core rp approach. You make her think it's her idea. Every time I suggest it, it's a no. When I get the girl to say she wants it. it has happened. You're in a goooood spot Bc she seems down. Ime they always had that "friend"

[–]throaway694041 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Get your best mates to agree to it with your wife

[–]Intentional691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's not a 3some, that's a Train.

[–]kheitba0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Invite me over

[–]Sendmeloveletters0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take her out and ask her which girls she thinks are cute and tell her it would be fun to pick up a chick together.

[–]Sendmeloveletters0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“Dual Induction Massage” as one of my friends will always say

[–]WestCoastSaint0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Google "dual induction massage routine"

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do you know what the other chick looks like? She might be a rugged butch. You better get some pictures of her first lol

[–]PolesWithGoals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Niiiiiiiiiice plate, proceed

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I do it it works

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She then goes on to tell me she’s bisexual and in an open lesbian relationship.


Edit: She said her and her girlfriend don’t tell each other about the other people they hook up with

Have you met the other girl?

No matter. Have fun with this girl, fuck her casually. After sex casually ask if she'd like to meet other girls you know.

Or... ask if she wants to go hunting with you sometime.

Whatever you do, don't try and get into her existing relationship. It should be you bringing the value, not trying to leech off hers.

[–]besurks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Invite her over with her girlfriend or another girl. Mix alcohol together and make sure they’re both having a good time. And then the threesome is easily secured. Source: I’ve had a couple of threesomes. This is what I’ve done

[–]Kabuki4310 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

3sum are over rated. Its good to get it out of way

[–]sebastianconcept-5 points-4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Have great sex with her first. Once you’re comfortable talking dirty make her horny and do the inception of the idea. Maybe asking her if she can imagine her and her friend using you as their toy.

[–]2ComplexProjection6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe asking her if she can imagine her and her friend using you as their toy.

So leading, so dominant, wow.

[–]sebastianconcept-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

OMG dude of course it is... let them fucking imagine whatever gets them wet. Of course you are dominating, even when you allow them to seem dominating. Then, when happens, the taps, slaps, bondages, deep throat fucks that let them with dick tears will show who is really the boss.

Jesus... why you interpreted that as coming from a beta? Read My Secret Garden and you’ll know what a woman can imagine as an alpha toy

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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